I Hate it when my Boyfriend Compliments me over my Looks..!!
By stella1989
@stella1989 (2274)
India
May 1, 2007 4:09am CST
It true!! I hate it when my Boyfriend Compliments me over my looks or figure.!!
That is because...his compliments makes me feel that he is with me only because of my looks and the figure I have..! Not because of the REAL person inside this body..!!Who is a real sweet and careing and little bit crazy too..!!lol
So the BOTTOM line is I hate it when my boyfriend compliments ME over my looks !!
What about you..!!Are you comfortable with the fact that your MAN is with you because of your looks..!!And hey I am not saying "only" because of looks but the first thing keeping him with you is your looks other things come after it..!
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16 responses
@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
1 May 07
And my girlfriend keeps asking me to compliment her more often, lol. Girls... they are just so complicated :P, for us guys it just appears to be never right no matter what we do, lol.
But try talking to him about it, see how he thinks about it.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
YES man seriously..!! this something really wierd ..!!Why can't people get satisfied easily..!!
Every one has his own problem with their ones..!lol
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@pamilicious (265)
• Malaysia
1 May 07
i would feel the same way if i were you. i mean, compliments once in a while is ok. but if he does it too many times, now thats a problem. i want my man to see the person behind my exterior look..and although our exterior looks are whatmakes them fall for us in the first place, the interior side of a person is whats important. looks only last for 5minutes..but if you have a heart of gold, it lasts for a lifetime
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
1 May 07
finally.!! some one like me..!!That is what I exactly want to say..!!
Nobody cares to see beyond our looks....or may be we are mistaking in finding "the ONE"
I would love to have a honest person who will complement me when needed..!! and even criticizes me when needed..!I'll prefer no compliment than fake compliment.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
He is with me because of my looks ..!!
He never shares anything closer to his heart with me..!! There is hardly anything precious that Only "I" know about him. He keeps saying that their are many things which he can't share with me..!!"But" he hardly shares "anything" with me..!!Nothing ...If he is upset he cannot tell me the reason, he started smoking of some depression but he cannot tell me the reason of depression..!! and many more .
Now what else I can get from this?
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@sunnyckell (483)
• United States
1 May 07
So are you saying that your boyfriend is not being genuine with his compliments or are you saying that he's just with you for your looks? You've said both.
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@anonymili (3138)
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1 May 07
Hi Stella, my husband always compliments my looks when I dress up but I know he's not with me just because of them. I am beautiful in his eyes but I know for a fact that I am rather overweight - even my doctor says so - it is not just me saying that. Would you rather your boyfriend paid you no compliments about your looks and looked at other women all of the time? Because I can guarantee if he was doing that, you'd soon be worried that he didn't find you attractive. No matter what we girls think guys do not stay with girls purely because of their looks, that might be the initial attraction but being with someone who is gorgeous but dense and boring just wouldn't cut it for 99.9% of guys, so be happy in the knowledge that he is with you because of your other attributes too. x
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
1 May 07
well thats ok if your man is not with you only because of your looks..BUT..the "initial" factor was "looks" !!..And I am not comfortable with that!!
Is It like girls duty to to attract boys from her looks..!I want to change that initial thing..!!
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@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
2 May 07
Its the other way around too. Girls go to guys for their looks initially.
That's all we got basically. The first thing we know about a person is their looks, after that we talk to them and spend time with them the looks don't matter anymore. If you are that bothered with looks then date a blind man or do blind dating.
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@coolimrose (539)
• New Zealand
2 May 07
ur a crazy woman enjoy the attention while its last.I know it kind of hurts but ultimately he will recognise the real you and compliment.Are only your looks complimented all the time then u must be really pretty.But if this dosent change then i guess its time to change him for he too might be as temperory as ones looks are.Maybe u tone down on the way you present try to be simple in his company to test him.Alll the best to you hope he knows beauty ;lies deep inside and that is what matters the most.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
YEs thats it..it seems he "is" kind who remains till beauty remains. I am going to fix that soon.
