Picking faults... (isn't cool)

Its definatly a unattractive quality in a persn, being real is so much better than perfect. I'd take a real person over a ken doll wanna be anyday!

usually people who find faults are either perfectionists, meaning the seek perfection in everything they do and what others do, or they are very miserable people and do not see anything good in life. Being a perfectionist can make you miserable when you cannot even live up to your own standards.

Well they say a lot of people are quick to point out other people's problems but they can't see their own! I do tend to talk (only with my fiance and mom) about other people's faults, but usually I find it as a way to make me learn from other people's mistakes. If I am talking about something someone did that I thought was totally stupid, I am trying to remind myself why I will never do what they did. At least I don't talk about it with anyone they know :) and I definitely don't tell them to their face! But sometimes talking to your mom, best friend, or fiance can really help you "figure out" what's up with other people and learn not to fall into the pattern they got stuck in.

Well I guess what you say is right but then again some people can't help themselves. Virgo's by nature are perfectionist (I should know my daughter, daughter's boyfriend, dad and best friend are/were all virgo's) They will pick fault in everything you do, now me being a Leo let it ride over my head cause we're laid back but I could see how some people would let it get on their nerves. Have a great bank hol weekend!

They say that picking faults is a sort of defense mechanism to disguise our own faults, so we can feel a bit better with ourselves. I got piked on a lot unfortunately when i was younger and sometimes till this day. I sometimes do it, and hate it, but it seems to just come out now, maybe from years of getting it on me, but I try my best to avoid it. It's the how can she wear that, doesn't she know that doesn't help her figure... Luckily I don't do it often.

My boss at work is always doinh this. He'll pick on any tiny little fault with the work i've done, usually stuff that if he'd actually bothered to explain things to me properly i wouldn't have even made. Yet when i make a huge effort and get something spot on, does he give me praise? No. So i ask myself what's the point of making the effort?

there are always people like that everywhere. people who always think that they are always above and superior to others. they see and look at others as someone smaller than them. that they can always find faults and point fingers to these people who are obviously not doing anything bad at all. most of them are envious people. and so, their best way to shift their enviousness is to make others feel bad about themselves. isn't it too unright? happy myLotting!

Yes. Also, another saying is " To err is human, to forgive, divine" I might have that quote wrong but, something similar. Jesus was the only perfect person:) I think when another person does that it is due to their lack of self esteem.

I can't stand this either. I find these sort of people bullies, who will undermine another person to make themselves feel better. I work with different people, who all have their own personalities, faults and kindness. However, there are a couple who will judge someone and use this as a way to pick holes in them, which only makes that person less confident and more self-conscious about their behaviour. You get some people who will take great pleasure in telling the whole world that someone has messed up. My answer is usually, "Am I Bothered". Whats the saying "We learn by our mistakes" and if people help and support each other when we make them, which is always bound to happen, it makes the person more likely to see where they are going wrong and try and change things. Back stabbing or humilliating someone is awful and I have never had respect for people who do this. Thanks for your great discussions, I am so glad your're back to true form Joey. Its like self therapy sometimes and I can definately get things off my chest. I had a bit of a bad day at work today, which involved this very discussion, so I am glad I have been able to have a rant, instead of getting angry at work and ending up saying things I may regret. Cheers my friend!!

Sorry Joey, I an not understanding this question. Some people are exploiters and use that to try to make themselves look perfect. Perfection is what? Who knows what is truly perfect? I don't worry about being perfect, only effective. Everyone has faults of some kind, so the key is to put your attention on the good things about yourself and others. Focusing on the best, leaves no time to worry about the not so good.

Nobody's perfect, as we all know that. And that contention doesn't give me the courage to pick on somebody else's flaws, especially trying to make fun or insults out of it. Personally, I hate people who tend to be the "mr./ms. know-it-all" or "mr./ms. perfect" type, though they know deep within that they have also done some flaws themselves. Well, if I happen to come across people of these kinds, I just have to think that maybe they are just so perfectionists or pretending to be perfect, or worse they could be like doing something awful that they intentionally find faults on others to cover up theirs. :P

I hate this as well joey but i tell ya you have to feel bad for the people who do it not just mad because they do it and pretend they are perfect. I find that the person who does it are indeed far from perfect and they do this to other people who they think in there mind are perfect. By doing this for some reason makes them feel bigger. A little defect some people have when there life is not what they want it to be so they dont feel anyone elses life should be either. Jealousy of the person they are picking apart is usually another big reason. Me i am happy with me and if other people have more or less then me dont really matter they are people just like me i dont need what they have to be happy and i am glad they got what they got because they most likely worked hard for it as i do myself. Nice to meet you joey and thanks for the discussion.

I have always thought that people who go around intentionally finding fault with others were people who had a sever low degree of self esteem and did this to make them feel good about themselves for a short time. Does anyone else think that could be the reason?

No one is perfect, so I think I know exactly what you mean there Joey. Often I think people who pick faults all the time are trying to compensate for their own failings. In other words they want you to notice someone else's faults so that you don't notice theirs. Of course, one could say that having the attribute of being a person who picks faults is also a fault that we are picking on them, so the circle of imperfections is complete. We are only human after all.

Fault finders are often classic inferiority complexes. They use this enchanting ability to strengthen their own position. Usually you can take them apart with their own logic, but they're a pretty easy target, unless they're being real nuisances. The equation is that those who feel the need to impress usually aren't very impressive. Those who need to hide behind the faults of others are self explanatory.

Picking faults of others i say that is not a good thing to do all the times. No human being is perfect and every one commits mistakes. I hate when some one starts picking mistakes, it irritates if they continuously do that. It is good to accept when some one points out our mistakes in a polite manner rather than troubling us. Those who pick other faults in my view might be having some inferiority complex. Its not good to pick on others mistakes all the time. As no one are perfect and no one can make sure that they wont make mistakes its not advisable to point out others mistakes or faults very often.