I Hope It's Not Catching

Wolfie. I am here for you always. :). If anyone comes on here depressed I do what I can to make the feel better. But only special people get my special touch. *grin* Not many people make me depressed although sometimes I get sad. but most of the time im pretty upbeat.

Moping is an entertaining activity, wolfie, and I have indulged in it enough times. :P Glad to hear that you are perking yourself up! Here's a pat on the pat to congratulate your active effort in this. Way to go pal. You CAN and you WILL start SMILING again. ;-)

Depression, much like hapiness, can spread from one person to the next like wildfire. I don't care to read about depression for that reason. I have been somewhat depressed at times in my life and have no desire to go back to it. I would like to feel sorry for you and others that are depressed, but I won't. Let's say that all 90,000 of us here at mylot were to feel sympathetic toward you. Would that make you feel any better? Would all the pity help you overcome your depression? More feeling bad cannot create less of it. The answer is for you to see within yourself that you have the power to feel as good as you want. I think that as you focus upon your depression, it creates more of it for yourself. It is a law of the universe that says whatever you focus upon expands. I believe that to be absolutely true. Change your focus away from depression. There has to be something whithin you or about your life that is much more postive and uplifting for you to focus on.

You sound happier! II just hope i wasn't to hard on you depression is an illness which i'm sure i've told you my son suffers from he seems to be getting a lot better though he still has bad days and feels sorry for himself it has brought us closer so i know how bad things can get. Don't rush anything i always tell my son small steps at a time do whats right for you, not anyone else. I have seen how you help others you have that gift and we all love you i am here as a friend if you need to vent!

ahhhh wolfie we all get liek this from time to time. i am glad you are feeling better though. i dont think there is a person anywhere that can say they have never just felt down and depressed at some point. when i run across someone that is in one of those moods i try and find out why and see if i can help. if anything i try to make them laugh or smile. i have a strange sense of humor and it works alot of the time. now if i am around that person alot like if it is hubby and i cant get the to cheer up yea sometimes it effects me too. then there are those like my sister that she is a drama queen and wants everyone to feel sorry for her. she has a great life but she complains that she has to clean the kitchen on the maids day off and gets depressed over that. hmmmmmmm a maid how nice is that and the poor maid only gets 1 day off a week. my poor sis has to clean her dishes or put her to go tins in the trash. that one i raise my eye brows at. if i had a maid like that just 1 day a month i would be happy.i guess it depends on the reason soemone is depressed. cause when she calls i ask what is wrong and when it is something like that i dont pamper her i raise the eyebrows lol keep smiling and dotn feel bad for being in those moods just be glad when the mood is over. lol

To be honest honey - I have been there myself too many times and I would never turn away any friend who was feeling low or depressed - I was lucky in that whenever I have needed an understanding ear or a shoulder to cry on I have had friends around me who have understood, encouraged and loved me unconditionally! We all need a helping hand sometimes and I will always be here for you! You don't depress me at all but I worry about you cos I know how bad it can feel and I hate to think of you going through that when you are so far away that I can't give you a real hug so this will have to do for now! {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}} xxxx

whenever i encounter sad discussions here in myLot, i feel sad, too. especially my friends. i don't know why. but i get affected somehow. because i feel like myLot for me is my second home and my friends are my second family. sometimes, i feel like i want all people to just be happy. and since i can't do that, i just read my friends discussions and be supportive to them... give them a little push when they need one and give them some faith to trust in themselves more. but you are doing okey wolfie. yup. most of your discussions have been depressing. hehe. but well, that is you... and it's nice for you to open up. you are able to release some bad emotions you are keeping inside you. and we are able to understand you more. atleast now, you're in the other phase of life... being positive despite those bad experiences you've had. and we will hope for the best for you and look forward positively in life with you. happy myLotting... finally,i can say that to you. hihi