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@rangolaa (18)
• Singapore
1 May 07
Hey Hun.. If Your Boyfriend Complains about your looks.. i dont think he is in love with your heart but urs looks.. I i were you i would start looking for someone who loves me for what ever i am rather then expecting me to change for the sack of them.. Try talk it out.. if not quit the relationship..
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
evelynlyp..!!You got me exactly..!!
I don't like it when my boyfriend compliments..me..!!Because except that he has nothing say...!!
According to me you should be with the one you like talking to ..!!
But I get usually bored when we I chat with my boyfriend becasue there is only one topic "My looks" thats it ..!!
There are lot more thing in this world than my looks I don't want a man who forgets his whole "life" just to love me..!!!
Becasue I want to partner him while he sail to his aim , "I don't want him to make ME as his aim.."
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@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
2 May 07
He's not complaining. He's complimenting - telling her that she looks good. She's saying its a bad thing because he only talks about her looks and nothing else.
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@adityamandan (102)
• India
26 Sep 07
well dear think of it as this way. if it hadnt been for ur looks he hadnt been attracted to u in the first place. love follows attraction. its the first step towards love. and one should never forget the first step that you took towards ur goal. because if it hadnt been for that first step then maybe he hadnt been ur boyfriend at all. and now if he loves u then its because of ur nature. and let me tell u never expect ur boyfriends to compliment ur nature.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
26 Sep 07
Hey.. first of all to ME looks of a person is never a first step towards love!!
You know how I define love??
To me love means you are so used to you each other that you cannot be parted!!
You actually love all of his "flaws"..!!
You like the way he eat noisely, the way he do mistakes..and etc etc!!!
I don't actually go over with looks,ettiqutes,elegence and well manners..!!
The thing is just be REAL YOU!! Thats it!! Is it that hard to be just yourself??
Thanks fro your reponse.
:)
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Sep 07
I guess you are right..!!
Love is something you can't actually define..!!
Thats the thing here....we all have different definations!! All we need is just open our arms selflessly and wait for our love.
:)
@adityamandan (102)
• India
26 Sep 07
well what you r saying is true for the case when two friends rise in love? but what will you say for the case of love at first sight? there obviously its the looks that will start the spark called attraction. love is a journey which starts with attraction. as there is saying love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a smile.
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@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
2 May 07
I don't a very high self-esteem.. so, having my boyfriend compliment on my body/looks is quite nice once in a while..and I appreciate it. But I can imagine it's a little too much if you're getting it alllllll the time. I suggest you talk to him about it. Let him know it's nice to get compliments like that, but try not to over do it.
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@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
1 May 07
I way of view you boyfriend is this, he really is fond of you and like you very much. Maybe what he talks is just to make you happy. And more likely he is expressing he true feeling. I just think if I really like this girl or even in love with her, I would enjoy the view of her face, figure. Because she is the one who matters to me.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
1 May 07
hey...! I like the way you think towards things..!
I try to change myself..!! But I think He is really lying just to make me happy ..as I hate to get fake compliments..!!
Its like I would like to criticize my boyfriend before anyone else does..! He is mine and I have the right to correct him..!! Like your parents do to improve you..!
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@Norstar (694)
• India
2 May 07
It is quite unusual!
Usually, girls feel very happy and elated with such compliments from their boyfriends. This may be the reason why you are are told the same things that boyfriends feel would please you.
Did you tell them that it does not flatter you and that it annoys you, instead?
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
Nahh he is not familiar to that...that his compliments annoy me..!
Well this proofs that not every Gal is same type..!!They are different and BOYS you HAVE to accept it We are all not same..!!
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
1 May 07
My partner compliments me over my looks when I dress up to go out, but trust me when I tell you he's not with me just because of my looks, and my looks were not the first thing that attracted him to me. Nor are they keeping him with me now.
