Do you tell others about your problems?

I don't tell my problems to others, mainly because I'm good at dealing with them myself. I do have people that I can talk too though, and it's nice to have that option. I also like others to confide in me as I know that it makes them feel better to know they have someone who they can relax around..:)

There's a saying which goes "A trouble shared is a trouble halved!" Well as you say, it's not really, it's a trouble doubled because now someone is also worrying about it. I tend to keep a lot of my fears and worries close to my own chest, i.e. I don't share with others my deepest concerns, but there are people whom I care about who I feel able to share some of my troubles with because sometimes they can make suggestions as to how to make things easier or lessen the load. I'm not saying it's always the case and I'm not saying I would always take the advice but at the end of the day, if you trust and have respect for other people's opinions, why should you not go to them in times of need sometimes? More often I find people come to me with their troubles and I give my advice - whether they like it or not and whether they take that advice or not is up to them. Sometimes, of course, I cannot make a suggestion to help people out, in those cases I would be just a shoulder to cry on and it does make some people feel better when they share a problem with someone else. Many guys find it difficult to share their troubles, whereas women generally find it easier to share. I'm not saying who's right or wrong but it's down to individuals as to how they choose to cope - by either keeping it inside till things get better or keeping it inside until they reach the point of explosion, or share troubles and hopefully someone can help you or just make soothing noises... :)

I am introvert person and prefer to resolve my problems allone, if i can.Sometimes theese are not actually problems. Just emotions i need to release. But when i need a real help, i share with them and i am sad if they refuse.They usually dont refuse-i never abuse with this. Rated :-)

Theres an old saying in my family, 'a problem shared is a problem halved.' Some times it helps to talk about it.

I rarely tell people in real life about my problems because people talk to much and are very judgemental. So most of the time if I have a problem I usually just talk to someone online that I don't know or either just try and forget about it.

I usually keep my problems to myself that way I don't have to deal with telling someone and them asking tons of questions and stuff.

about. I live a very simple life, helping others when I can, keeping out of the limelight (except maybe when I have one too many to drink and then I'm the life of the party). It's not that I don't have confidence in any of my friends, believe me. I would much rather listen and put in my two cents for whatever it is worth then to ramble on about something that may concern me. I do, however, share my thoughts with others but I try to make it a point not to talk about me...just on life in general. Another good post, your grace. +

It depends on the nature of the problem. Family? More often than not telling them would create more problems than solving the problem I started out with originally anyway. Or else it'd give unessary critisism -- I'm harder on myself than anyone else. I do NOT need help on the critisizing and telling about how my ideas are foolish, front. Strangers? I hardly trust my FAMILY, why would I trust a stranger? If I don't think it'll hurt, I might put it across rhetorically. A friend..someone I've known a long time and trust indefinitely..yeah, I'd tell them. But for the most part, I keep my 'issues' to myself, talkin' about them only if they're REALLY bothering me, or else if I hit a snag on solving the problem with no answer in sight. But for the most part I

No....most of the time I dont tell anyone about my problems. Not even to my close friends or not even to my parents. I dont know why but I am like this only. Sometimes i feel that I should be able to solve my problems by myself as i am big enough and should not depend on others. But then i also feel that its sometimes better to take help.

I do, to a point. Sometimes friends don't know you are hurting & will make s special effort to help you deal with the problem. There's some saying about Pain shared, but I can't think of it - since I can barely stay awake now.

I am the kind of person that usually deals with my problems myself, but it's good to know that I have good friends, family, and of course a hubby that I can confide in. Usually though it is problems my hubby and I go through together (parenting or financial problems). I don't want to burden other people as you have said but sometimes it does help to get it out.

Like you,I too feel that telling your loved ones about your isn't going to help you much but instead they'll be worried too.But there are some problems that can be overcome by taking other's help.In that case I do try to share my problem with the concerned person. Sometimes we keep our problems to ourselves only and worry too much.In this case I feel we should confide to atleast one of my friends to ease out my stress.Sometimes i like to write it in my diary and this helps me in venting out my tension.

I'm a quiet and shy person. I never share my problems or feelings with others! Even with my family. I prefer to keep it to myself and solve them. I guess I fell ashame telling people about my problems. Besides, like you said, they also couldn't change anything or solve it for me. I don't want to bug them with my woes.

I guess I'll be lying... but if I'd ask myself, have I ever had any serious problems? I'd say no. And not serious stuff I won't really call a problem. When I actually look at the points you list in example: Health, my biggest problem with that has been chicken pox at the age of 4 or so Finance, no problems there, my parents are helping me out there to get through my studies for now, so the problems will have to wait a bit before they come up :P. Relationship, sometimes a little down, but I am always really optimistic so I don't tend to recognize it as a problem. So usually it is my girlfriend talking about it to me then rather than the way around. School, has been going pretty laid back so far, never had a single year yet in which I was worried of not making it and that negative grade on that rare occasions I don't see as a problem since I'll have the chance to fix it anyways. It is always hard to come up with something when people ask you for the latest problem I had, many people can come with the loss of a loved one, grades going bad, etc but for some reason I never had to cope with any of that yet. I never had someone in my family or someone I knew dying when I was alive, I never had any problems going on with my school and I usually can't come up with anything more severe than my computer having crashed, the electricity having suffered from a blackout, the bus having been late, whatsoever. But I'd say those are more frustrations which last a couple of hours rather than a problem. Perhaps I must have come across something more serious once in my life, but definitely hasn't made enough of an impact on me that I actually recall it. I guess if I'd really be having problems with something though I'd talk about, probably with my girlfriend or some close friends at college. Even if it wouldn't really help, just to have shared it I suppose.

The only time i tell anyone of my in person peers about any problem or issue in my life is when i'm really desperate or something i guess. there's a select few people i talk to about things, and mostly, their in my home, and we talk everything out to figure things out better. I don't tell really anyone else about my problems, because usually things get stretched and spread, making it look like i can't handle my life or something. even when it's about a bill or a fight i've had with a roomie. I try to be positive over everything that happens, because no matter what, everything works out in the end. If someone asks how things are, i tell them the good stuff usually, and then just say everything else'll work out, that way, I'm not lying, just saying what's on my mind.

I don't usually tell anyone about what all I have been through or am going through unless my situation might help another.

Yes but if you never tell them your problems they will assume everything goes wonderfully fin ewith you and might fall from higher if they hear about your problems afterwards, and they might have grown worse I found that talking is relieving and if you don't want to "burden" your family with your problems why not go in a chatroom and tell it to total strangers!? I did it and it is very relieving, plus you don't know them so you don't really feel embarrassed to tell them private stuff ... they don't know you , you don't know them ... but sometimes they really can help

No generally i ignore sharing my problems with others. About 5 months ago i was cheated by a person. I relied on him very much and he talked with me in a very frank manner. So, seeing this i told him my problems and my secrets but later on after three or four days he told that all matters and conversations to my family members. After that incidence i stopped sharing my problems with anyone....

It has been one of my problems lately. There is this guy that I share all my problems with. He is my boyfriend/bestfriend. He knows everything about me. All my secrets and stuff. We had this nice relationship. Recently there have been problems between the two of us. Now, I do not have any person to talk to about my problem because he is my problem.

i'm a private person too. i feel taht if im going to share my problem to them i will disturb tehm and make them worry. especially when i know they are in crisis too. but soemtimes when i feel taht i can't carry those laods of problem i shared it to them but i never show taht im affected just want them to know taht im on a crisis. and they know me.. i love being alone when it comes to my persoanl life.