do you get pissed off when people judge you harshly without knowing you?

I know, yanny dear, like what I told you, it can be upsetting at times to see some members attacking us for no reason at all. I've been there too many times now, dear. I learned a hard lesson here at mylot. I stopped being kind to everyone except for the chosen few. No sense in trying to be decent to everyone. If they don't like us, then we don't need them either.

Hey, Of course I get mad, and on the odd occassion, especially if I am overly tired and my inhibitions are down, I may get mean, or at least mouthy. I did not find a link to the discussion. (Lately I have not been able to send links to discussions). I am off to get ready for work again. Let me know if it is one of your discussions, or one you responded to. I may feel like a good fight myself.

I think you're taking it way too seriously if it's a discussion here on MyLot or on the net in general. The net is NOT the real world. The net is a bunch of people who never or rarely if ever even see each other. Many base their likes or dislikes of a person on one thing they read and they may even read it with the wrong attitude then it was intended, resulting in a complete misunderstanding. Personally, nothing irritates me more then judgemental people. Nobody has a clue about your life or your decisions until they walk in your shoes and what is right for one person may not be right for another. There is NOBODY in this world that is perfect, therefore you have no right to point out anothers imperfections and be judgemental. That's just how I feel about it. So put it all in perspective and tell the other person to bug off and just ignore them. If they see they're getting to you, they've achieved what they wanted. If they see you're too mature and above and beyond their ignorance to go back and forth, they will walk away feeling defeat!

That kind of idiot used to bother me, but now I can mostly ignore them. If they're really obnoxious, I'll do my best to slice and dice them in one reply, but then I let it go. It's not worth the time and energy to give them the attention that they're obviously seeking. Carve them a new one, or let your friends do it for you, just don't let it get to you. The world is full of a--holes.

I do get upset when people judge harshly on here. After all when you start a discussion its not to be judge but to get advise. But some people on here know not how to give advise all they know is to tell other people they are wrong and they should be doing it their way. This type of advise isn't good. I normally report the people that want to harrass and treat others unfairly. For awhile i had one person on here that was targeting me he was following my posts to stuff and giving me a negative instead of a positive which brought me down to a freaking three lol but oh well i don't really care about the number any more. I know i help people on here and thats all that matters. But i agree you shouldn't take it lying down.

I dislike people blaming me for something I don't know about. I will like to say you should keep up with what you're doing and I am encouraged by you saying; you hate injustice. Thanks have a nice day.

i just got through your discussion about your investment and read that rude respond. it's way out of line actually. i had once a discussion about starving kids.. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/674769.aspx?p=2 if you look at marief2rnurse's response, she actually is saying about me having a foreigner boyfriend just to get out of poverty. i got so frustrated that day. i was so hurt. her last line on her response was obviously out of the topic. but i did not gave her a negative rating nor report it. instead, i vented it out in one of my discussions ... and would you believe, she responded again with a sarcastic one? here's the link to that... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/676991.aspx?p=2 . i guess she never knew what she's talking about. mostly, she's out of the line. you'll see how rude some myLotters are here. and ofcourse, i defended you from the one who bullied you. noone should be judging others here. we all have the chance not to be looked down upon. have a nice day still 'el.

Yes, I get very angry when people judge my relationship on the same scale as other relationships of people my age. I get so many comments about being too young to marry. They don't know that we've been together 7 years and that we started off long-distance and so really committed to eachother and bonded over the phone. They don't know I've lived with him 3 years already and that we've been responsible and on our own. I don't like random judgements when they don't know our relationship. Honestly, the majority of relationships I've seen are TERRIBLE ones so I guess I can understand why people are down on marriage in general but all I can say is I'm glad I'm not them and I've always known I've been blessed with a wonderful relationship. I think they are just jealous because they are 30 and twice divorced! But it still hurts immensely to get grouped with the majority and with my age group when I'm different from my peers..

