i have over 430 friends .what do do with them i ask lol?
By yanjiaren
@yanjiaren (9031)
April 19, 2007 10:43am CST
i HAVE OVER 430 FRIENDS ON MY MYLOT FRIENDS LIST. I cannot respond to their discussions daily and most of them don't respond to mine anyway. So I have decided NOT to delete them because most have reuested my friendship and even if they don't do anything for me or reciprocate in kind I feel they all might need a helping hand from me in some way or another. Anyway this is what I have decided to do lol.
I am going to work my way through the friend's list from the backside of the list..i.e start from page 20 and go through one of their discussions until I reach page 1. My regular friends that do respond to my discussions I will respond at a faster ratio as it is only fair they recieve the attention they deserve. I am going to try to reply to a few niewbies daily and tackle 0 responses if not every day at least once a week consciously search for them. I will do my best to make at least 50 posts a day as I have a lot of committments in helping my sister here with all the children, she has four of them , bless her. On top of that I am now setting myself up as an Investment Broker so I am working on that also as we speak. There is a lot going on but I love Mylot and I won't trash my friends, even the non acting ones..at the end of the day, they respond, don't respond we still benefit if WE RESPOND. Of course the ones that support me morally are close to my heart and I have forged some close alliances lol and they are priceless. But Mylot I love you and Mylotters I love you all, even if we can all annoy each other at times lol. I do not like certain actions, like spamming and posting links every day. I know we all kinda want to advertise a bit but we shouldn't take the piss out of the Mylot System, excuse my french lol.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
19 Apr 07
Kill them. Think of a way to murder them all. Just leave me alone.
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@yanjiaren (9031)
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19 Apr 07
ooooh you are in pissy mode lol..cheer up and let me see your teeth!! smile..
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
20 Apr 07
* wizzy bares his fangs *
Oh well. I have not perked up entirely and to make matters worse, I have just been knocked unconscious by barbie's generosity. *hush hush* *can't tell*
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@maucute (979)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
I really have not notice how many friends I have now.. sorry.. *sigh* I have been quite busy with things lately since after holy week that's why I can't post as many as I wanted to.. :( Wow you're really a great person as well as a friend, you really tried your best to do all those things.. No need for apologies.. hehe you said it very well.. a thumbs up to you.. :)
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@josephperera (2906)
• Sri Lanka
20 Apr 07
Freinds are friends whether they respond or not. But I would like if we can list "zero discussions my friends started" seperately. Sometimes I go to the last page of freinds to see if there are discussions with no responses. Sometimes I find it very easy to keep responding to the same person as you sort of get used to his/her mode of discussion and can respond faster.
@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
24 Apr 07
Mine is less than 100. But yes, I also have the same question. What to do with such a list? Can I talk to them or what? I don't know.
@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
Wow that must be a very big bunch of friends you have.You must be a very good person and I am happy having you as one of my friends here in myLot.I am happy also knowing that you are an investment broker already.Keep up the good work my friend.God Bless!
@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
20 Apr 07
..I go through them every so often and do delete (don't care for that word tho!) the ones who haven't logged on for two months or longer..
It's hard to keep up with all the friends.. I try to get onto my "friends" page and work my way through.. but I get sidetracked with discussions I'm interested in:)) and ongoing debates I'm into.. but I've now set up my favorites with a direct link to "friends" which might help, as then I bypass the mylot lists on "home" for awhile..
@xbrendax (2662)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I think you are doing right by your friends, but I did not because to me it was getting too overwelming. I ended up with lots and lots of friends and they were taking up all my time so I had to delete them all. I hated to do that but I had no other choice.
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
20 Apr 07
You certainly do have many friends in your list and no doubt it is very difficult to respond to all of their discussions. I do not have as many as you but it is hard to keep up with all the discussions of my friends as well and reply to the topics that interest me or that I can give a good response to. Having the notifications is a big help so I can see what topics my friends are creating.
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@GardenGerty (160488)
• United States
20 Apr 07
I guess what I would say is that you do the best you can. From the sounds of things, you are doing so. I do not just delete friends willy nilly, only if I catch them doing really mean things, or acting in otherwise unfriendly manners. I do not see my face to face daily or sometimes not even for months, why should it be different on myLot. I do not count my friends, but I do not think I have as many as you. Good luck in your endeavors, you are certainly a creative person.
