How would you handle this?

Freedom, privacy, these words are more important to society, if u could control them with out provocation it will be nice. Some are born for adversity

First find out if he is ok mentaly. what ever the case is should b handle in love gesture. do not make the whole thing appear larger than necesary. Just pretend not to take it into consideration but b cautious until u get to the root of the matter.

I would not even approach the subject as to me he has a Phantasie and obviously ony wrote it down and no intentions of ever sending it to the Girl A lot of Teenagers have Phantasie so I would just leave it at that Also if you do anything at all he will be upset because you have invaded his Privacy

I definately would bring this to the attention of this girls parents (that way they won't be surprised when she ends up pregnant!) and also remind my son about birth control and the choices he makes. I would say that I would try to deter my son from seeing this girl ~ but that probably could end up in a worse situation....keeping a close eye on him would be my best bet I would say.

By minding your own business. Everyone can fantasize, it doesnt mean they'll do it and then if they do - how do you intend to stop them? They'll find a way. I had a similar situation with my nephew and his older girlfriend. My brother gave the note back to his son without comment and the boy got the hint.

I would confront my son and forbid him to date that girl. Maybe your parents should take more interest in the boys affairs. What does he watch on TV? What DVDs does he watch? Do they know his girlfriend?

well first of all,it wasn't your mothers place to read that letter.but i think it's probably best to talk to him about it

well i feel that they have a right to express his/her own fanatsy, let them be how they like to be, we give birth to them, but they are not ours, and their thoughts and minds are not ours, most of the time they are just words or expressions, its the ones who are quiet who end up doing worse things then those who are forward.

if it happen to my boy? then i will surely ask my boy if they have done already what have been written on the paper..and if its true i will surely advice him to be careful in having intimate relations which will result to unwanted pregnancy..

The best thing to do I think is to talk to the son first and then bring the letter to the girl's parents. You'll never know, what if the girl denies it, at least you have proof.

I am so worried with the Modern Era nowadays because I notice that it has affected so much to the teenagers. My guy cousin did the same thing before to his girl friend (not Girlfriend)... I do not know what the other members of the family did, but what I did was I brought him to our favorite spot to play and hang-out with when we were kids.. we fooled around first then we ended up having a serious talk about the situation.. he did gave his side and he did talk and we had a heart to heart conversation and eventually we were able to fix his manner. I hope it will work with your brother too. just try...

I should confront him about this but in a nice way..i'll remind him of all the consequences that he might be ending up with. in that way he will not be too rebellious.

seems sextual education is a must here for both the girl and ur bro; take both of them seperately and make then understand the consequences; make them afraid do not try to teach things' as teaching things they try to make it practical; but if u make them fear the consequences they will not dare to do it

Try to talk with your brother first, and see what will happen. then talk to the girl about that. its been difficult when you talk to teenager who are falling in love each other. but try to talk to him first

It may just be "talk" between the 2 if not..if its going to happen its going to happen.. I would make sure he knows all about protection and why and leave it at that. If you force the issue he might do it to spite. But he is 16 so best thing to do is make sure he knows about protection and respect.

Hi I can see how this would make you feel. He is your little brother and you have never looked at him like this before. Also it is a shock for your mother since she was not expecting this note to be on the bed. You are asking for advice but, I cannot give you advice you have to do what you need to do. What is right for you and your mum. Your mum has confided in you which is good because it shows she trusts you. At the moment your mum will be feeling all sorts of things probably first most will be the anger she feels this comes with shock. You need to be there with your mum as she knows she can trust talking to you and looks at you as someone who is there for her. Also it is difficult for you because this is your brother and your little brother who you had no idea had these feelings or was sexually active. This is a difficult time for you. Also you do not mention whether there is a father involved also if not your mum is probably much closer to you and looks at you as a friend as well as a daughter. However, if there is no father you probably also feel much closer to your brother which makes it even more difficult for you. The only advice I can give you is to do what you feel is right. If you feel it is right to talk to your brother then you could do this. However I would talk to your mum before you make any decision on what to do. This needs to be a decision you both make.

this is a really sensitive situation which should be taken care of in a sensitive way.mind you yo can never understand the mind of a teenager and what extenst he may go to if he is provoked.it is a totally new world out there and it is really weird too.i think it would be right to call the parents of the girl and talk about it.the best way is not for them to know that you got the note and try speaking some sense into the boys mind indirectly.this is a really complex situation and it needs to be handled with utmost care.

Oh, god, I dread finding something like tha, but I have noo doubt such a day will come. I only hope I don't see it and they are closer or already over 18. How I would proceed would be totally dependent on the two kids involved, and stauatory rape law in my area. I would want to make sure my son was protected.

i would call the parents and get every one together and have a sit down

WOW... wish I had gotten notes like this when I was 16...lol...that being said, I am a parent, and honestly, I remember being that age with hormones flowing....I'd not make too big of a deal as it would likely embarrass the poor boy. I would however have a private talk with him about the responsibilities involved with becoming sexually active. Maybe even buy a box of codoms beforhand and give them to him during the talk. You're not going to stop him, so you might as well see to it that he's protected.