Is Your Wedding Ring a Symbol of Love or....
By winterose
@winterose (39887)
Canada
April 17, 2007 4:57pm CST
My grandmother had a friend for years, they had been friends for over 40 years when Lilly, the Friend, revealed to Doris, my grandmother, that for the 19 years of her marriage she was wearing a fake wedding ring.
Lilly and Bill never had much money, they were both teenagers when they married and poor. Bill could not afford a wedding ring so he gave her one out of a crackerjacks box, yes very cheap and silly looking but it was his love that counted to Lilly.
Ten years later he was able to replace the ring with a zirconia
And now for her 20th wedding anniversary she was finally going to get a real diamond.
She didn't care, the love and the symbol of the ring was all she ever wanted though she was happy for the anniversary gift.
ON the other hand I knew a couple who were about to get married and the man lost his job,
He could not get the girl the 15,000 dollar ring she wanted. He could only afford 5,000 at the time.
She called off the wedding, she said if he couldn't give her the ring she wanted, then she didn't want or need him,
Tell me how important is that wedding ring to you?
Would still marry your love if he could not afford to give you one?
best answer requires a story about your decision and why.
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16 responses
@foogirl (87)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Yes, I still would have married my husband despite being able to buy a ring. The ring is a symbol for your marriage, yes, but it's also in your heart, and in the promise you make. I have a beautiful ring...it was less than $2,000 and it's just right. My step daughter picked it out for me and right after I got pregnant 3 years after we got married...I lost it. I was so upset and miserable!! My husband offerred to buy me a new one, and had wanted to buy me a bigger one anyway...but I just couldn't wear another ring!! My step daughter picked that out, and that's the one that was blessed in the church the day of our wedding!! How could that be replaced.
Well, about 6 months later my husband rented a metal detector and went out to my parents yard where I'd last been wearing my ring...and 5 minutes later...he found it!! That's been 4 years ago, and I still have the same ring and don't think I'll ever want another.
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@qiuxiao911 (2)
• China
18 Apr 07
In my opinion,it is not important to hao a ring when married.The women call off the
wedding because she could not get the ring of 15000 dollars,she is follish.Maybe she have not love her ever.The ring is only a symbol,it doesnot anything at all.what you married is the people you love ,not the ring.That is important,everyone should know it.
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@luintaurien (972)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I knew when I got married that I would never be rich unless I became famous or we had some miracle happen. My husband works for his father as a carpenter and I work in a group home for troubled boys. I would still marry him even if he couldn't affrod a ring at all. The ring is a symbol of our love yes, but it is not so important that I would not get married if I didn't have it or if I didn't get the exact one I wanted. I think love is more important to me than the object that is supposed to represent the love.
@princeworthy (1909)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I can't believe that the woman would call off a weddding over a ring! I would love to have a $5,000 ring! When I got married it was with a cubic zircona. I have had several different rings since then, all diamonds, but small diamonds. To me it is not the ring that matters at all. I love jewelry but if my hubby can't afford what I want then oh well for me. I would love him even if he couldn't afford a ring at all.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
17 Apr 07
Wedding ring in India is never considered as an indication for marriage. So it doesn't matter if they give the wedding ring or not. No Ornament is considered as an indication for marriage in India.
However, no single ornament serves the purpose of indicating marital status in India, as does the wedding ring in the west. Rather, regional patterns vary and marriage ornaments can be worn on the head, nose, neck, wrist, toes and combinations of these.
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@khoskins (20)
• United States
18 Apr 07
I don't think an expensive ring is nessary to get married. When I got married, we couldnt afford a ring. Just until we could afford something better we went a bought a ring from the mall for $20. Sense then we have been able to replace it with something better.. but to be honest I dont wear my ring all the time. I take it off at night when I go to sleep and when I am doing messy stuff. I dont think a ring could ever show how much you love someone or how you truly feel. I know that I am truely in love with him and I dont need a ring to prove that to anyone. I think that it was wrong for that woman to call off the weddng just because he couldnt afford to but her a $15,000 ring. to me that seems a little selfish. i know that my husband loves me with all of his heart and soul. He would do and still does everything he can to make me happy. I would marry him all over again even with out a ring. It is the feelings inside that count.
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@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
18 Apr 07
My wedding ring is made of white and yellow gold, and zirconias. And please..don't tell me it's fake, cuz any ring can be "fake". What my ring represents to me is very real, and its symbol also. It doesn't mean that when you have a 15 000$ diamond ring, it's a real one. Yes, it's a real diamond, but is it a real symbol? My zirconia can be worth so much more than the most expensive and unique diamond in the world. I just haaaate it when women say "oh, if you don't get me a diamond ring i don't want it" or stupidies like that. Being a man, i'd dump a girl who'd tell me this! I mean, she loves him or his credit cards and wallet? My husband kind of felt bad that he couldn't afford a diamond ring for me, but i told him, i don't care about the ring. He could've even bought me a 10$ ring at Walmart, it would've meant the same to me. True love is about feelings people, not money!
