long engagement can still keep virginity?? (mentality)
By akit_ortiz
@akit_ortiz (92)
Philippines
April 26, 2007 8:24am CST
does long engagement can still keep virginity??(mentality) im just curious.. i had a friend and she and her boyfriend is 9 years engage.. my friend is still a virgin, do you believed it??
well, yes i do believe in what my friend is saying and i do trust her.. she has a principle that she won't give everything until after marriage..
so how about you? do have the same principle like my friend has? share it.
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5 responses
@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Wow, that's pretty impressive! Yeah, I feel the same way. I decided to wait until marriage, and I just got married a couple months ago, and I'm actually still a virgin because my husband and I want to wait until our actual church wedding to give it up. We just got legally married when we found out he was getting deployed and it messed up our wedding date, so we're having our regular church wedding once he gets home, and that's when I'll finally give everything! lol
@akit_ortiz (92)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
yes like in the case of my friend, they had a long distance relationship and as i know it still works.. hope sooner they'll get married just like you because 9 years is enough for them.
@ScrappinHappyMom (914)
• United States
26 Apr 07
No one is engaged for nine years. If they haven't set a date and have a ring then really they are just fooling each other.
I think your friend should stay true to herself, like she is doing but she should start looking for a new man in her life. If he truly loved her and wanted to spend the rest of his life with her they would already be married. It sounds to me like he is playing games with her.
@akit_ortiz (92)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
yes, thanks for your response.. in the case of my friend they had a long distance relationship.. i don't know if her boyfriend just playing with her or not, don't really have any idea but i do have now because of what you've said. i'll try to mention it to her.
@erminiasanjose (1588)
• Philippines
30 May 07
The woman can still be virgin even if the engagement is long. However, 9 years is too long an engagement. What are they waiting for. There are people who were not able to push through the relationship because of long engagement. They are becoming old and their children could already be big if they married sooner. I am not in favor of your friend having too long an engagement for now she must be about 30 yrs. old - an old age for marriage and starting a family.
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
30 May 07
9 years engagement? Isn't that such a long time to be engaged?
As for the virginity issue, I still believe that it is still possible. If one has set her mind into remaining a virgin until marriage, with an understanding and supportive partner that will not force or intimidate her, it is quite possible.
I actually have that same mentality, but then as I get older I always add the phrase, "as much as I want to" and "but I am not speaking for sure." Because we really cannot say how we would act in the future, so as much as I want I would try to be one until marriage.
@rodeotexas (1153)
• United States
26 Apr 07
I think people can do it if they set their mind to it. But personally I wouldn't want to be enaged for 9 years.
