Having a second child.....Hubby isnt too sure.....

My grandma has a saying about this "To have a child you have to love it and put shoes on it, if you can do these two things have more children" No one except the well off are financially prepared to have children you just have what God gives you and you make your family work. An extra baby doesn't cost much, now if you were talking about adopting a 15 year old I would say no way could you afford it LOL!

I often hear this as the reason that individuals put off having a baby but the truth is you will manage if this is what you truely want . We spend money everyday on things that we could cut back on if we had to . One has to make the decision of what is more important . If you wait too long you are taking the chance of not having something that would bring so much joy into your lives . I had two children when I was really young and then was unable to have anymore for eight and a half years . There was no way any one would have known this when I had my first two but after I had them I started miscarring all my babies . My husband and I went to a fertility specialist to find out what the problem was and was told it was a miracle we had ever had any children at all as we both had problems and there would be no possible way that I would ever be able to carry another child to term . I was devasted over this and each month prayed they were wrong . I did prove them wrong eight and a half years later when I was able to have more . If I had waited as most people had told me to do , I would never have been able to have another child as I would have been too old . I would love to have more now but I am getting too old to be able to have more and I also have health problems today that would be an interferece in having another child . People always think they should wait until they are finacailly stable or wait until they are a bit older or wait until they have their own home or many different reasons . You never know what you could be missing out on and once you are older it is too late to look back on what you could have had . I would explain to my husband that no matter what we would be able to pull though this even if it meant cutting back on something that you do each week or something . For example if you go to the restaurant then this would be something you could cut back on even if it was something you did rarely . There are always ways to cut back if you really want something in life . My husband and I have five children and our children have all the things in life they need and are very happy . My husband is the only one working and for most of the time has always been the only one to work . I have had odd jobs here and there but in the years that we have been togehter he has been pretty much the sole provider . He doen't make a huge amount of money but we are very happy and our children are very happy . I don't regret the decisions I made and am glad I didn't wait to have my children as I would never have all the children I have today if I had taken the time to wait for things to get better for us . This is something both you and your husband will have to give a lot of thought to and come to a decision that is right for both of you . Just don't let time pass you by because you never know what you could be missing . Best of luck in whatever you choose to do .

To ease the burden on your husband then you should see about working. The when he sees more money coming in he should agree on having another baby. And you will contributing to the household. Because if you cant afford it then dont even consider it. And instead of putting your child in day care have one of you family members watch him.

Oh my God ! Do we live in the same house? MY husband is the same way and all of my friends say I should trick him into it, but me and my husband have a honest relationship I couldn't see myself doing that to him. I think that is ridiculous that they would even suggest that! I guess that figures though when you get insight from single women , then they wonder why their single in the first place. I say just reach a compromise like me and my husband did. We decided that we would try to concieve again around this time next year plus we need another car, because he has a son from a previous relationship. Be glad you don't have those problems. Oh yeah my daughter the joy of my life is a year old.

It will be merrier if your son will have a new playmate. Financial matters are really important when raising a child. If I were in your shoes I will assure him that this baby will not a burden. You can help him with the money matters. Doing some part time like this, mylot. As a mother you must make both ends meet. Proper budgetting might help.

You can get a job to help him ease his mind ;). Although of course that wouldn't really help out the moment you want to go get a kid though. But kids cost mostly anyways from the period of around 10~18 (and above if you keep spending on them). In that period you could take a job getting a second income in the family in example.

Tell your husband,the first kid came with his own destiny...once the child is here the parents take care of the child and the child makes its own place in the family!The second time around it will be easier in terms of the two kids bonding and the two of you having a complete family...of course financial issues are there but they too might get sorted out more easily than you expect...maybe the child is lucky for both of you and you get to earn better money!Who knows when lady luck might get kind!

If you are financially all right, then this is the right time to think about another child. With two children you can teach them a lot, like concept of understanding, sharing, loving, companionship, and so much more. Single kids always miss these pleasures in life, even if not now, then later in life. The decision has to be made by both of you, think n talk about it. Wish you a happy life.

I would really think this through carefully before making a decision. Children can be pretty expensive and may be especially hard if only one parent is working. With the rising cost of gas and everything else I would think about it and discuss before deciding anything. Since you obviously love children, have you ever considered opening a daycare? That way you could be with your children and make some money.That might help the financial aspect.

Why dont you do this thing - your kid is old enough for you to go out and work now. You guys give yourself a year - you work for a year and save that money. At the end of the year you guys can plan for a baby and it wont be a financial strain since you'll have some money saved up.

I think it will be ok, especially if you were smart & didn't get rid of any of the baby stuff you bought for your first child - bassinet/moses basket/cot, change tables things like that - then you wont need to re-buy it all! A lot of my daughter's initial clothes were in neutral colours so that always helps & eBay is a great place to get things cheaply! Plus, you should know that newborns aren't overly expensive anyway so you'll have a while before you have to worry about too many financial issues. I guess all you can do is explain to your hubby that the major costs wont be a worry for a while & you can worry about them a little further down the track. Depending on where you are, you could always have a little income with the in-home daycare, which would help a little & just cut back on luxuries, you'll get by, things always work out! Good Luck & i wish you well with having a 2nd child!

wel.. i do understand your husband position.. if i were him.. i wouldn't agree to have second child too.. i think all you can do is to try hard to make your financial stable.. since you're a housewife.. i would then suggest you to make business using ebay.. have you heard of it? i think it's a good potential earning as i've heard many make good moneys from there.. you can try that.. that might lift your burden a little.. it's not advisable to post here to lift your burden.. it's very hard to make a living with mylot.. but you can get alot of experience here.. maybe others might have better suggestions =)

I understand your situation. As you said your hubby is scared of financial aspect, that mean right now you can't afford for one more child. If there is any income from you too, then if you feel you can afford for second child then you can go for one more." If we can give the best for our children, then nothing like it, whether its one or more children".you should discuss with him ,about you working so that you can support him financial to reduce little of his burden.

I am in a simaler situation. I partly wanta second child, but then worry about finaces, becasue in my mind two was always a good number. My husband only dreamed of having on child. I think that we may have one if we both really want ine, but right now I think one is good.

Were you in a healthy financial situation before you had your son or have things always been a little unstable? I know that most of us have the same issue of financial unstability in one way or another. But pull your desires aside for the moment. Would it be a smart idea to have another child at this time? What would you have to sacrifice in order to make it a feasible option? Can it be done? I understand the feeling of wanting to expand your family, but sometimes the timing isn't always right. I think that you and your husband should sit down and discuss this issue at length. Look at your finances together. Tell him how you feel and listen to what he has to say about how you feel. I hope that helps. :)