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
18 Apr 07
When we decided to get married in 1970, we were 20 years old, had school loans to repay and we both worked at Denny's. We went to k-mart and bought a diamond ring for $100 and paid it out with lay-away. I got a better diamond ring for my 10th anniversary, but when hard times hit, I pawned it for not much money. Years passed and ups and downs in our marraige came and went and as we came to our 25th anniversary, we were very close. We decided to renew our vows and we bought new rings...the two rings were I think, stainless steel bands with a cut-out cross design in them. They both cost less than $100 total, but meant a lot to us. They symbolized our new and renewed faith in God, our renewed vows and the longevity of our marraige. That 3rd ring was the least expensive and most important to me.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
18 Apr 07
Hi Winterose. I think a wedding ring should be a symbol of love, I personally think a plain gold band is just fine. I think it is a bit short of ridiculous for some one to buy a ring and be in debt for the next few years. That is why I gave my son my set. Young couples have enough problems why go into a big debt for a ring. A huge diamond ring doesn't get the respect from me that a 50 year old wedding ring that is just about worn through will.
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@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
i like your discussion... it roots to the heart :)
my wedding ring is a symbol not only of my husban's love for me but for my friends' love for us too.
our first wedding was a very simple one. we don't have enough money for an extravagant wedding, we can not even afford to buy gold rings for the event so we thought of just wearing again our silver rings which husband gave to me days after he proposed. i opened this up to my friends and said they'd buy a set for us and it will be their gift for us (since they were the only ones who knew that we were getting married). they gave us a simple set which i really loved. on our 2nd wedding, were we were more prepared and has enough budget already, we still chose to wear our first rings. we have felt that we are incomplete if we will be using another set. and besides these rings were more than symbol of love for us but for friendship as well.
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@little_angel (2458)
• Australia
18 Apr 07
Wedding ring is a special ring for me, its not the price but about the person who gave it to you.
Wedding ring is a symbol of love, love from 2 people so its very very special.
On your second case, the man is so lucky if the girl don't want married him because he couldn't buy the ring she want.The girl didn't love him, just want the ring not the love.So leave that girl just ignore her.
I wish i can wear my wedding ring soon.
@yumengchi (17)
• China
18 Apr 07
what i want is a real lover,
not a ring or other symbol like that.
since i even do not have a bf,
i think i couldnot have a wonderful story about this.
however
true love is the most important, i think
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@ladylapulapu (81)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
i have a friend they married for about 7 years .. in there first and 4 years of marriage they role as couple doin great they blessed 3 siblings one boy and a 2 girl ... my friend husband change a lot when he work overseas everytime he visited my friend here he was so cold to my friend but hes responsibilites as a father to their siblings was still there he still supporting their child in all their needs... suddenly my friend check his luggage and found out some pictures of a girl with their husband .. she ignored it and never confront him..... till now they not still in good terms.. i didnt interferre my friend life but im so pitiful to my friend life i told her to divorce his husband but she refuse . she till thinkin their child and there family.... for me
ring is not really important is just a symbol of love but the most important thing is your love to each other till the end..
@qiuxiao911 (2)
• China
18 Apr 07
In my opinion,it is not important to hao a ring when married.The women call off the
wedding because she could not get the ring of 15000 dollars,she is follish.Maybe she have not love her ever.The ring is only a symbol,it doesnot anything at all.what you married is the people you love ,not the ring.That is important,everyone should know it.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
17 Apr 07
I would like to see ring on my finger and his as a symbol of our union. I don't really care what it's made of, I am only one of very few people who is lucky enough to find my soulmate and marry him, that's all I need to know.
I, my parents and my husband paid for the wedding and documentation (because I am married to a foreigner so there is some documentation I have to fill out and pay). His mother is too old so she couldn't help funding the wedding. I don't want my parents to pay for my share of wedding expenses because at the time my dad was ill, so I put in as much money as I could from my own savings. We are both not rich so I don't expect a spoiled-rich-kid's wedding at all.
@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
18 Apr 07
I never wanted a large diamond or an exspensive wedding ring as I do not believe in spending all that money. You marry for love not money or things...
My husband bought me a set which was cheaper than buying two separate rings.
I think he payed less than $1000 for my engagement and wedding band together. Each has three smalldiamonds set in 10k gold and everyone raves about the set! He also gave me a heart shaped ring with a tiny diamond in the middle before we were married but I would be happy with a plain band and one small diamond in the engagement.
It is his love and his heart that matters to me.
I look at my rings as a symbol of our love and promises to each other to be together forever!
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