Who makes a better BESTFRIEND, girls or boys?
By maple_kisses
@maple_kisses (2156)
Philippines
April 21, 2007 3:41am CST
I've grown up in family wherein the only male is my Dad (I've got 3 sisters). When I was in high school, I belong to this group of girls called "Models Inc.". Girl friends are fun to be with, we share the same fondness for clothes, shoes, bags and make-ups, even share the same favorite music and exchange celebrity gossips once in a while. We can talk about boys too {*wink}.
But when I went to college, I was sorrounded with 8 boys and just 1 girl. Yup, I've got 9 close friends and 8 of them are males, which is not surprising because my course is stereotyped as a male's course (engineering). Anyway, I found out that guys are good friends because, they're somewhat more knowledgable in life and even if they clown around, whenever I have problems, they're a bunch of serious advisers. I can also say that it's easy to trust boys with secrets.
What do you think? Who makes a better friend or bestfriend for that matter, boys or girls? I still am confused on this matter, maybe you can enlighten me, do share your opinion. Thanks :D
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31 responses
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
now this is something, depends on your mood eh? oh well, moods do affect friendships :D
@chalanash (59)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
well, they both have different traits, so i guess you just have to choose what information you should feed each other. i h ave 1 male best friend & 1 female best friend, both good confidants, knows different things abt me. the boy bestfriend might not know things i'm telling my girl best friend... depends on the topic actually.... what can i say... ihave best of both worlds. he he he
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@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
hmmm... and I thought we can never have everything in this world.. :D sounds like you've had a great time getting the best of both worlds, congratulations to you.. keep it up!
@xelissa (776)
• New Zealand
21 Apr 07
BESTFRIEND? I would pick someone my own gender, we can relate more and stuff. Guys are more into the physical stuff and don't talk and share as much as girls do. Guys speak very few words and most of the friendships are based on activities. But then now that I am married, my husband is my best friend, and someone I can talk to 24/7 and I know I'll always have his back as he will mine. But then socially with my other group of friends I have another Best friend which I have had since Childhood. There are many types of best friends.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
awww, how sweet! your husband is your bestfriend, that's great, is that a confirmation that someone in the opposite gender makes the "best" bestfriend? :D
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@liranlgo (5752)
• Israel
22 Apr 07
Well i think that it all depends on what person you are, and with whom are you most comfortable. I know that i have very good friends, part of them are girls and the rest are boys. They do differ from each other in their way of thinking. My girl friends are more emotional dramatic then the guys that i know. the boy friends are more like cut to the point, and i like that very much. I guess i have those two sides in me, so it is just what fits me better in some days.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
oh, just like the other guy who replied in this post, he said it depends on his mood.... so there are days you wanted to be with your gal friends and there are times with your guy friends.. hmmm, having the best of both worlds, aren't we? :D
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
21 Apr 07
My best friend now is my husband. I trust him with my life. I have had girl best friends and guy friends. My hubby thinks guys can't be "just friends" but then my hubby is a pervert..lol j/k. I hung out with a group in high school that was a large mix of guys & girls. Some of the guys were better friends than the girls. I am not a real girly girl and tend to like "boy" stuff so me & the guys always got along great. I do have a girl best friend now that I grew up with from second grade. We are in different states & lost contact for quite sometime, but I still love this girl with all my heart & would do anything for her. Besides my husband, she is the only person in the world that knows EVERYTHING about me. I think it depends on your personality, whether guys or girls are best. I always had a healthy mix of friends but very few I trusted completely.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
27 Apr 07
sounds like we are very alike !! You must be a great person LOL.. thanks for the BR !!!
@axe_effect (799)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
well for me, the better best friend are boys like me, coz we have a word of honor and we stand what we said.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
Hmm... let me tell you a secret... almost all guys break their promises to women... hehehhe!
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
23 Apr 07
You had both the experiences. You had some very good girl friends and some equally good boy friends. In your case .... gender of your close friends became secondary. You must be very accomodative and open minded and would have high level of understanding that you accepted boys as your good friends ... and you never faced any problems in that. From your experience I can say sometimes gender does not matter, it is your personal rapport with a your friend(s), your mutual understanding and trust is more important than the gender.
However, if I have to reply to your question...being male...I would say friends from the same gender are better... because there are certain matters, issues which you feel comfortable when sharing with your close friends who is of same gender.
Nonetheless a very Good, thought provoking and interesting discussion from you side.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
nice analysis! {*whistles!} :D thatnks for that last sentence!
anyway, I guess you never tried having a real close friendship with a woman... you should, you'll never regret it
@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
for me, it's girls, i dont have boys bestfriend because in girls i can share all my thoughts and i can tell my secrets that i dont have hesitations to say those..it's also fun to have boy friends, but i'm not at is to them, i can talk to them but not that like talking to my girl friends..
