Would u marry against your parents will?

To quote Shakespere in Midsummer Night's Dream "You have her father's love Demetrius; I have Hermia's. Do you marry him?" I think that's right. I mean are they going to live with they person forever (hopefully). No, you are. Just my opinion!

I married my ex against my parents' wishes... they really didn't think she was right for me, and they also didn't think she was "right in the head." In contrast, my in-laws thought I was great, and insisted that if we should EVER split up, they'd NOT want to be part of the divorce. As it turned out, my parents were right... that entire family was a little "off" in the head. Of course, I didn't listen to my parents... and whereas they grumbled some, they didn't stand in the way. My ex and my mom didn't speak, however, for the final five years we were married. My mother did use many opportunities (after the divorce) to point out that she had been right, all along. I take it with a grain of salt, because she never really liked ANYone I brought home. Would I marry someone against her wishes (my dad has since passed away) in the future? Who knows... but I would certainly grill her extensively to try to find out WHY she didn't like that person.

My mother, in fact, told me not to marry my first husband. I of course didn't listen. She kept telling me throughout the marriage that I should leave him. Four kids later, we divorced. Shortly following the divorce, she told me I should take him back. Gotta love it.

My parents did not want me to marry my husband. My husband is almost 20 years older than I am. My mom thought the age difference was too much. My dad said I am hard to live with and that my husband should not marry me. My grandmother told me that at least I would have a second husband. My husbands family is all out of state but they had no problem excepting me. In the end I married and have been happily married for the last twenty plus years. I am glad that I did what my heart told me to and marry. This is not always the case though. Some times you need to sit and listen to all sides of the situation before making a discision. I am glad that you found out before marriage that the guy you were with was not right for you. Have a good day.

well my parents hated my hubby and still do. they have done anything and everything to break us up. they have tried to take our kids, tried to offer money, i mean you name it they did it. we have been together 11 years and they still try to pull things. his parents didnt want him to marry me either but they have come to except it so i dont worry about them. my paretns i had to tell to go jump in the lake and we dont go around them anymore due to that and other things. i was 19 when we got married and he was 26 and we have been together 11 years and never had a split or anything. we dont hve alot of money but hey i dont care we are togehter. that was what my parents issue was that he didnt make alot and that i would have to work. he was older then me. he had bad teeth and his nose was broke a few to many times. i didnt see that though when i saw him i still dont even though teeth are fixed now. i saw the man that i loved, that was good with kids, that loved me, that tried hard to make me happy, etc. you have to listen to them and then think about what they are saying and then decide. in my case i am glad i didnt listen to them. i am glad i still dont.

This is a very big question marie. I am sure that a lot of people can tell you one of those two answers: The first one is, of course i will, it is not my parents that will live with him, it is me, so why should i let them get involved in my personal life? The second reaction could be, blood is thicker then water, and i won't do anything that my family won't agree on. I can truly tell you that till a person is in that situation he will never know what he or she will do. I knew that i always said that my parents are very important to me, but i make my own life choices, and they would have to deal with it and accept it, because i am their daughter. But when that situation happened it was harder then saying one of those two sentences. My family did not accept him at all, my mother got to the stage that she would tell me that she does not want me to visit them when he is with me. After a year, i told her that i will not accept this attitude no longer, and that every time i will come to visit them, he is going to be with me, because he is my partner, and probably we will get married soon, but when he came to our house, she just took her things and left. i did understand her reason for not accepting him, but i did not accept her behaviour. What was even harder was that his side of the family did accept me, they loved me, and always invited me to their house, i was a part of their family, but he was not a part of mine, and that was very hard for him, because we loved each other very much. After a three years relationship and two years of living together, we parted, and i can tell you that it was because of my family and my mother's acting. He could not accept the fact that they do not accept him as my partner, and i could not promise him that this would ever change, we could not have children together with my family treating my loved one like that. We parted. this was the hardest thing did in my life. Today a few years after, and a relationship with another person, i still could not tell you if i would act differently if this happened again, i could not disconnect from my family. But at least me and him still see each other once in a while and he is still my best friend

well i wouldnt advise you to do that cause on the long run your parents might have a valid reason which would have remain blind to us cause of love or which we have decided to ignore. I think we should as much as possible make them see reason why we want to marry the other partner and let them share their own fears on why they dont like our choice of a partner but then i always have the believe that the decision to live with someone for the rest of our lives lies in our heart and not that of anyone

no, i definitely won't... i think parents are much more wiser than us as they had lived much more longer and have more experiences compare to us... my mum used to hate my ex very much and always oppose to my relationship... i listen to her and i ended up in australia now with a much better life and a husband who really really loves me very much... so i am really glad that i listen to her...

