Is it a good idea to live with your parents or inlaws when you are married?
By robert19ph
@robert19ph (4577)
Philippines
April 23, 2007 6:08am CST
It's bad idea most of the time. When I was moved to one of our company plant where my parents live, my family and I stayed with them. My wife is already apprehensive because she is not in good terms with my mother but we tried it anyway and hope to patched any misunderstanding. Unfortunately it turned out not to be very good idea. My wife complains about my mother a lot and we have to moved out to avoid more mis-understanding. We still have not patched our mis-understanding but at least we are seeing eye to eye with each other. So what's the best ways to handle parents and in-laws?
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4 responses
@coolmailraj (2460)
• India
23 Apr 07
If you have a proper understanding than there is no better place than your family's house or your in-laws's house but if you don't go well with each other than it is better to keep distance. It is better to have physical distances than moving away your hearts.
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@easyzheng (666)
• China
23 Apr 07
You are right. It's better to have physical distances than moving away your hearts. Good saying. The problem is that we can't move out because she is too old to be left alone. I'm in the middle of the in-laws and always feel frustrated with this awkward situation.
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@easyzheng (666)
• China
23 Apr 07
No, absolutely not. I used to think that it's ok if the parents-in-law and daughter or son-in-law have good personalities, then they can get along with each other well. But for the absolute majority, it is not the case. Most of the time, they have to try hard to tolerate each other or even to bear or endure each other. Then, there must be a time of "a last straw for the camel", some conflicts might pop up and conflicts become a family issue that every family member have to face.The son or daughter always try to protect his/her parents while the daughter or son-in-law can nolonger put up with the differences between the parents-in-law and him/herself. The next thing would be a war between the two parties. I'm experiencing this kind of suffering now. I don't know who is to blame for that.
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@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
I don't have a very good answer to you my friend. It's better to moved out with your wife if you can.
@chardyme (1631)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
yes, you are correct about that. it is really a bad idea to live with your parents or inlaws when you are married. it is a big disaster. your parents or inlaws may take your lives and they make decisions for you. you'll never learn to be independent in that situation.
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
Yes, this one of the reason of conflicts. Your parents have this idea and your wife have another and ends up you caught in between.
@michelledarcy (5220)
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23 Apr 07
I never think it is a good idea to have two grown women in ahouse trying to take charge.
I know that I couldn't live with my family any more and I am sure it would be even harder if it was in-laws.
The best way to deal with it is to work hard at moving out!
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