What would you do if your bf/gf was a jerk?

I would tell her to leave while she can.I have been in a relationship like this before.He even got help and it never changed.He got worse and more abusive.Why does she want someone abusive?I found that my reason was that I wanted him to accept me and respect me.I stuck around like a fool just trying to get his approval.For him to just like me.In the long run if he is doing this to her now and she is letting him get away with it.It will probaly get worse.I hope it doesn't.I was almost killed by this man.My mom and my son were almost killed by him.You know what they say.You can't always get what you want?I think this is what she is trying to do.Wantig something she can't have.I hope I am wrong.Please let her read this.I will add you as a friend just in case she would like to contact me.

The exact same thing is going on with my youngest, Her fiance goes from being the nicest guy around to kicking the dog, and punching holes in walls and literally destroying any of her posessions. And she puts up with it. Believe me, she wasn't raised to think this kind of behavour is normal nor should it be accepted

If I really love him then I'll try to change him up and try to find what is happening around!! And will try to change him. Can do almost every thing to help him !! But If I don't I would have thrashed him out of my life and with a heart tearing insult to him after all he owes it all!! But to bear such freak boyfriend is a real stupid thing that can be done with your life ever!! But getting out of relationship will be first priority !!can say about 70% chances that I'll step out.

Any normal and sensible individual will dump that guy in a minute. But then you know how people in love get blinded and impaired too much that they refuse to accept that they are already being mistreated by the one who is supposed to love and protect them. I think no amount of convincing will make your friend accept that, unless she wakes up one day and realize that she's been foolish all along. Only she can resolve the situation. If she goes on with the relationship and eventually marries the guy, things could get worse. Now he's verbally abusing her, then what's next? He loves this guy too much to just accept all the emotional pain being inflicted upon her. Just let her take her time and pray for your friend that she eventually finds the strength and courage to end that relationship.

Oh wow, that's not good! Nobody deserves to be treated that way! I would definitely leave him. I know someone who was in a similar situation, but she took him back because he went and got anger management and counseling and everything and was really serious about making things better because he really loved her and didn't want to lose her. He actually did get past those issues and they've been happily married for quite awhile now, so it is possible I guess, but probably rare. I think that's the only way I would stay with someone like that. I hope that your friend doesn't keep letting him treat her that way! It makes me so sad seeing stuff like that. :(

I would leave him. First because of the cheating, second the name calling-if someone loves you they don't call you names like that, and the stress thing-people get stressed all the time and manage to not hurt loved ones.

Well it is very simple, I would just LEAVE. I would get out of this kind of relationship right away. I know I would never put up with anyone who called me a bi*ch. I would not take the accusations and I would not put up with the threating to always leave me. I would just leave him high and dry. Just tell her to leave him high and dry, that she doesn't appreciate the way he treats her and that she isn't going to take it anymore. If he don't like it, who cares, he's going to have to deal now isn't he?

Tell her to leave while she can. I've been down that road with my ex hubby. Its not a pretty one. She's not married to him so tell her to get out as fast as she can. Go somewhere she is safe that he doesn't know and get on with her life.

why is she sticking with that kind of guy? i guess, it's up to her. It's all her decision.

just give him or her advice that being a jerk its not good.

i am with you, i would dump the guy right away if i were her. i would never accept a guy putting me down, much less calling me swear words. i also would never accept a guy who has cheated on me. as far as what you should tell her, there isnt anything you can tell her. i know from seeing it first hand. i have seen people in bad relationships, and no matter how obvious it is to that person and everyone else around them, that person isnt going to leave until he or she is good and ready. the person isnt going to really leave until they know they have hit rock bottom. other than that, the person might leave, but will be very ready to take the bad partner back. i have seen that you can talk until your all out of things to say, but that person still wont leave. it wont happen until her heart finally is ready to let go. i wish her luck to get out of that bad relationship.

These type of men don't just change unless they want to. And they don't usually want to. If this is how he is going to respond to stress of work etc, imagine if the real poop hit the fan. He would be so gone and I have done it. Now then, you cannot do anything for your friend but give her your advice because she herself won't get rid of him until she sees him for what he is. Maybe just tell her you have to take a step back from her because you cannot stand to see her hurt all time. It may hurt her but it is best for both of you in the long run.

LEAVE HIM, tell her to leave him as soon as possible, he will never change believe me. a friend of mine have a same situation, and her bf was never change, but now she can leave hem alone. Your friend will be suffer for the rest of her life.

from the sounds of it (not too be rude) but he sounds like he may become abusive if the right things go wrong. If he goes from sweet to psycho it is a bad thing... you may want to talk to your friend

gosh. and she believes things will change for the better soon? when now seems too much for her to handle? maybe she thinks of his boyfriend as his security blanket. she hasn't seen her self-worth yet. unless she finally gets to love herself, she will realize how bad the relationship she is in is. she should realize that she isn't in a healthy relationship with him. the kind of relationship they have isn't worth fighting for. one day, she'll know that he's not the right man for her. just be there for your friend. she needs someone to rely onto like you. happy myLotting!

Your friend needs to examine her self respect. If she love herself and still value herself as an individual who is worth of all the respect in this world, she should leave that guy while she still can. She is abused, she may not see it because she is not physically abused, but she is actually an abused woman, emotionally and morally. Tell her not to let that guy take away her worth as a person. Most of all not to let that guy make her feel like she is a bad person because if she will continue to be with this guy she might believe one day that she is really the person her boyfriend is calling her (cheater, B and the others). Meanwhile stay on her side and do what you can to open her eyes from this foolish love if that's really love that she is feeling.

You can talk to your friend until you're blue in the face. If she loves this guy, it won't make a bit of difference. As for my honest opinion, yes, she should get out of there because things will never settle down and quite honestly, she needs to open her eyes because making excuses for him is NOT right. However, no matter what anyone here says to you to tell your friend, she is the only one who can make the final decision, and if she makes the choice to stay with him, then you have to respect that, or you face losing your friend. If she makes the choice to leave him, then you need to make sure that you can offer all the support she might need and possibly too, a place to stay for a while. I get the strangest feeling though that she won't leave him. If she were ready to leave, she wouldn't be making excuses for his erratic behavior. I wish her all the very best.

I take that as negative indication. Those moods swing are already signs that the guy doesn't care anymore about his realtionship with your friend. An inlove person will never do such thing. He is being inconsistent.