the worth of a stay at home mom
By mama4kids
@mama4kids (690)
United States
May 2, 2007 8:22am CST
i have seen some sites that claim that if stay at home moms were paid a salary, that the base salary would be around $100,000 a year. now why cant that be true? i have 4 kids so i should make around $400,000 a year plus bonuses for doing extra things. i take my daughter to the bus stop and my son to preschool so that makes me a taxi driver. i cook all 95% of our meals so that makes me a cook. that 5% that i do not make, i pick up and that makes me a delivery service. i do laundry, clean the house and straighten up the yard so that makes me a maid. i purchase clothes, pick out outfits in the morning and do hair so that makes me a wardrobe manager and hairstylist. i help with homework and teach the basics so that makes me a teacher. i breastfeed the baby, change diapers of my 1 yr old and 2 yr old so that makes me a baby nurse. i bathe the kids, brush their teeth, tend to their boo boos so that makes me a nurse. i teach them right from wrong and discipline them when need be and keep them safe at all costs so that makes me a police officer. i walk their dogs, chase them around the house and race them up and down the septic mound so that makes me their personal trainer. i think that this is one demanding job!! i deserve a salary!!! i think that the government should pay moms that stay at home to raise their kids some sort of salary since we are the ones helping to make the world a better place for the next generation. anyone else have any jobs to add that maybe i missed?? do other stay at home moms feel that they deserve a salary??
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10 responses
@MadeByTammy (69)
• United States
2 May 07
I wish we were paid a salary. I have 3 children and my job is very demanding, as with all moms work full-time or stay at home. Plus we are on here working so you need to add that to our job list. I would add on Accountant to my list, paying all our bills. If you really think about it our job list is endless. My hope is my salary will could in terms of my children becoming Great people with Happy Hearts!
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
2 May 07
You know what....we have the same job!! I also have 4 kids and do exactly what you do. It would be nice to get paid for it, but then I could see some people who would have kids just to get paid by the government. You know those people who work for nothing and expect everything?! Every year when we file our income tax, there is an allowance for kids. It is no where near $100,000, but it does help. I think that the unconditional love a child gives his mom is great payment.
@mama4kids (690)
• United States
2 May 07
i hear ya!! lol!!! you are right..the unconditional love is the best payment of all!!!
@mama4kids (690)
• United States
4 May 07
thank you for not taking my post too serious like many are. it was meant for fun.
i am glad you enjoyed it as much as i did!!
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
2 May 07
hear, hear! way to go, girl! i have 3 of my own and no matter how i psyche myself up on the beauty and the nobility of being a mother, i still can't help feeling that i'm not getting my self-worth. aside from all those "duties" you mentioned on raising kids, emphasis should also be placed on the diminishing market and face value of mothers too busy to pay attention to their selves. not to mention the duties (again) we are expected to "perform" when tired hubby comes home (wink,wink). but, personally, i wouldn't go as far as asking the government for a salary, coz in the first place, i know our government wouldn't be able to afford it coz ours is a poor country, i'd instead ask for yearly awards and public notice of appreciation of all mothers. that is, aside from mother's day, huh? or maybe, a mother fest, where all mothers get together for a celebration where we get to have games and prizes and free spa of all sorts and manicure and pedicure and hair treatment of all types. and maybe a free lipo session with known doctors, facelift, bustlift, butt-lift and all the lifts you can imagine. can you just picture that? at least, it's something to look forward to every year.
@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
2 May 07
p.s. of course, there should also be a counterpart of all these for dads. let's give them this, too. lol!
@lisado (1227)
• United States
2 May 07
After seeing what places charge (daycares, maids, taxi, so on) I've love to get paid that for all that I do! We wouldn't be living paycheck to paycheck, that's for sure!
It really irks me is when I am asked what I do and when I say I am a homemaker or stay at home mom they say, "oh, so you don't work?". You have to be kidding me!! I work plenty, I just don't get paid in money. lol
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@LayneeT (16)
• Canada
4 May 07
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@mama4kids (690)
• United States
4 May 07
i am not looking to make money. the post was done for fun, which many people arent understanding what fun is i guess. i do not like those internet type jobs of signing people up and stuff. my post wasnt meant for you to think i needed money. i dont need money. i just enjoy having a sense of humor.
@LayneeT (16)
• Canada
4 May 07
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
3 May 07
i am not a mum yet but i agree with you totally that stay-at-home mum is a tough job and we do not get paid at all... but still we choose to do it because of the satisfaction feelings that we get from being a mum and when we see them grow up and hugs and kiss us everyday... i think that is more than a reward and it is the most rewarding job that i am dying to do if God allowed me to...
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
2 May 07
This one is tough for me because yes in a way I do think we deserve a salary because bills need to be paid but o nthe other hand I dont because we chose to have a fmaily and in the long run the rewards will be greater when we see them all grown up and raising families of there own that makes it all worth it.
@mama4kids (690)
• United States
2 May 07
well i did this post as more of a comedy relief type of post for those of us who are stay at home moms and needed a laugh to start our day off on the right foot. i agree though that raising wonderful children makes it all worth it. in no way did i mean that i feel slighted that i dont get paid.
@shoelover (896)
• Australia
2 May 07
I totally and utterly agree with you. We should be paid a wage because if we were not here they would have to pay somebody to look after the children and do everything that we do. We are actually the worlds future presidents ects mothers. We may even have raised geniuses.
@finethings101265 (64)
• Philippines
3 May 07
we do have the same way in our life, i am a mother of 3 teen ager children. i do all that you do and aside from that i am also working to help my husband in our financial needs. It is very hectic and tiring job. i sleep for only 4 hours everyday. i slept at 1am and wake up at 5am to prepare the childrn going to school. sometimes i clean house at 12midnight. my rest is to fold the clothes and putting it on each cabinet. despite all of this, i feel self fulfilled mother. in due time children will grow up and will start to leave home for career advancement. maybe when that time i will miss doing this things to my kids. being a mother, a best world mom is like what we do and like us , mama4kids, and the hardwork that we do and having this earth a better place for next generation cannot be quantified by money or worth because for me it is worth than a million dollar, raising kids well and doing all or more than your best.
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
2 May 07
While it would be nice to get paid a salary to be a stay at home mom I have just one question. Who do you think is going to pay that salary? Should it be the children since you are there to take care of them? Should it be the childrens father since he helped in making the children? And if you think the father should pay the salary does that mean you only get half of the salary because you helped make them as well?
Yes I do think that beaing a stay at home mom is a very hard and important job. But I also think that I chose to bring my children into this world. I knew what I would need to do before I had my children. I also knew that my payment for raising my children would be in hugs and kisses.
@mama4kids (690)
• United States
2 May 07
well maybe you should take it as i meant it to be...a sense of humor post. i am not looking for someone to pay my salary. it has been mentioned in a lot of places lately that a sahm should get a salary of about $100,000. i chose to have my 4 kids too and it is a hard but rewarding job. i posted this to just be funny because some days, there isnt much laughing going on since the stress can be pretty high at times. so take this post as just a joke and stop being so serious. ..lol
