Do you take responsability for your actions??

United States
April 21, 2007 11:02am CST
None of us are perfect and that is a fact however, I have met many, many people who simply cannot say that their judgement was wrong and learn from the experience instead they blame anything and everything around them...are you one of them or do you take responsability even when you did something really silly and face the consequences?? To answer my own question - I have done many silly things in my life both emotionally and financially however, I have always taken responsability and tried as much as possible to learn from my mistakes...its not easy but for me, it is somehow easiest to deal with the situation.
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21 responses
@skbadhan (879)
• India
21 Apr 07
ya i do take responsability and every one should have as its a great idea to learn from own mistakes however smart people learn from others mistakes there is nothing wrong with doing mistakes but one should lern from their mistakes if any one doesn't learn from mistakes he commits a bigger one........
@leon077 (159)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 07
maybe I often to blames the surrounding, this is due to my natural behavior, well nobody like to be blamed for anything, while we get self justification, but this is really bad to some extent, maybe we can feel happy by blaming other, but this is not solving the problem itself, maybe I will try to introspect myself in this matter. lots of people can only talk and talk but they blame everyone for everything, why cant we rebuild the society itself. we human really like to mourning.
@funfreak2k2 (1734)
• India
21 Apr 07
yes, i do take and i tolerate to some extent even if other blame me. i honestly admit what i did. if the reason can be explained, i will explain the reason. if no reason to offer, i just give them my head.
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
punk saiyan - punk saiyan with red geiger counter
yeah.. i've been brought up by my parents to take responsibility in everything i do. they've let me make my own decisions. and if i ever make a wrong one, they also see to it that i take full responsibility of all consequences. c',)
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• United States
21 Apr 07
Good for you - that way I think we all think a bit longer before doing something silly :)
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
yep.. thinking twice makes you realize the consequences of your actions. and it helps you make up your mind. c",)
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@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
21 Apr 07
You a good person my friends magdalena, but nowday we must deal with the situation. best regards
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I take responsibility for my decisions and choices...I always have....when I was a child I think that this is one of the hardest things for my mother to deal with...I knew the rules and if I chose to break them I was always willing to take the punishment that I knew was coming. I also raised my children that they will always have choices to make and they need t think about what the consequences will be of their choces; if they are willing to accept that consequence then....that is their decision. I commend anybody who feels this way...I really hate it when someone tries to blame everybody else even if it is clearly their error. What a wonderful discussion topic, MagdalenaM, my friend. Blessed be.
• United States
21 Apr 07
I think it takes a lot of courage and self respect to accept to yourself that what you did was wrong. You reminded me of when I was little, as I too would tell my mom what I did wrong knowing fully well of the punishment that was going to come... Good for you for teaching your children the same - they will be better human beings having that education, no doubt!
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• United States
21 Apr 07
Thank you for your kind words. As always, my friend, I wish you the best. Blessed be!
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• United States
21 Apr 07
hello there,,how ya doing? I put alot of thought in the question..and i tell you..i dont want to be honest lol..i guess its something that has been passed down to me..i really dont know..but i know when i do wrong..im not dunb..but when its something i felt very strong about and make a huge deal out of it,and end up being wrong..i take responsiblilty for it and i accept as much as its seriously kills my pride, i almost feel as if something is being ripped out of me..especially when im worng lol..but if its something small..like forgetting a bill,an appt,things like that.i tend to blame it on everyone else BUT MYSELF..i have done this as long as i can remember,,its weird..i dont mean to do it,,it just happens..ive been noticing this more as i have grown..and its been better..and im working on it..i really am...but if u ask me again..il deny it lol lol..
• United States
22 Apr 07
thank you for not yelling at me..lol.. i was so worried someone was gonna yell and say grow up..or put me down for being like it..but i really try top not do it as i said,,it just happens..so i appreciate your very kind words,,i wish all the people here were like you..thanks for bringing me a smile right back!:)
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• United States
22 Apr 07
Thank you for your honesty - I was smilling all through your response. Many people do that even without realizing and not for any particular reason but just because that is how they see a situation. I know many wonderful people who simply always find a fault in the circumstances for a situation and never see their fault. Thank you for sharing.
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@kabuki (152)
• Singapore
22 Apr 07
yes, i have found that a lot of people do not admit to their mistakes readily, sometimes you do not even need to accuse someone and he/she will get defensive about the situation. i guess this is due to the pressure of our working environment and cannot be helped but i appreciate the fact that you adopt a learning attitude towards mistakes made. that is indeed the best way to deal with any mistakes or failures.
