Would you ask your Mother in Law to move in with you?

It will probably be hard, but I think you are doing the right thing to give her a Granny annex. She can have her own space and so can you. Sometimes you need that. Good Luck,this is a very nice thing to do.

probably it depends how she is as a person. if she knows what "space" means - it is worth considering, as long as she knows to draw the line. if she is interfering, i won't let her move in - it will do more harm than good. weigh your chances. and i'm sure you'll get to the right decision in due time.

I'm not married now but when I was, I would have invited her to live with us in a heartbeat........ just so I could push her down the stairs!!!!! LOL I'm kidding! No, I wouldn't have invited her to live with us unless it was a last resort because to be honest she and my husband (ex husband) are 2 of a kind, ultimate pessimists. She is such a down person that to live with TWO people like that I'd kill myself.. or them?! LOL I think it's wonderful if your MIL is a nice person though. I love the mixed generations living together like it was in the olden days. I think they have so much to share with us.

I have lived with my mother in law, and I can tell you that it does not matter how much you love and like each other. If you are used to having your own space, and she is used to having her own space, then there will definitely be some runins. By this I am not saying that you should not ask her to move in, I am just saying that there will be bumps in the road. My husband is Jamaican, and he is the only son, so I know that I will be living with my mother in law again. I have told my husband that this is fine with me, but that we need to have a "guest house" for her. She needs her own place, and I need mine. We do our things differently, I love a clean kitchen, while she is more laid back, and her friends walk into the house with shoes on, while I love that my kids can play on the floor etc. Just something to think about, I am sure that if you do this with the consideration of your differences, then you will have few problems. The only thing is that you need to have your own space, and she does too.

Hell NO, in-laws and parents are great but things can and will change when they live with you.....

I wouldn't do it just because I like having my own space and I know how parents and grandparents can be. They try to tell you what to do and how to raise your child and that would be a major conflict.

Would I ask my mother-in-law to move in with me? Sorry nope, I wouldn't. Even if she were alive. Me and her did not see eye to eye on nothing. She made my life hell the first few years of my marriage and everyone saying let it go,So no I wouldn't ask my mother-in-law to move in.I am glad you get along good with yours they are alot of good mother-in-laws but I got a rotten one. She was so nice before, while we were dating but when the ring was on my finger she totally changed.

I am a mother in law, I am getting older and have a lovely daughter in law and son. We get along really well, however I would not like to move in with them or into a Granny flat next to them. I know there would be a lot of pressures. For instance if they entertained they would feel obliged to invite me and I would feel uncomfortable because I would think the invitation arose from a sense of duty. There are other things too. My daughter in law and I have different ideas how things should be done. Right now we respect each other because we visit and then we leave and do things our own way. When I need extra help as I did during an illness I prefer to hire someone from time to time to come in and help me. For me it is money well spent. I maintain my independence and I am still able to function. I think it depends on your own situation. How well you get on, how close you want the relationship to be and how much you want to include her in your own activities. It could work out very well or it could be a bumpy road.

Hmmm now that is a hard one, sure you get along now with you Mother in Law but she is not living with you, it is different when an older adult lives with you or you with them, they are set in their ways so if there would be anyway possible she could have a room away from the house, like a mother-in-law place where she could still have her privacy yet she would be close enough for you to take care of when she needs you, I would think that would work, but living in the same house with you, that is a hard one, I am sure you could make it work but it would be much harder on the entire family.

My inlaws are both elderly, and my FIL is in very poor health, so my husband and I have talked about this. I don't know if I could handle having my MIL live with us, but we talked about other options. There are some really nice elderly apartments just a few blocks away, and we thought that would be perfect for all concerned. Close enough for us to check on her and help her, but not under the same roof. Of course, if her health prevented her living alone, she would have to come live with us. I can't see any of my husband's brothers or their wives taking on the responsibility.

I actually live with my mother and fother in law. It's a good idea for some reason and not for some others. Anyway My mother in law helps me a lot with my domestic works and with my little child 8 month old, 'cause I am young and some things I do not know about children. I don't know what to say about any top tips on designing the annexe for her. I could say that if you have a big house it's no need for more space to live with her.

its very common for couples to live with their mother in law here in china.as you said,the good point is they can take care of her when she gets too old.so does she can do to their children.so its mutual.besides chinese are so family-oriented that they would love to live with their mother in law.but there are exceptions like me.i think the private space and life is important to me and my husband(suppose i am married).anyones joining in except our children would bother me more or less.i just dont feel comfortable with others.anyway we can transfer love to our mom and dad in another way cant we?

I have a mother-in-law who I don't get along with her and she with me. I would definately build her her own little granny unit that way she is close but not too close as to disrupt your daily life. You can have your space and she hers, that way you can get along and she won't question you daily life. I wish that I could do that with my husband's mother, but I know with her that she would always be calling my husband over and I would never see him. Also make sure to put in an intercom that way she can call you without any trouble.

I have not married yet,so I don't have the trouble like you,but I the way your do is right.I am a Chinese,in my country the people don't live with their parents.But most people who love their parents would live near them, even if they can not live together they can have dinner every week.I think that is enough, everyone has his own life so they need their own room, so do their parents.

Well I think that as long as you get along it is the best option for her health a wellbeing however I would be sure that she has her own section to call her own and that you have yours to a certian extent. Obviously you would want your bedroom to be on the opposite side of the house. Respect each other and all should be well. Really it takes a very strong relationship for a mother in law and her son and his wife to live together. It's good that she likes her own space also, so hopefully she will not interfer with your lives or take over the home. Really it all depends on the kind of people you are. You'll never know till you try. Give it some time and if it doesn't work out discuss other options. I wish you the best of luck.

Be prepared for a loss of privacy. It may feel nice to have her close by just so you can watch over her, but she may end up getting demanding.

Heck no she would drive me insane NOPE not me

Hi nancygibson thats a tough one. I know you feel for her and if my mother inlaw were still alive I would feel the same way. If you can build a little section off your house that would work out just fine I think. And I think you really sweet to want to take care of her. Your a good person.

Well I'm not yet married and if that time comes I wont ask my mother in law to stay with us.I believe that me,my husband and kids needs privacy.

Yes. I have lived with my mother-in-law for 12 years and we were pleasant to live with each other. she is a very kind old woman and tolerate for people around her. She loves every people and treats me like her own daughter. I'm proud of my mother-in-law. I can understand why many young people don't like to live with the old because of generation gap. My mother-in-law did have some different ideas about things from ours', but we have managed to understand each other. Now she doesn't live with us, but if she likes, she is forever welcome to come to live with me.