Long Distance Relationships: does it work?

but i guess your still not married? for some it works, for constant communications. a piece of advice i dont want to scare you but being together or seeing each other makes a big diffrence. Like for example, you can see the true him, his moods and undertandings, vice versa. Unlike your communication right now via the internet or by the telephone, you just talk and listen. Why i say like this, i know somebody who married her penpal, so for the last 15 years the communication is only by talking. now that her husband retired and living with his family. the 15years of marriage seems like nothing, its like they are from the beginning, after the wedding. now they found out they have opposite personality, that complicates their family.

I'm also in this kind of relationship right now. we've been together for almost two years and it really hurts me now because its only a month since i flew from another country. Prayers, communication, trust, honesty and of course love're the keys (i think) to sustain long distance relationships. I'm still on the process of letting the pain go away though. :(

Well, it really depend the two of you on how to handle the situation. I have been in the same situation with my 2nd boyfriend before but sad to say i doesn't work out...that hurts me so badly..he got married to another girl. We do communicate but it takes long because internet, cellphone at that time is not yet so fully introduced as compared now a days.We only into communicate throught mailing letters. It hurts me badly because i been so faithful to him but as they said things are not destined to be so...life must go on. Glad to know you have constant communication. Keep it up and wish you goodluck.

I don't think so. For a while maybe it works but as time goes by it will not anymore for you'll be both longing for each others company. You'll be meeting a lot of people and so does he/she. So it will not be impossible that you'll be in-love unintentionally. For there is saying that love will get fonder if you're far from each other.

You are right . If love and trust is there, no distance is a distace. Your case is the proof of that. The person about whom you really think and consider, is not in a distance from you, he is in your mind, you are very close to him. Both of you are living in a mental togetherness. The sense of togetherness is the key for any successful realtionship.

no long distance relation dont work u would not able to knw the person properly and too expensive also, u have to wait for the person for long time so it is very difficult to manage and control urself

Mixed reaction. The availability of technology does not necessary make a person suitable to use it sensibly, I have some very good friends on internet for a considerable period. But let me add withemphasis that I have come across many a blunders as well. So best of luck to you.

yah, it works for me..i have a recent long distance relationship and he's living far from me in Canada..but it really works because we communicate everyday through emails and chatting every weekend or sometimes we do texting..it really work for us maybe because we trust each other and we really talk alot about our secrets and also we really love and respect each other..that makes our relationship strong until now..

Long distance relationships generally need more work because of the distance factor. However, if you're strong and remain so despite the fact that you don't get to see each other often, it can work. I did the long distance relationship thing for 4 months. It was all it took for us to know that we wanted to be together and I packed up my belongings and moved a third of the way around the world. I can state it was the best thing I ever did. We've been together for three years and are planning to get married 4 years to the day since we met. I know many people who have had bad deals when it comes to long distance and internet relationships, but I'm living proof that both can work. It takes maturity and trust, and most importantly, open communication

Oh yes i believe that long distance relationships can work. As long as it is true love it can survive anything. I see that your relationship is going strong and that is great good luck to the too of you. Both of you really have a good trust for each other and a strong love that will stand the test of time. I was also told that absences makes the heart grow fonder and i believe that too.

well personally from my experiences long distance relationships have not worked. my past relationship i was with a girl for 3 years and after 2 1/2 i moved out of town to work for a few monthes and she said she "needed a break" which is kinda pointless when ur already 8 hrs apart. so come to find out she met someone else. We also have a kid together and we really in love. But i find when you are apart from someone you spend so much time being lonely you start to find ways around it like going out with friends and sometimes ending up cheating or leaving for someone else. Of coarse that is not all situations. I'm sure it does work sometimes but it hasn't for me and i don't know anyone that it was worked out for!

i almostlost my relationship with my friend,the distance and time which is spilt us.so i don't a positive response

If you really care for this person and they care for you then there is no reason why it shouldnt work, its great the you grow stronger day by day but just dont get too caught up in spending "too much " time together, b/c then it can get really old really fast, anyways its great you have this kind of relationship and i hope works out for you !

yah it works. im on that kind of relationship too. but i know we both love it's other we always talk on the phone. and where talkin what happen to us day to day. like you said yup trust is the best way to keep your relationship stronger. and also love. and dnt forget to respect each other.

i was into that kind of relationship but it didn't last long to me.. i got tired of always/most of the time facing my pc since he wanted to chat with me. maybe i was just not committed to it. it was kinda sad since the relationship didn't end the way it should be. we just lost the communication and then no more... i guess, this kind of relationship really depends on people in it. if the two people involve in this kind of relationship are both love, loyal to each other, respect each other and trust one another then they might survive this. but i guess, not people are born this way....

I had 3 relationships of long distance. The furthest I had ever went was 1000+ kilometers from where I live. Shortest (of the long distance ones) was 400 kilometers. While the furthest was one of the best relationships I ever had (and I saw her just three times in my life), I gotta say, like everybody did, that it's not a matter of distance. It's how much you love that someone, or until when you can wait until she comes to you, or the other way around.

i think it is harder to remain,i don't have that kinda relationship so i can't tell for fair.however,if you two have the same firm faith,want to fight for it,it will definitely work.

Here's a quote that my bf told me... "A heart Truly in Love Never Loses Hope But Believe in the promise of Love, No matter How Long the Wait or How Far the distance."

my friends told me that long distance relationship are doomed! same here before, we find time to talk and share. calling each other everyday. but i guess long distance relationship is not for me. we broke up. your presence is a must. but i suggest don't quit maybe u'v got a chance in this kind of relationship.

I was in a long distant relationship once. I believe that they can work as long as there is communication and trust between the two of you. If the relationship lacks either one of these it is doomed to fail. When you do have these two main components in the relationship you build a stronger relationship over all in the long run. My long distant relationship did not work out because there was lack of both of these components. So my advice to anyone in a long distant relationship is keep the lines of communication open and trust each other.