Is finding day care a big deal for other's too?

I think it's a struggle for most every parent. It's a tough decision. Do you go with a daycare center and take the slightly less personal approach but perhaps safer environment that's overseen by others or do you take the more "natural" approach and let someone care for your child from their home? Do they suffer from such structure at such an early age or do they become better off because of it, later in life? I was lucky. I worked full time days in the office while the then husband worked 2nd shift. I would have dinners in the crock pot ready each day and come home for about a hour before he left. He stayed with the kids, who slept in because we homeschooled at night and they stayed up late to accomodate his sleeping schedule, while I worked. I taught the kids while he was at work. This way they were always with one of us. It was truly a great way to work things out. Unfortunately not everyone has that option. Wish I could say I'm close enough to help you out... but I'll keep you in my prayers that you find the right solution. It's probably one of the toughest decisions you make as a parent and I don't think people realize that until they're faced with it. Good luck!

that is a problem for a lot of people. we live in pa, in the woods and on a mountain. the closest grocery store is about 20 mins away. there are a few daycare centers around and when i was looking into preschool programs for my son, i wasnt impressed with many of them. i actually drive him into the next northern town from me, about a 25 min drive one way, just so he can go to an awesome school that is affordable. some of the ones near me, being that there are only a few, charge a lot knowing that you dont have many choices. it isnt right. but i know how you feel. it is very hard to find someone you totally trust to watch your kids. i am very picky when it comes to my kids. good luck to you. i hope that you find a good daycare or childcare provider. if you lived near me..i would watch your kids for you for a low price..lol!!

It took us quite a while to find anyone we would trust with Nicholas as there are only three total daycares in York Nebraska. This really cuts our options down. We only have one formal daycare around and that is where he goes. He has now been bitten twice in the past week, but I don't blame the daycare for this. I think that it is just kind of sibling rivalry on a grander scale. I do wish we had more daycare options available to us though.

I remember how hard it was to find a daycare I felt that I could trust. It took me a couple of tries but then we moved away. Luckily at that point I had made my mom an offer. I would pay for all of my moms bills if she would live with me and take care of my children while I was at work. Paying my moms bills is cheaper then paying daycare for three children , one with special needs. I feel for you because you had to move away from your family and friends. I know what a great help that family and friends can be. Can your husband asking his co-workers to recommend someone?