Wolfie I am the type of Person that will feel for that Person I have had to deal with a lot of things on my own for years as I did not have a Computer or the Friends I have now or anywhere to go So I understand this is the Place where you know you will get help and that is why I try to help and I am sympathetic towards People and I try my best to help them and at least try to give them Hope a bit I know what it is like having to deal with it alone, I had given up Hope many a time over the Years but for some unknown reason I have always got through then 6 years ago I made Friends with a lovely Man that I was working with in London for 2 weeks and he was a very good Friend and always listened to me and always picked me up 5 1/2 years ago I got the nerve after 21 years to stand up to my Ex Husband, 4 years ago my Divorce was final 3 years ago my Friend and I became Lovers and he is still there for me all the time So you see Wolfie I know that you need someone when you are down and please never apologize to me I will always try and help you where I can, you do not depress me at all, you make me feel protective over you and I wish I could just swipe all your Upset and depression away with one sweep You will get through and you have a lot of Friends that will help you Hugs to you

we just are real. We cant always be in a good mood. its good that we can come here and discuss problems and issues.We all take turns in life with different problems.If we look and helping each other and giving good advie then someone may have a better day. Its lways best to have more then 1 persons take on something because in here someone may think of one thing that will get you out of a spot.I think if we all came in here perfectly happy all the time it would be phoney. Thats not real life. We do encourage each other so some positive support is here.

Hi Wolfie, I lived with depression and low self esteem for more than 40 years, and I do understand you, and it was through people that I knew that I got the much needed feedback I needed to get on my feet.You will notice I did not say friends, it was class mates that gave me the feed back and while I thought I was a real nice lady they told me how I really was and how my attitude and bearing affected them. I was hurt dismayed and thunderstruck, so I stopped and reread their judgments and there was a reoccurring message that my passive personality was detrimental to me and it made me very unattractive, socially, not physically but they didn't want to have to deal with me, because I was unable to tell the truth as I believed they would be hurt by my observations, when in fact what they wanted and needed was the plain unvarnished truth, because you can not change unless you know there is something wrong. If some one keeps feeding you the you the you are OK crap and underneath you know this is not the truth whom are they helping. Some times we need a bit of a kick up the back side to get our attention. Also we have nothing to gain or lose by telling you what we believe.

I try to talk to them and decide if I think I can be helpful by listening or making suggestions...Each of us is here to help the other in my view...and each of us will have the down times and the good times..we need to recognize what we can do to help and when we are needed...I do feel sad at times for those that are continually depressed as I know it must be a tough life to live..but if I think my positive outlook and smile can help..I will always offer it..and lending a truly concerned ear is always something I try to do...Hope you are feeling better and that things are looking up for you!!!

No problem and it's not catching. I think it's great to have a friend here on mylot to listen and try to give you a feedback on whatever the problem might be and as for me I am here to listen and try to give you any help as we all do get depressed from every now and then.

No problem and it's not catching. I think it's great to have a friend here on mylot to listen and try to give you a feedback on whatever the problem might be and as for me I am here to listen and try to give you any help as we all do get depressed from every now and then.

Hey friend, please know we all have our demons to deal with and i know depression all too well. But it is true it can get a real hold on you if you don't fight it. I'm glad your conscious of your mood like i made myself aware last week to.I was having a real pity party for myself. sometimes i find if someone gives me a good kick in the pants its better than sitting there crying with me. I know my friends know how sad i can feel but really it does me no good if they sit and cry too. But that;s just my case and everyone is different. I hope you have a brighter week ahead Cheryl

Aww, Brian...i don't mind if you come to us with your depression. If you need to talk, i am sure i am not the only one who will be here for you...but i like that you are going to try to cheer up and be more positive. i know how hard that is. Honestly, if someone comes to me pessimistic and depressed, i do my best to help them out. Even if it is just an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on. i knwo how it feels to b do down in the dumps, and if i can help anyone get out of it, i will. i will do my best.

I never questioned anyone who are in a depressing state. I went through depression myself and I know how difficult it is. I always emphatized with them and tried to show all my support. There is really nothing funny about what you went through, wolfie. We all have it and sometimes, we needed to pour out our feelings or else, we might ended up with a cardiac arrest.

not really because most of the time I know how the person feels and will offer any help I can