how is your relationship with your father?

I've never really met my father. He really wanted nothing to do with me when I was younger, he denied that I was his child and demanded that my mother and me submit to DNA testing to prove I was his child. When that proved to be positive, he really didn't want to pay child support or anything like that. He just kind of decided that he didn't want to engage in my life at all. He showed up here once, and he was drunk, so my mom told him that unless he shaped up, he wasn't going to see me again. He never did really shape up and never came around. He tries to screw us over on child support. He works jobs for a few days to get a nice paycheck, or works a job where he can get paid under the table so he doesn't have to pay me as much as he should. I've only seen him once when I got older and that was by complete mistake. He happened to be in the area for our local fair and well, he ran into my mom and I and asked if I was his daughter. She got frustrated with him and just walked away. So needless to say, I have a really horrible relationship with my father.

im the elder son of my father.. now im 22yrs old.. now a days he cats as my friend.... always give me any solution... ask for my decisons...

I am sorry to hear of your loss of a relationship with your father but I can relate . For many years growing up my father was not there for me either . He lived in the same house as us but knew nothing about me as a person as I was not like him and therefore he did not understand me and I did not understand him . My sister and him were very close and she was spoiled by him and I can remember wondering why I couldn't have a relationship like that as well . Things at home were always hard as my sister had a good relationship with my mom as well and I didn't , so I didn't feel I had anyone I could go to when I was upset or unhappy . I can remember looking around at other families and wishing I could have grown up with a family that loved me as it seemed everyone else had . As the years went by , I grew up feeling that they didn't truley care about me and although it still hurt , I became used to this feeling . When I got married seven years ago , my dad was terrific , I couldn't have asked for a better father , he seemed so happy for me and he was what I had always wanted him to be , just proud of me for who I was . After the wedding he spoke to me and apologized for the way things were growing up and although he couldn't do anything to change the past he could be the father I alwasy wanted for me now , he explained that at the time he thought he was doing what was best for me but that now he realized that it might have not been the best for me but although I may not have been happy with the ways things were that he must have done something right as anyone would be proud to have someone who was as kind and caring as I was , since then we have talked many times and he is the best father he can be . I guess what I am trying to get at is although you and your dad don't have a great relationship and you don't believe you ever will , you never know what may take place in your future to change things . For 29 years of my life I didn't feel like there was anyone there for me and but now I have something that I always dreamed of having when I was younger even though my mother and I have never come to grips with the way things were , I feel as though I have someone who might actually care about me and care about what is important to me even though we still think differntly and have different idea's in life . Take Care and just remember you are not alone as it happened to you and it happened to me and I am sure there are thousands more with stories like ours or even worse , we have to look at what we have now and just be grateful for what we have in our life that is important to us now and you never know what the futrue has in store for you .

One can understand your feelings and how you are missing the parental bliss. One thimg that I felt is that you do have positive thinking, inspite of the sorrows that you have. This is indeed good and I would say that you must keep it up. Often, parents do not realise the kind of feelings children go through. It is really sad that parents have to separate. Most of the times, the responsibility falls on the mother and the poor mother slogs and makes so much sacrifice for the sake of children. You could tell your father if you love him. I do not know how your mother would feel about this because she has taken care of you when he did not. I hope everything would turn out well for you. Have courage and do not indulge in self pity. Do take care of your mother, always.

From the alive person inthis world, I love my father most then my mother. Now I am Dhaka, 100km away from my family even from my father. About 1am, he maked me a call on mobile & he talked with me few minutes. He told me to meet with my family tomorrow & so on... As you mentioned still you love your father.... No matter your parent is separated, still you may make your father as a good friend. He is an electrician & you have paid him for his work.. it's looking so complicated. Don't take it negative at all. He loves you greater from you but it is secret. Any reason (may be for your mother), he don't want to reavels it. But I wish you have to be discover it... I also think it is really possible for you.

I am sad to hear that you long for a better relationship with your father. But I am happy that your attitude is not filled with bitterness. I had a wonderful father who is no more. I was as close to as possible and he loved the time he spent with his children. I know how it feels when you miss that. We all have out little problems in life, but I am sure that you have a very positive attitude to life and with that, nothing can actually pull you down. I am sure that you will be a better person as you have gone through some suffering in the right way, not blaming others, but coming out of it gracefully with your strong philosophy of life.

i understood your sorrows about your father. you made me worry. let me tell about my father. he is busyman.he has so many things to do in everyday.so he has no time share with us.he has a habit of drinking.so we never like this habit. once evening he used abuse words against me infront of my mom in his drunken mood.my mom knew,that was his mistake.so i decided to left home.for two months i lived in a hostel. after that instance,i lost my love towards my father. but i love my MOTHER. she loves me a lot. i knows he cares me more than my sibling.i shares every matter with my mother.even i need money,she will give me without asking.she is a good cooker. so like my mother than my father.

My relationship with my father is genuine, affectionate, balanced , respectable and full of love! At the age of 87 he is inspiring us with his true sensitivity and simplicity! We all salute them and then bent to his feet to get his blessings!

it`s unforgotten. i love his way to lead me. but he was die since 7 years ago. i love him, and i really miss him.he is very good leader.

I have a great and smooth relationship with my father until now.Although I already got married my father is always there advising and giving me some tips in life.I am so grateful having him in my life.

my relationship with him is always close..i'm a daddy's gurl..so..it has never changed through the years

It depends on the week with me, sometimes we get along great and other times we dont get along much at all. I do know now that we no longer live together we get along a lot better because we are too much alike and always clash heads. Now that I am also a mother, he doesnt get in my business as much.

When I was a child ,my father didn't live with us. He lived in a different city because of his work. So I didn't like him till i was 5 years old. At time ,my father get a heavy sickness, he lived in a hospital for almost 1 year. And I was sent to my aunt' house. Because my mom had to look after my dad in his city. When my dad had completely recovered, our family moved to his city, then we live together. He treated my brother and I very well, he oten bought some stories for us. I love stories very much at that time. Now I havent see my father for 4 years. I miss him very much. Luckly, this July , I will go back home to visit him.

my father is kinda insensitive too at times because he'll just yell at us whenever things got wrong in him or when he is on bad mood! Sometimes he even say bad words and it hurts me.. us his children.. At times I totally hate him especially when he hurts mom but then again it was just the way it is and i can't do anything about it because im just his child and i should respect him even if he has his own shortcomings.

it's great. he's my mentor and all. he guides me through the right path. he taught me who is God. everything about success through God. i admire him so much that if i am to marry someone, i long it to be with a man like my father. he'll always be the number one guy for me here on earth.he's the best.