My bf does not want to get married....

I would ask him well if you want to marry me, marry me soon! Me and my fiance are getting married next summer, but we did wait since our parents wanted us to finnish college, but we wont be doing that. We agreed on a lon engagement and to get marriend after our 3rd year of college. If he doesnt want to get married yet, maybe he is still deciding if he wants to at all yet. take him to marrage counsiling, well i guess you would call it relationship counsiling. and have him fully explain himself. then go from there.

You know the decision is up to you, but you also need to respect your bf's wishes. Just because your family wants you to marry right now dosen't mean you have to do it. My family wants me to have a baby, but I can't, not in the financial situation I'm in. I would not feel right raising a child and not have enough money to take care of it. So for your family to pressure you to marry is not right. I will tell you, do what you feel in your heart is right to do. You decide.

Give him a time and dont push him - the men usually leave too aggresive women who hurry to marry and dont respect their opinion.If the reason is that he needs to make solide career before to marry-and this is the honest reason- you must think that this is for the common future.But if this is just a fear of beeing bounded -this is another problem.Be delicate and the time will show the real reason.Friendly and tactfull talking about potential life together- ok.But ultimatum for desision -NO!!!

Dear friend,I think you shshould give your boyfriend some time and dont push him.I think your boyfriend is not ready and can't afford to support a new family now.if he doesn't has a job or he has small earnings or he don't has a lot of money to get married the two of you,will you pressure him into rushing into marriage too puickly? your parents have their right thinking,but it's your relationship and your living not theirs.so your parents should lay off now.

yes,you should understand and support him right now.I think the most impotant thing between a couple is the understanding and supporting.AND i think what he told you is quite right,men really have to make a carrer and get settled in life first.The marriage is imortant ,and it should be based on the settlement of carrer and life.

If you really love this guy, you will wait and trust when he says he will really marry you , but not now, because he has to do something, and I guess he includes you in that plan, if he says one year, wait for him for one year, if it goes by without any plan or move from him, then you may have to rethink and question his truthfulness, don't settle too long on his hanging words...find someone who is true to their words..

Wait a minute? Your parents are pressuring you into a marriage? Nobody should ever get married because they are being pressured to do so. You should not do so because your parents want you to and he should not do so, just because you are pressuring him into it. I believe this marriage would be a total disaster based on what you've told us.

I think your bf is right. He should get settled first then start thinking about marriage, family and kids. I am also an Indian and I know how Indian parents pressurize their daughters to get married as early as possible. You say that you will be able to help build his career after getting married, but believe me that doesn't happen. Because once you get married, you have kids and you have to deal with the responsibilities of marriage and it becomes very difficult to concentrate on the career. Besides, he is 24 which I think is a bit young for a male to get married. I would also like you to check whether he is really serious about you and won't change his mind couple of years later and leave you in the middle of nowhere. I hope you guys take the right decision. My best wishes to both of you.

Why do you rush in getting married while a lot of married couple wants out.Let your boyfriend be and be thankful that he has the goal to make a career first. Don't be selfish as to pressure your boyfriend. He has a life of his own. Actually the more you pressure guys to get married the more they will feel hesitant because they will feel that you want to control them. Love is not the only factor why people get married. Patience. If you are meant to be together you will be together. Marriage is just a ceremony a piece of paper. It is the love in the relationship that matters.

The best thing that you can do is wait. If a man says that he is not ready, then you need to respect what he feels. Give him a chance to get his life together and you work on your life. Marriage is a very big step and not something that you want to rush into. Ask your parents why they are in such a rush for you to get married. Don't cause him any resentment, if you truly love him, then you need to wait for him or move on, but don't try to pressure him into something that he is not ready for, because, believe me, if you do, you will regret it.

and you should talk about something more with your parents right now.You have to calm down yourself first,calm down your parents later.Then talk about more details,analysis all the event ,just disscus it freely these days.hope you a good fortune

It's a frustrating situation. But if that's the only thing I am confused in a relationship, I would wait. If he has a specific timeline, that means he is quite sincere too. Getting married is a thing that's between two people, and it has nothing to do with friends and family. The two people have to feel right about the time of marriage and the mode of marriage. I also think it's very important to have a good foundation for the marriage life. If you give him any pressure into marrying you (just because other people are pressurizing you), I don't think it's rather fair to him. He is young and it's good that a man would want to build a better career! That would probably mean he could take care of you better!

as he is younger to u, certainly he would be wanting to settle down and do well, so he can get married to u. give him some time, but make him commit and keep up his promise. dont wory, if he does not show too much interest, ask him to speak to his parents and make them meet u, so atleast u know that they know, then make ur parents meet his parents, so atleast the presure would be less. all the best n dont worry, all ill be well

yepz, better wait, he's too young boy always think logic, they think about future, like after married what to eat, where to live, how many kids, where to work, while girl use feeling more often so, better wait :)

i think i agree with ur bf .... becoz he is looking his carrer..... thats nice ,, so u have benfit by that in the future after ur marriage u 2 should happen's with out any problem's ......... ah little sugest first u reme this..... don't look bf u love's ....... look a bf's u really care abou who love's u .... i think u understand......my point

I say what's another year? If your parents are pressurizing you you have to tell them to back off as it won't be happening over the next few months. The worst thing you can do is make your partner feel like he is being backed into a corner. He has said that he does want to marry you at some stage, so I think you should support him in his decisions now.

i think you should leave him. or if that's too drastic for you then ask for a cool off. obviously he's not sure about his feelings for you that's why he can't commit to a marriage. why don't you give each other space and try to find out what you two really want. dont pressure him into doing something that he might use in the future against you. if he really loves you, he'll do the manly thing and propose to you.good luck!

maybe he's not ready yet, or he can't afford to support a family yet, if he doesn't job or he has a job but small earnings, if he works a white collar job and he saves a lot of money, then im sure he's ready to get married the two of you.

If you really love your bf you will wait. Your bf wants to settle his career and get settle, that is good as your bf is thinking how he can give you and family a bright future. I had asked this question too to some of my guy friends, they've been in 5 years relationship and still not yet marrying the girl. They said, it is hard for the part of a guy to get married if they are not financially ready. They want to arrange everything first, so the girl's family will delight them too being a responsible man of the house. Marriage has to be planned, because it is a forever bonding between a man and a woman. Most marriages root cause of divorce are financials..this is based on what i had read but i forgot the site. So i think, give your bf enough time, don't be on a hurry and be patient. He need your support.

Well if you really love him and there is this assurance that after one year, you can get married then it will be worth it if you are going to wait. Because it will be hard if youre going to look for some one again and get married. It's your happiness thats involved here so don't be concerned to much about what your family will tell. it's your life anyway.