@brendalee (6082)
• United States
20 Apr 07
This is the second discussion that I know I answered and now my response is gone. Boy that makes me mad. And now I forgot what I said the first time.lol. I know I told you that I had 196 friends and I had a hard time keeping up with them. I don't know how you keep up with the amount you have. Wow, over 430, thats great. I do try to keep up with mine but sometimes it is hard especially if we don't have many things in common and sometimes I just don't know what to say. But it doesn't really bother me if my friends can't respond to everything I write. I understand that many of them can't and thats okay with me. I will never delete anyone unless they really make me angry and that does take a lot to get me angry.
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@vicky19810 (1600)
• China
20 Apr 07
hi friend,you have a lot of friends on mylot.it is great.but i think that you can add more friends in future,as it does not matter for response yours,or others.you can keep doing it soon.
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@mypeace (393)
• Nigeria
20 Apr 07
I have recently turned on all my friends notify button, so that l can respond from my email box, this way, it has given me the maximum opportunity to easily locate and respond to my friends discussions. ln doing this however, l would be consistent, but would see how my friends reciprocate my kind gesture, with this, l would know who among my friends, i would give priority to and the ones to leave behind.
l believe friends are there to help one another, but its just unfortunate that most of us dont do this.
Cheers
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@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Yeah - that is a lot. with 430 friends, I'd say "LET'S HAVE A PARTY!!!" but it'd be awfully expensive when the catering bill comes in. It's the same thing with time in that you'd spend a lot more of that than you have trying to keep up with all their discussions, unless many of them don't start many discussions (like me). I can only imagine the poor email server struggling if you have EVERYONE set to notify on.
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@creativedreamweaver (7297)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Great post my friend. I can empathize with you. I have over 250 friends on my list. It is really hard to keep up with all their discussions. I do try my best, but sometimes, it is just overwhelming. I like your idea about going back and choosing one at a time, but I know I have already replied to many of the discussions, I don't want to repeat. I won't delete or trash any of my friends either. I value each of them in their own unique way. They are all individuals and I respect their opinions. Bless you.
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@Jennifer21 (2476)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Well, you have a very good ajenda worked out for yourself. I should think that you will be very busy. I always go to 'my friends discussions' and it always takes me to the same old ones. What you have an idea of is going to all of your friends quesions and just picking one from each friend. It is a very good idea and from now on I will do that. Thanks for the good advice.
I agree, the friends are a good part of mylot, but I do love spending my free time on here because I love posting and responding. And I agree, I do not like the spammers, just the other day I had someone post a joke on my discussion about a serious quesion. I do not mind the links though, some of them are pretty cool.
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@xiaodongpan19831110 (67)
• China
20 Apr 07
I have no such a big amount as you, but i have up to 200 friends in my OICQ, although lots of people here, some guy always not on-line, about 1o percents on line, buti can just identify 5 percents of them, for lots of people add me, then say nothing. So i will clear them out of the list periodically. I don't know it good or not, but i know i am not making differents if you just keep silent.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
20 Apr 07
Ah yanjiaren , we all do what we can. And I don't expect any more that that :)
It's very difficult to be able to respond to all discussions from so many friends. DId I say difficult? I meant impossible :)
I think the idea is to make an effort to answer our friends discussions but realize that it's not always possible.
Also not all discussions are discussions that we have anything special to answer. Or sometimes the discussion is about something we don't really want to add any input.
SO don't sweet it my friend:):)
@sir_talk_alot (340)
• United States
20 Apr 07
OMG, that's a lot of friends you have there. I only have about 25 friends on my list and they seem to have responded to some of the discussion that I've posted. I also try to respond to all the people who reply to the discussion that I started, but it seems that the more I respond the more, people reply. Its a never-ending cycle of respond and reply. But seeing that you have over 430 friends on your list, I just don't see how you could spend all that time responding to everyone. And to add to this list of friends who may respond, there will also be numerous other people who are not on your list that will respond to your discussions.
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