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
hmmm, you should try to befriend boys, they don't bite, they're practically normal, especially when they're asleep, hehehe! :D
@kaevielf (245)
• China
25 Apr 07
I have a sister and 3 brothers. When we were younger, I got along pretty well with my brothers. I didn't like my sister that much and I think she felt the same thing. Now that we're a bit older, having our own families, we've all become very close, good friends. When I was in the elementary grade, all my friends were girls. But when I went to high school and college, I made friends with everybody-boys,girls,even gays. Now, I have several best friends - 2 gays, 4 females and 3 males. I think, being a boy or a girl doesn't make you a bestfriend. What makes you one is your kind of person. Keep smiling, maple_kisses!
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I kept on telling everybody who responded here that they're having the best of both worlds, but you top them all! You're having the best of 3 worlds! hehehe! I'm sure gays can be so fun to be with, and I'm glad you're able to acommodate all kinds of people into your circle of friends... just shows what a great person you are... :D
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
ahh, you belong to those who are having the best of both worlds... good for you :D
@moonlitpriest (293)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
my dear, in making friends or in having a best friend, gender does not matter, as long as you knew to your self that if you are with him, you are happy, and indeed comfortable. although, yes! there are certain problems that you cannot say to a guy but you can say to a girl, but yet! as you have said, you have many friends!, then, you can choose who will you share your thoughts to, I knew your other friends won't mind, because if there are your true friends. they will understand, why they are not applicable in knowing such thoughts that you have said to the other. but I guess this situation is very rare, as I may say. because once you choose a friend, you must have something the same with each other for you to unsderstand each other, right?
Gender does not matter, all what matter is your comfortability, and peace of mind if you are with him/her.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
yup, comfort and peace of mind are indeed important components in a good friendship and I'm happy for you that you've found them in your friends... Well, I was actually thinking comfortability depends on the gender, but well, it may depend on other factors too... Keep it up! God Bless!
@cheisentie (142)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
hmm,, i think it's not in the gender.. it depends to the person.. but as you said,, it is easy to trust a boy than a girL.. yah! right because even if you have fight they will never reveal your secrets and when it comes to boy talk,, a boy can give a lot of advices because he is also a boy so he know if it is true or not than a girl friend we always use a "maybe he's..." "maybe he have.." always negative..
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
uhhmm, so girls tend to steer you away from truth eh? hmmm.. maybe they just wanna console you a little by riding on what youa re feeling by the moment.... well, there are girls that can be trusted too, but you just have to find them, hehehe :D
@missy30 (129)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
when it comes to being bestfriends, girls are very different with boys. i have girl bestfriends and i also have a guy bestfriend. with girls, i can be really girly, teach you glam thing, talk with them on the phone for a long time, chat about boys, go shopping, and sometimes gossip. while boys, they are very protective, sweet, and you can be sporty around them, they are fun to be with, and of course they give advice about boys, and they are caring. =)
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
hmmm, you can't survive with just one then... you love having the best of both worlds and I don't blame you, I love to have the best of everything too :D
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
22 Apr 07
Based on my own personal experience, boys.
I had few female friends in my life that didn't eventually stab me in the back.
The worst problem I ever had with a guy friend is being hit on, and if the guy is a true friend, he'd take "no" for an answer and at least pretended to be ashamed he acted that way toward me.
But, that's just my own life.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
uhhmm, your friend cannot control his attraction to your beauty eh? :D Yeah, girls can backstab you alright but there are a lot of girl friends who'll make a good bestfriend too... thanks for the reply :D
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@kavita23 (2995)
• India
22 Apr 07
the best answer is someone who cares u ,and likes u for what u are , and treats u special , make u feel u are above all , and love u ,,...and smart , soft speaking be yourself , and friendly don't get easily angry , or treat someone in a bad manner , without enough reason , and u get friends, ........u should choose , who is a true frnd and who aren't , if u find someone nice go and talk with her or him, be yourself and confident and back yourself
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
wow! that's a great person! have you founf him/her? If you did, you are lucky, if you didn't then goodluck, I hope you'll find such friend, I wanna find someone ideal as that too... but it's difficult, right?
@xfallenxlostx (2074)
• United States
22 Apr 07
i find that males make better best friends for females and females make better best friends for males. At least, that is the case for all of my friends and i. It is good to have someone you can go to that can give you that oopsite gender's opinion and set you straight. i have always gotten along better with males than i have with females. i still have more male friends than female friends.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
You have a point there, see how many married couple regard each other as their bestfriend? A plenty of them I suppose..
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
maple kisses not fruits??? :D i wonder what that phrase means {*giggles}
@sudeshna22 (390)
• India
22 Apr 07
Boys have nore knowledge about life and sorroundings. It is true that they can be good advisers also. But I personally find both girls and boys can be good friends. I have more good friends among girls. I think it is easier to share any problem or experience wilth girls that is not that easier with boys.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
yeah, i guess sometimes guys find it awkward to be in a serious situation... they tend to be, uhhhmmm... unemotional (?) sometimes....
@antgumabay_29 (83)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
for me, sexes is not the measurement in knowing the best bud/s. as long as you're comfortable with these people(whether boy/s or girl/s), suits your personality and the like, it's okay. remember: friends are whom you cling on in good and bad times. sexuality doesn't involve to this.
@maple_kisses (2156)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
hmmm... but maybe comfort can be based on gender too? I mean, there are those who are not comfortable with men, or with women, right? but well, you have a point there...
