reasons for abortions

I completely feel the same way, that that was being selfish. As far as abortion goes, I am riding the fence on this subjeect because I do feel it is a womans right to make that choice, but at the same time it is not right to abort becuse you and the father split. That wouldn't hurt anyone but herself. I had a friend that was really selfish and had 3 abortions in one year and it made me cry eveytime she told me because at that time I was dealing with fertility issues and it was hard for me to conceive a child. At that time she had the nerve to come and try to console me and said that I will be blessed with a child soon. Man....I was biting down on my tongue so hard because I had a few choice words for her but I kept it together.

In answer to your discussion, let me tell you a story about a friend of mine, too. We were halfway through college when she got pregnant with her boyfriend then who was very willing to marry her anytime. They both love each other and as far as I know they had their families' blessings already. My friend still had her baby aborted... Her reason? It will be very selfish of her to keep the baby because she knew for a fact that she cannot handle such a responsibility at that time and quite pretty sure then that she would just end up neglecting the baby. And the baby would just grew up bitter, angry and hurt and she would not even care. My friend is the sweetest person I am fortunate to have met in college. She said if she will have a baby, it will be at the right time...when she wanted to and when she is prepared. And by then, she is very confident that she will be the best mother in the whole world.. and she is now. My point is,who are we to judge anyone? It is easy to say things that are morally right because we are not in the situation. The way I see it, we have to take into consideration also certain issues that the person involved may be facing. I do not condone what my friend has done but I understand her reasons. We can always tell them what is right but it is proper also that we do not impose our beliefs on anyone. My belief? Help them weigh the pros and cons of the situation. Let them decide. if you care, just be there for them. One week before her abortion, I just made sure my friend was in perfect condition before the procedure.

In a case like that yes I think it is extremely selfish. There are a lot of people out there that can't have children who would love to adopt a baby. My oldest daughter and I have had this discussion on abortion. She thinks it should be completely illegal. Unfortuantly this is one of those things where if it is ok in certian circumstances, it has to be allowed in all. I got preg when my oldest was 2 1/2. I couldn't take care of another child, I didn't have the money or the stablity to care for another. My mother wanted me to have an abortion so the rest of the family wouldn't know that I had gotten preg again. I refused to do that instead I called a lawyers office and decided the best course of action would be to put the baby up for adoption. It was a partially open adoption, my son's parents were in the dilevery room while I was in labor. I had to have an emergancy c-section and the adoptive mother was in the room with me. They had been trying for 16 years to have a baby and couldn't. I get pictures once a year and he is a very happy healthy 12 year old now. I wouldn't change my decision for the world. I still miss him every day and I cry on his birthday, but I know in my heart i did what was best for him, and gave him a chance to live a happy life.

I don't think that is a very good reason to abort the baby. What did that baby ever do to her to make her want to take a life. If she doesn't want the baby she could always give it up for adoption there are so many people in this world trying to have babies and she wants to kill one. Sad