to LOVE or Not to LOVE? That's the question!
By Verayule
@Verayule (45)
China
May 2, 2007 5:19am CST
i don't know how to say, but i recently fell in love with one best friend of my boyfriend. I know it's not good, but i can't help thinking of the guy. i wonder how he would respond if i told him of my love, and what my boyfriend wouldd say?
MY boyfriend is nice ,it's just he can never keep his words to me,which has annoyed me 3years. If he can't even keep his promise on those daily stuff,why should i rely on him about my future and my marriage? what should i do? i probably would end up with nobody if i told them, but i feel terrible in a relationship with another guy in my heart!
Girls, if you were me ,would you keep it a secret or just speak it out?
Boys ,plese tell me, if you were the guy i'm in love with, would you accept me in risk of several years' friendship?
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6 responses
@cutiedhes (507)
• Philippines
3 May 07
If i were in your place i know its really hard but don't you think keeping that is unfair for the two guys especially that they were best of friends. I suggest you should tell the truth so that they will both know what are you going through i think both of them has the right to know it. And i think your boyfriend should be the first one to know even if it will hurt him but you cannot keep them for long and keeping that in the end you are the only one who will suffer. I know you have questions in mind that can't be answer for now but a piece of advice i think you should follow what is in your heart that what is the thing that will make you happy.
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
2 May 07
erkk..you shouldn't fall in love with your boyfriend's bestfriend! haha..but matters of the heart can't be helped, that's for sure. do you still love your bf? try to make things work with him...if there are some things that you're not satisfied with him, talk to him abt it k? you guys have been together for 3 yrs, don't let petty things ruin it if you still love each other. good luck! :D
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
2 May 07
You have said that you are inlove with the bestfriend of boyfriend. I guess,that is not a right love.You better cut off your relationship with your boyfriend first before telling to that guy how you feel.You must respect the feelings of others. Especially your borfriends feeling.
@lucy67 (819)
• China
2 May 07
think carefully before you take actions. i think it's hard for his best friend to accept your feeling even if he loves you because he has to take the risk of losing your boyfriend's friendship and other people's reproaches. men are different from women who will seek for love at any cost. i think men are more rational. if you tell them perhaps you will end up with nobody.
@skbadhan (879)
• India
2 May 07
hi your problem is seems to be much complecated and you should take responsibility to get struck in the problem. I don't know what is the defination for you of love. as your relationships with old boyfriends are too long about 3 yers as stated by you . what should i say wether you were in love with him or not. Now u are in love with his close friend-so u are very right u are likely to lose both of them as ur new boyfriend my not be sure about you as after few days if u falls in love with some other closest friend of him where will he go.........u should take help of both heart as well as mind...God Bless You
