Will you think your baby is a trouble?

She probably misses her old life before she had a baby, and probably feels that the baby is keeping her from doing the things she enjoys most. I don't have kids yet, but I have taken care of them, the trouble is not with the child, but maybe with the fact that one has to watch the baby, feed it, clean it, bathe it and take care of it and provide for it. If her mom helps her she should feel thankful, but maybe she just finds it a burden on her, like I mentioned before, she just misses her old life.

hmm this is rather sad. I have seen people get married and nursed fears about having babies but when they became pregnant and have the idea that they were bringing another soul into this world, they were overwhelmed with joy and the joy grew no bounds when they actually conceived. I think it is a thing of joy to be resposible for bringing a being into this world, yes they might be troublesome but then whats the trouble when compared with the joy, pains, anxiety and excitement they felt when they were pregnant. Your friend definately has a misconception about caring for her born child, she has to live up to the responsibility of been a mother.

I think that feeling that way about her baby is very sad..... but perhaps deep down she doesn't truly mean that..... but I do think that the decision to have a baby should be well thought out ..... she says not to get married or have a baby 'SO SOON' so maybe her advice is to enjoy your youth before thinking seriously about settling down.

I am a mother to five and believe it to be one of my greatest joys in life . I love being a mom and would not trade anything about motherhood not even the pain of child birth as you learn that from all the pain you go through there is something so much more wonderful to look forward to . The moment they placed my children in my arms , I felt a joy like no other in my life and experienced a kind of love , I never thought could be possible . You learn from the very beginning just how powerful a feeling you feel towards you child of how you will do anything to protect them from all that they are going to go through in life . I can't understand mothers who do not feel this as it was the most powerful feeling I have ever experienced in my life and it had such an effect on me that I have never forgot how wonderous this was and feel that this must be similar to the feeling we experience when we die and go to Heaven as it was the most powerful feeling of love that I have ever experienced in my life and can't imagine anything more powerful then this :)

My son is very well loved and we definitely wanted him. There were still times early on that he caused trouble. We had a terrible time finding childcare when I was still working. I might have described him as being trouble, but that never for a minute meant I didn't love him. It's just hard sometimes figuring out how things are going to work after such a life changing event. Even when you think you are ready for a baby, there are probably things you haven't really considered. Your friend might not have meant it as anything bad. She might have just meant that she wasn't prepared for all the changes. I love my son so much and can't imagine my life without him now. But honestly, there were times that I wasn't sure what to do about a bill that needed paid right after I quit working or where I was going to take him when my babysitter disappeared at the last minute while I was still working. There are always lots of unexpected events when it comes to children.

I've heard this from moms who had their kids when they were too young and not ready for kids. For me I never thought I would be ready to be a mom. But the moment I found out I was pregnant I knew my life was going to drastically change. But it changed for the better and I don't regret a moment I've spent with my daughter. There are times when it gets hard when you see your single friends going out and you have to round up a babysitter before going out. But for me I just don't enjoy going out anymore. I love being a mom and would rather spend my time at home with my daughter and fiance. I have my occasional nights with the girls but that just makes me appreciate what I have at home that much more.

some people just dont know how to handle the stresses that come along with motherhood. being a mom is the hardest job ive ever had, but the rewards that come with it are better than any paycheck i could ever get.

marriage and having a baby can be two of the most memorable things in your life, yes of course if you get pregnant to early then a baby can be a problem for you, you have to be sure you are ready for both the marriage and the baby cause yes it is a big responsibility but I would never say they are troublesome..

being married and having children is part and parcel of life and it can be the happiest moment for parents. Of course you have ready for the responsibilty and financial burden when you get into a marriage. without some mental preparation of what s successful marriage and childbirth entails, it will end up in misery.

If she is not married, chances are she is taking on all the responsibility of child-rearing alone. Yes, her mother is helping, but when you don't have a partner to help you take care of a baby it can be very overwhelming. Perhaps she got pregnant by accident and did the responsible thing, but now she has regrets because she's not as free as she used to be. It is sad to see mothers who take this frustration out on their children, but I also noticed that children in this environment grow up to be very independent and strong minded. Hopefully this will be the case for the child you speak of.

Not every one is cut out to be a parent and people should not have kids because they think it is mandatory if you get married. That is foolish. In this day and age there are many couples who are more career driven than family driven.. They love to have lots of money and travel and have the freedom to do what they want. For people who want this, it is their choice. Nobody should be critical of them for not having kids. It is more of a sin to have kids when you know it will not suit your lifestyle. Then all that will happen is that you will resent them..

i am not a mom yet too..but i dont think any mom would consider their children trouble! and in my own opinion, babies are blessings. they shouldnt be regarded as burden or something like that. they came from heaven for us to take care and mold to become good people..:)

You're right my friend, babies are blessings from heaven. I have 2 degrees in college but when i gave birth to my eldest who is 16 now, i gave up my job to be a fulltime mom. That was 18 years ago, I have 4 kids now, 16,15,7 and 6 years. I am fulfilled as a mother, I'm happy with what i do especially when they were still babies, i always cherish those times with them. It was a bittersweet experience, it may be hard and entails a lot of sacrifice but its worth it. So don't be afraid to have kids when you get married, love them unconditionaly and you will be contented for the rest of your life.

That is so sad! Maybe she is just having some post partum depression or something. I feel bad for the baby, but I also feel bad for the mother, because it sounds like she is missing out on some great times with the baby. I think that motherhood is a special gift, and that we should cherish this gift. I have seen some younger mothers, who are alone, and they still think they need to go out and party and the baby just holds them back. I think these girls were just not ready for motherhood. I hope that things will look up for this mother and child, and soon. Motherhood is such a special experience, I do not think you should be afraid of it. You will know the time is right when it happens to you.

That's crazy. I think that she should have waited then...or not had a child at all because it sounds like now she is resenting the child and wants her freedom. I think a child is a miracle...and there are some women who can't have children...who would love to care for a baby. I don't understand this kind of thinking either...I feel sorry for the child....

You may think I'm a horrible person for saying this, but I agree with your friend. Babies are trouble and that's why I'm never having any. At least I know that NOW before ever having any of my own.

i think your friend is not yet mature enough to understand the true reasons of being a mother. i don't pity her; i pity the baby coz he/she might not be able to feel motherly love as he/she grows up. if you can advise your friend, tell her straight that it's time to grow up and forget about being self-centered.

O'god please help the person who says baby is troublesome. I don't know how your colleague came to say such a stupid thing. Everyone loves their babies and their naugty characteristics. Those who says babies are trouble, they dont know about the joy of the life. We should enjoy the baby naugty characteristics

I saw raising my children as a privilage. I would do it all over again. Sure it wasn't easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is. It's sad that some parents feel that way. And I don't think that being a single parent has anything to do with it either. I am a single father myself. How your children turn out has a lot to do with a parent's additude on the matter.

I can't answer be 100% sure, as I am not a parent. I must admit that having a baby must not be an easy task. You'll have to raise your baby with iron hands. I mean, you'll have to put big effort in it. But imagine later, your son being a big man. He, ruling over this World! A person of success. It must be the best feeling ever. But before having a baby, think about it. Think well. Think twice. If you really chose to have a baby, remember that you must not give up! Hope to have helped.