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@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I didn't used to..but nowadays..yeah I do. I deal with my own problems and if someone asks whose fault it is, I'll answer honestly. I dislike it when people are in so much of a denial that they ca n't even see their own actions..that just blows me away..'cause though I used to pretend it was everyone else's fault too once, I always knew it truly was my fault.
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• United States
22 Apr 07
I know poeple who blame everything else but themsleves and I am under the impression that they simply cannot see it is their fault but, here you made a point...may be many people KNOW its their fault ans imply do not want to admit it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@yanjiaren (9031)
22 Apr 07
No one likes the idea of woning up to stuffing up lol. But I do always try to take full responsibility of my screw ups and try my best to rectify the situation I either get myself into or get others into lol. I try now to put safe guards as anti stuffing up formulas. It seems to work a treat so I stuff up less.
@Norstar (694)
• India
22 Apr 07
Being human, we are not perfect and we are prone to committing mistakes. It is therefore very important to realise this and take responsibility of our actions. This is the only way we can analyse our acts and make amendments. To err is human, to forgive, devine. This indicates that we are prone to doing mistakes. If we do not take the responsibility of our action, we will not correct ourselves and we would continue to commit more mistakes.
• United States
22 Apr 07
Sure, to err is human and sometimes even when we are convinced we are doing the right thing, it turns out we did a big mistake...I agree tho that learning from one's mistakes is simply the only way to get forward.
@web2samus (255)
• Uruguay
21 Apr 07
of course I do, well surely most other people has said the same, I haven't read their answers but I'm quite sure that they also "think" they take that responsibility while they don't even know what that really means; well all of this is just a suposition of course but here is my idea of "responsibility for your actions" it is simply being able to say what you did to anyone and being able to accept its consequences whatever they might be. from this pòint of view, yes I do.
@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
Definitely, yes. But not when I was younger. In high school, I was carefree and I did not look before I leapt. I did a lot of wrong moves, which of course I regretted today. But there is no crying over spilled milk, so they say. But today, I also have done countless blunders, and I take full responsibility over what I did, realizing later that they were wrong. Of course, it feels good to "pass the buck", it's a weak defense though. It would make much sense if at 49, I can admit a wrongdoing and make steps to correct it is better than simply pointing the blame on other people. For me, that's silly and immature. So let's take full responsibility for our actions; we could even take partial responsibility for other people's action.
• United States
22 Apr 07
First of thank you for sharing - I have to say that I don't regret my mistakes only that some of them have hurt my loved ones along the way but, I know that unfortunately when I did take them, I thought to the best of knowledge that I was doing the right thing so...the only way to repair something, like you point out is to take responsability and yes, sometimes for other people's actions as we often are responsible for that too.
• Philippines
22 Apr 07
take responsibility for my actions, of course i do!... I do thing that i think im right so if i got mistaken in my action i will face the consequences. Dont be to harsh on yourself if you got wrong move... what is important is you learn from your mistake... and move forward for better living!
@blueman (16509)
• India
22 Apr 07
yes i do take responsibility for what i do, never thought of blaming others for what i have did.
@nana1944 (1364)
• United States
22 Apr 07
I am one who has went both ways. But it is easier to take responsibility than to try to not take it. I don't believe anyone can honestly say they have always taken responsibilty unless it was after they reached a certain age. Some people, however, just find it easier to not face up to things. In other words, they just hate to be wrong, not wrong, or less than perfect.
• India
22 Apr 07
I always take the responsibility for the actions i perform. I dont blame others for my mistake. We can learn from our mistakes, but for which we should not blame others. If we try to impose our mistake on other, we will try to find ways to blame others or the situation rather then to correct our mistakes. Learning from mistake is like touching fire, we wont touch it, when we sense the heat. It will stand in our heart till our life
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
22 Apr 07
well it try as much to take responsibillities for my mistakes if i'm aware of them otherwise i probably will not take them.But i trie to be as honest as i can.I also try to accept my faults so i won't feel bad forever,because then you are not learning.
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
22 Apr 07
I blame myself, and I take responsability for my actions. I think that, whatever happens to my life, it's a result of my actions. If I did something wrong to someone, I go and apologize. It's an important thing to do. Everybody makes mistakes, everybody should say sorry sometimes.
• United States
22 Apr 07
Wow - that is great! It takes A LOT to go back to someone and say 'sorry' and I admire those who can do that! Good for you!
• China
22 Apr 07
If big mistakes, usually I will never repeat it.But if small,sometimes I will do it for the 2nd time.:-)