I don't think I would marry agianst my parents' will.I love my parents and I really want to have a good bf who will be accepted by them.

When I met my husband I didn't care and wouldn't have cared if my parents did not like him. I loved him and he made me feel like their was a reason for living and I felt safe and able to be myself with him. I don't think my parents would have ever liked anyone I chose to be with unless they had hand picked them, so yes I would have gone against the will of my parents if they had tried to stop me marrying my husband six years ago. He is the best thing in my life ( and my son) and no one elses views or opinoins would have made me change my mind. I think there comes a point in our lives when we do what we feel is right for us and if our parents do not agree then, they do not agree but in the end the choice is ours and we should be left to and made able to make our own choices with out being made to feel guilty if we did not choose what someone esle thought was the right choice. I am glad that the person you are now in a relationship with is loved and appreciated by your family, as this is an easier situation where all are happy, but if it were not that way I hope you would trust your heart and follow it no matter what other people thought.

Sure, when it comes to marriage, you have to factor in your friends and family, but for me, I don't think any couple truly in love should let any objecting family member (or friend, for that matter) get in the way. The bottomline here is that you're getting married because you love each other. You're not doing it to please anyone else save for yourself and your partner. If someone objects, fight for it. Otherwise, you might have to think twice about your relationship; if you're not up to fighting for love, then maybe that love isn't that important to you.

It is really glad to have a boyfriend who is my parents choice also. But sometimes things are not go fine all the time. If I fall in love with someone who is choicable to my parents I will ask them for the reason. I will go for a discussion with them about my boyfriend. If still I find that things are not settling, and there is no point in my parents unwillingness, then I will go againt them. If I think there is reason in their statement, I will not marry the boy.

No i wont marry against my parents will...i dont want to go far away from my family. i want my parents to love him and accept him. I dont want to b isolated from my family. And also like u, i respect their decision.

That's what I did.. I gave in to the parent of my ex. My ex was a pure Chinese, as what they all say "Chinese women are only for Chinese men". So from the beginning of our relationship they were against me. It even came to a point that her dad would pay me a large sum of money just to leave their daughter and convince her to marry the guy they initially had set up for her to marry when they are still kids. To make the long grieving story short I decided to let go of her and until now I'm still wondering WHAT IF!!!

You are the only person that can realistically choose who you wish to marry, simply because you are the one that will be spending your life with that person. It may be difficult if your parents disapprove, but that would not be sufficient reason not to get married. The argument really goes both ways. Would you object if your child was planning to marry someone that you did not like? I realise that most parects would be far happier if their son or daughter married a person that they approved of, but the important factor is that it is their future.

no i struggle and make my parents to accept my love because life is to enjoy so no one should be hurt by me so i struggle n succeed

i cannot decide my marriage for the parents'opinion. after all the person lives with you for a lifetimes,but is not your parents. if it is the sincerity falls in love,any resistance cannot changes my thought of marriage,i must walk own road.

If I felt strongly enough, yes, I would marry against my parents will. There is that old saying, if you make your bed you are going to have to lay in it'. That is prety much my parents' philosphy. They can offer advice, and be there to pick up the pieces if things fall apart, but they never really told us what to do. I think they believed we could only learn from our own mistakes.

hm well talk honestly i won't do that. it's not just i'm afraid. i can't have enough courage to defend my choice. i think i can't afford this. sometimes i think it's better to follow what my parents will, at least when something going wrong they can't blame me... ukh it's that pathetic? T_T

My parents were and still do not like my husband and its not because of his personality but because he is not the same race as me, they are nice to him in front of him but i know deep down they do not approve.First of all me and him eloped because both our families have a traditional frame of mind and when my parents found out the first thing that came out of my dads mouth was i thought i told u not to marry anyone blk...anyways if u love someone no one should stop u from being with them in my in my opinion its ur life and if ur happy thats all that matters...i now have been happily married for two years and have wo twin girls and our family still doesnt want us to be together so its sad but we cut them off from our lives