Do not let it get to you. It was just an attempt to get to you and I believe he was jealous of the fact that you , a woman, can make more than he can!!LOL Really I know it is hard, but do not respond to such drivel. Report all abuse. To you or the site.Mylot is more likely to delete a response with no comments than one with a comment unless you both go back and forth.

guess you much annoyed by the thing, anyways i think the bottom line is nobody can judge anyone, in life many times things come sudden at that time we also fail to judge own ourself, so thing is so clear that if mankind cant judge themselves also so how can they judge other person, and for the critics we can say that they can not do something better in there life so they fall to do criticism , it takes much guts to do something rather that criticing it so just remove such people from your mind and always look forward in life....then again about the critics who lie they are definately deserve a bash on the face give it to them and creat more problems or else just sticking to yourself and making them feel guilty after some period of time is other way choice is yours......so better luck....cheers

Injustice or misjudging others are rampant now in our society, but if happen to me because i can only speak of myself and be responsible of any actions i made and it is my own opinion only. If it is pertain to legal battle i will let a good lawyer to defend myself and not putting my hand to any revenge, if it pertains to misjudgement then i will prove to those people that what they think of me is not true and work hard for it. Its a waste of time to retaliate to thsoe people it will do us no good but catastropic events only.

Some people get off on making other people feel bad, I agree if the criticism is not constructive, don't pay it no mind. I believe some people get off on putting people down because they are not happy with themselves. (Great Question)

Wow, that was rough. Why do people feel the need to be so rude? If you don't like or don't agree with the discussion, then just don't respond. I'm sorry you had to be on the receiving end of that. I'm estatic for you to be earning that much money online. I recently had the same situation, maybe not quite that bad though. It's really sad that some people are that miserable. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. Keep up the good work. Have a blessed day.

hey there!! yah! i get pissed off when people judge me harshly without knowing the real me! you know i really hate those people..how do you manage being pissed off?

I stick up for myself whne someone who doesn't know me slams on me. I use to just turn the other check. But not anymore. I am tired of being stepped on as well. i will say something. I learned along time ago. If I wanted it to stop. I needed to speak up for myself.

There are people who are criticising everything everywhere, and are getting their satisfaction from grumbling about everything and everyone. We can find them offline and online, perhaps this person belongs to them too. The other possibility is, he is just taking you for somebody else but of course, he should to check up before to judge, though. Don't pay any attention to him, and don't let him spoil your joy about your achievements. Perhaps he is just jealous!

I been bullied for years by a group of people online. Its terrible and i been greatful for people who like to get to know people for themselves. Not through word of mouth.

No I do't get mad. People do that to me on a daily basis. But that doesn't mean I lay down and take it. I'll calmly inform them how they're wrong and suggest they do their homework before judging someone next time. If they persist..well, then I may get annoyed. People don't like me annoyed it seems..so I suppose they'd hate me if I ever got mad at them. If it's offline and they persist I'll calmly deal with them. If they cross the line and I put them in the hospital. I don't tolerate crap from nobody. I respect everyone, and I'm not a violent gal..I'm slow to temper. But once the flame of anger's lit..they're in serious sh*t lol. I'm good at fighting, I'm good at putting the point across that it's unwise to mess with me. I just wish people knew better. I swear..we're all surrounded by people who assume, assume, assume..if everyone's always assuming how do they expect to learn anything? It breeds stupidity I guess. Don't worry about it, dearie. The world has an entire population of jerks..but nothing they do is without consequences. They'll be the ones judged someday..and then they'll realize ho wrong they were to judge others themselves.

Indeed it really hurts when somone says something wrong about you without knowing you fully no matter what the situation is and I do think that the decision that you have just taken is very much right. Everyonr should make effort to save his or her own self esteem.

Yeah I do, it gives me the urge to hit things. Usually that person. But I've been blessed with an overactive imagination and take it out on them there. Maybe not the healthiest way of venting but hey it works for me.