loving a person, also loving all of his imperfections?

I agree with you completely. I don't personally believe there is anyone perfect in this world. Everyone has imperfections and everyone can have a bad attitude at times. My boyfriend is far from perfect but I love him ... ALL of him including his bad times. That's how I know it's true love because I can look past those things and see the real him. And being in a relationship means helping him work past his imperfections and helping each other to become better people. If you want the perfect person ... you'll never be happy.

No, i don't agree with you completely because if you really love a person, you should not be considering his bad actions or doing. I agree with you that you should help him/her to be a better person. That You should let him know what he is doing is wrong. You should help him/her to be a better person.

Unfortunately, we always get to that point eventually. Love is just the most powerful thing in the world. It makes you do certain things that you wouldn't do for anyway else sometimes.

Yes, i truely agree to that loving a person means , loving him/her with all the imperfections also. if i love someone i love whole heartedly. i love him with all the omperfections. i m always after my hubby about his clumsy attitude, and irresponsible behaviour. but then after shouting at him i m all on my work again. I LOVE HIM A LOT, it does not matters what imperfection he is having or not i will still love him. everyone comes with the package of good and bad, something more and something less. the only thing i think one can do is to take the good and leacve the bad, share and compliment the perfections and tell and help him to improve his/her imperfections.one simply cannot leave a person because of imperfection.one has to be patient, calm and quite,it should be handled very politely as a person can at times feel hurt also. to teachg a small kid is easy as u can say anything to him/her becasue you are old , senior in relation and more experienced in life, but on the same hand it is very difficult at times to improve a person who is your life partner, whom you love the most, or is your b/f or g/f. Ego is a thing which can break many relationships just in a second. you will not be able to understand also and feel , what........ what went wrong..... i was just telling the right way to do....what happened....why is the other person behaving in such a manner?????????????? to improve a person from his/her imperfection is also a skill. one has to tooo patient to deal with the situation. it should not feel like you are dictating, or ordering or even teaching. it should come up in a natural way.slowly slowly, gradually, it will take time and the person will overcome it. At that time you will feel very proud on all what you have done and also that now the person who is infront of you is the same who was having all those impefections which u never liked. Love is a language which can teach everything , and very fast. only one thing you need, and that is patience. results will come. have a nice time.

Love is blind. Hence, it includes accepting all his imperfections and vices and not trying to change him. If by accepting and still trying to change him, it is not really love per se. It is loving oneself and not the other person. My humble opinion at this point of writing :P

I do agree with this in a big way. In order to truely love someone you have to love unconditionally. This means that you love all aspects of the other person no matter what they are. After all we are not all perfect we all have our ways and flaws. Some things need change but only if they want to change then you do help but you dont make them change. I know that in order to change in any aspect it must be done for oneself not for others because that will not work. You can recent the other because you had to change for them. I myself would not change a thing about my other half it is his differences that really attracted me in the first place it is what makes him unique and i love him to pieces.

i guess it's not loving his imperfections but accepting the fact that you both have differences. my boyfriend and i grew up in difference countries.. having different cultures. and at times, it's difficult to understand each other. but later on, we learned to accept our differences... but not just accept the differences. but there is this willingness in us to try and make those differences as our strengths. it will take a lot of hard work but i say, we're getting through it. happy myLotting cherrie!

None of us are perfect so to support one another is a grand thing. People need to want to improve and sometimes change so you must be aware enough to notice that. Love can go wonders and I hope that you find it in you to share and be rewarded for it too.

Hi, I agree with you completely as nobody is perfect and we have to accept the ways of positive with negative things about the person, but just as long as they are not abusive or violent then everything should be ok in regards to loving some one.

I agree with what you're saying... in a way. I think it's dangerous to go into a relationship with someone you want to change... when that's the case, look for someone else you DON'T want to change. Sure, everyone will have their imperfections and bad moments... and at such times part of loving someone is to be supportive and love them anyway. I think we can accept imperfections, but we don't have to love them. As someone once said "You can love the PERSON, without loving the ACTION."

Loving a person certainly means loving his imperfections aside from his positive traits. It is a decision actually to love someone unconditionally. But if the love you are giving is not reciprocated in a way, what's the use of loving him unconditionally. That is part of his imperfections but I don't think that is something worth dwelling on.

I just can't agree any more.There aren't any perfect people exist in nowday's world,i believe.And there won't be.So you have to accept others' shortcomings even he or she is not the person you love.Moreover,he or she is your lover.Accept others' imperfection makes you a popular person,and it is good thing to a certain extent.Don't you think so,my friend?

Yes, I totally agree! Of course we love our partners and it means loving them and accepting them for what and who they are. But it does not necessarily mean that it should end that way. If you think you can improve your partner and he is willing to do so, why not? It will do good to your partner and to the relationship as well. There should always be room for improvement. Not because your weaknesses and flaws are accpted by other, you wont try to change and improve yourself anymore.

By loving a person you must accept his attitudes, good or bad wholeheartedly and unconditionally. It also states in the Holy Book that one must not expect anything in return if you love someone....but I think that's very difficult to take. So, we're lucky if the person we love also loves us the same so we have to change each other better for the good of another.

Hi cherriemae, Yeah, I agree with you that when we love someone, we need to accept his imperfections. But meanwhile, we need to help him to change bit by bit. I like the relationship that both of us help each other to grow and become whom we want to be, or to become the better people. Although sometimes it's hard to accept some bad habits of him, who doesn't have bad habits? We need to be patient with each other, and remind each other on these. I find myself very lucky as I've found this person who helps me to build my real character, and become a better person. ^_^

If you really love the person, then you won't change some things with her/him because loving someone means accepting all his/her imperfections. However, I think it is better that we put it as helping the person that we love become better persons. We help and support him/her improve their bad attitudes or bad habits.

Loving a person is accepting most of his imperfections, and the ones that we have a hard time accepting, are the one we fight over for year..Lol. I think that falling in love with a person and loving a person are two totally different things. When you fall in love (crush) you usually love him and everything that is connected with him, that means his imperfections too. he can wear a donkey's head and we will still love it. Lol (midnight summer dream). But when you start living with him and seeing things, there are always and will be always things that you would not like in him, and things he would not like in you, and that is okay.

Hey, I agree with accepting for who he is, but In saying this if he had a bad attitude I wouldnt have patients for a bad attitude, I would get to the bottom of it and help him with it, or seek out some help. Im sure he would be sick of feeling like that himself. He may not even know how to get help for it. But I would try hard to help him out, otherwise he would make everyone he comes into presence with, upset and pass this bad attitude on to them his

I know exactly what you mean, and yes it's true, you have to love everything about the person, imperfections included, and you must always have patience, otherwise you have nothing. If you truly love someone you will never judge them or ask them to change, but if you find something you don't like about them, that you can't stand, then you need to let that person know. Love is a wonderful thing when you love all of the person and not just one or two things about them. That's what makes it so special and meaningful.

yeah i agree with this totally. When u love someone then u also should learn to tolerate all of his/her good/bad habits... and i suppose only then we can get the same feeling and tolerance in return... tht is the person who loves us will accept our good n bad things too!