Don't you wish to have your own place and your own life?

I will certainly like to live with my in laws unless and until they make my life miserable. I accept that on freedom part one might have concerns, but freedom u wont get even when ur kids are there. Besides there are many advantages of living together. Like u have someone to guide you, help u with household chores, help u with marketting, help u with kids, etc etc. Say sometimes u get ill, atleast there is someone who can pass on a glass of water to u. Additionally as I am a working girl, staying with my in laws will be most useful as my kids will notr be living alone at house.

I would prefer to have an own house. I really don't wanna live with my parents nor my in laws after marriage. Well, i want to give my wife and me the privacy. We wanted also to be independent so that we will learn by our own and be more strong when it comes to problems. I love my parents and my in laws but i don't want them mingling with our business because we are already on the right age. Parents always check their son or daughter when you live with them and this may be the cause of an argument between couples. It is really hard to live with parents when you get married, they always think that they know everything and we are the weaklings. So I'd rather rent or live in a new house with my family alone. We can visit them or the other way around but i don't want others to mess with my family. Goodluck!

i do, i really do... but there are some circumstances that we should consider. like for us now, as much as we wanted to live away from my in-laws, we just couldn't do it because we take into consideration the fact that she will be alone in their house. if we stay in another house, we wouldn't be comfortable if we keep on thinking that we left her alone. but in the future, when we are able to work out on this, we will definitely live alone. we wanted to experience how it is to be the decision makers in our own house. we wanted to have the freedom to do things that we want to start, things that we can't do in my in-laws house but will be okay in our house. or things that we do in their house that we don't like doing. it is still best to start on our own to learn the independence of being married.

i am not married but if i'll marry soon, i would rather choose to have my own life, to live alone with my husband rather than to live with my inlaws. even if i have a good relationship with my inlaws, i still have a life of us own. time will come there's going to be lil things that you'll argue with. and you cant have your own decisions either or have a private life, you cant move in the house the way you want it to because there's your in laws to think about for. i dont care if the house we are going to live in is not own but rented, it doesnt matter. what matter is that we are on our own and we can make things or decisions in our own also. we can always visits our inlaws weekly, right?..

i wish to have my own place,but my life is too hard,and my city's housing price is too high,so i have not enough money to buy,and i intend to get married this year,so if t want to have my own place ,i must to borrow money from my relatives and friends.in my city,there are many people rent a place.

in county ,it is common to live with parents after married.but in the city,it is too little.my boyfriend and i can't live with his parents, because we live in different cities.I think it is better to live apart with parents. we have different views with parents.so we may have more quarrels.

in my family, all of my brothers got married and my parents gave them space in our farm to build their own homes cause my parents want them to learn how to raise their own family. it's okay that there really are times that they have to knock my parents door for help but not all times, right..

no, i wouldn't even think of wanting to live with my in-laws... i treasure my freedom too much... i am already married and i only live with my hubby... and i am so happy for that... we have our own space and privacy... the in-laws call my hubby sometimes but it is OK... he visits his bothers and sister once in a while as well which is alright... as long as they are not living together with us...

i wish there would be no one axept me and my lov one in this world hehe :) a mean taught but there would be peace everywhere .....no one to dirturb nothing to worry about !! wooo..... well everyone wish a place for the leaving speacially after marrage it is must that you take out your wiffe from home ..beucas if she is leaving w ith your parents and siblings ...usually what happens that ....theres a figfht on small things resulting in many many big fights. ...better to have another house if you are capable of taking one ..and lifve hapily with each other !! ....

I’m currently married and have a 1.6-year-old daughter. Even before we get married, we already looked for a house where we can stay all by ourselves after the wedding. I don’t want to live with my in laws and I don’t my husband to also live with my parents. Living in a separate house makes us feel more responsible and independent. Also, since we live in a separate house, we can do whatever we want and like what you said we really feel we are the king and queen of our castle. We make our own decisions and we can do whatever we want with our lives.

I hate living at home still. Its the biggest pain in the butt. My parents werent great raising us. It doesnt help that I cant afford to move out. Their fights got worse over the past year. Why? I dont know. Dont care. Wish I could get out so the fights would stop though :(

Yes! I agree with you,I'm an independent person and if i get married I want to live with our own.Build our own house far fro family and relatives the start a happy life there.Staying in inlaws will not help you to be independent and a responsible parent.

Maybe it's just me, but I believe if you don't have enough money to live on your own, you don't have any business getting married in the first place. There is just no way I would marry if we both weren't mature enough to get and keep jobs, and be able to provide for ourselves.

i like my freedom i would love to live alone

I wish my life shopuld have her own opinion in every aspect.I dont understand the reason why the male do have such intention of degrading the female once they are married.I think its not their mistake it s all about the frustration they have in the working place they show on thier spows....

I agree with you. Before you get married, see that you and your husband have already plans to stay seperately. This does not mean you are going to break your relations with your inlaws.....you keep visiting them and they keep visiting you, but the houses should be different. When I got married 25 years before, I very much wanted a joint family, and that is what I got. But it was my mistake. Me and my husband could never enjoy any privacy and till today we are burdened with some responsibiity or other.Till today I could not wear what I wanted to wear, and we could not do things that we would had very much enjoyed if we were alone. And let me also tell you, no matter how much you do for your inlaws, they will never treat daughter in law as daughter, so it is all waste. So I think it is better if you young girls make right decision and not waste life like me.

I agree with you definitely. From the christian point of view, the bible says: for this purpose (marriage) shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife ... SO, there must be a leaving before there can be a cleaving. If you still live under thesame roof with your parents, you have not left and so you cannot cleave. Besides, you expose your spouse too much cos your family will be expecting too much from him or her and may not be patient to allow that person with along with them naturally. Besides, jealousy could start to set in too and more ... on the whole, its best to leave so that you can cleave. cheers!

I think it's a really bad idea to live with your in laws (or your parents) after marriage. They will expect you to live according to their tastes and principals, you will have neither freedom noe privacy, it can get quite suffocating. And then when you have kids of your own they will know The Best Way to bring them up. All in all- a bad idea.

Yeah.... I lived with my inlaws with my firsty husband and its a real disaster... since my mother in law... is a bossy type of person who likes to pamper his son...(my ex husband) Whew! its really hard... living in hell while you were alive! hahaha! Well I want to build a home of my own...when I can train myself to be a good mother and wife without being watched and observed... and i want my partner to learn to stand on his own...

I think its true because the first 5 months of our maried life is with my house inlaws, its really annoying sometimes they have the rule in the houde that we follow everyday like you have to help them out in the household chores and even the cat try to scratch you, they say dont hurt them just to make them run away. because they have many pets in the house. Compared now that we have separate from them and we have rented a home. I like it or should i say i really love it, there is no rules, no one will ever argue about the things you want to do in the house or when you want to go outside at night. not just like before.