I think when your partner is paying you compliments, he's doing it because he truly loves you, and is expressing his feelings at you looking so good. It's not him saying that he's with you just because of your looks. He's telling you that he he loves you and wants you to know that.
Honestly, I know some friends who would LOVE it if their partner complimented them on their looks. I think you're a very lucky girl lol.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
Thats the thing, people can never stay happy on what they already have ..!! like I do..!! they want to have something else..!!
See My boyfriend is not really that attractive but honestly I am..to some extent..!!( no pride involved)
I want him to tell me about his feelings, his problems,his happiness and about himself his family ..But NO..to him there is only one thing in this world for him my looks. If casualy I complement any other girl in front him with clear honesty he just offends and say she is ugly ..BUT I am beautyful.. NOW that makes me feel he is faking..!!
Or may be he is scared of the fact that I'll leave him just becasue he do not compliments me..there are far more better things that I actually want form him..!!You know your talking about LOVE he just forgets my birthday every time( I never mind that)..
But he never forgets to compliment me.
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@charlestchan (1415)
• Malaysia
1 May 07
i think every man or woman will hate it when others compliment them on their looks. .don't you think so? unles that you're a realistic person. .and you do like other to say you're handsome.. or beautiful.. me.. as a man.. seldom have a chance to get such compliment.. in fact.. i do get some at times.. and i think it's merely fake compliments.. i really hate them because such words actually make me blush.. and when i blush.. i became real weak.. haha.. i don't think they're with me because of my look.. but due to my attitude and personality.. i'm a quiet and serious type of guy.. i talk at times. .but i don't like crapping too much =)
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@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
2 May 07
Do you stop to think that maybe they really mean it when they give you compliments. You may not look good to yourself but you surely look good to them. Don't be so quick to put them down.
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@tyuepsc (189)
• China
2 May 07
It is very normal thing that men focus more on women's look and figure, but women more to something inside the body.Maybe it is just different between men and women's way of thinking. Don't worry about whether he really love YOU both outside and inside.Maybe you just think too much. If my boyf prases me , I will be happy and accept it.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
I guess you are right..!!
MEN and WOMEN are realy DIFFERENT from each other..!
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@thai11 (239)
• United States
1 May 07
Don't hate it that he compliments you, appreciate that he recognizes your physical beauty!!!! Yes, we all have more to offer than what is on the outside. Have you thought about how you are portraying yourself to him? Maybe when you 2 spend time together, you may say little comments that only he catches that may lead him to think that he must compliment you on your appearance!! my man and I have been together for over 2 years now, we live together and there is no way that we could have lasted this long on a physical attraction alone!!! As a woman, you know what you want and you know how much you can tolerate so if he is not loving you for ALL of you, its time to keep it movin-
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@lorraine2577 (30)
• Philippines
2 May 07
Be proud!!! Your boyfriend appreciate your beauty... I living with my partner for almost 9 years but I never heard from him that I'm beautiful.. He never appreciated my looks but only my educational background... He used to fooled me once and more... and his reasons is that bcoz I'm UGLY :((
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
1 May 07
Hey, if he never makes a compliments with you, it will be a reason to ask why he never comments your advantages and is he indifferent to your look?:-P Some men think that the most compliment for one woman is to tell her that she is sexy, hot and many women need this a lot. But it`s individual and you are this kind of person what prefers another kind of compliments and this is also normal.
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@sunnyckell (483)
• United States
1 May 07
Have you told him how upset it makes you? I do not accept compliments very well. I have always been that way. My husband gets upset with me because of it sometimes, but he knows that I struggle with it. I think that I just wonder why people compliment you. Is it because they feel obligated to, do they really mean what they say, are they being sarcastic...the list goes on. But on the bright side, at least your boyfriend is acknowledging that you are a beautiful woman. A lot of women would die for that kind of attention.
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