My BF called me by his ex GF's name last night and no it wasn't in an intimate

Hey there, Sherry, Guys are thoughtless. No, really, I mean they don't think. He called you by the wrong name without thought. There was no thinking involved in it whatsoever. So yes, it's incumbent upon you now to forgive him just as he would if you burned his breakfast by mistake. Now it's time to get to the root of your anger and deal with it. Why fly off the handle so big? Why the mistrust from a small goof? What is it that setyoff the issues you have with trusting in such a big way? You've got trust issues big time. I suggest you explore what those issues are and why you have them with him. It could help you lots if instead if being accusatory over a small goof that you open yourself up to him, instead. I'm on my second husband and have 3 sons. I know a thoughtless slip from a male when I hear one. LOL

Calm down. Breathe in, breathe out. These kind of things happen. And yes they do hurt. But to jump to conclusions is not healthy for you or for your relationship. Have you had this kind of issue in relationships before? I know I have in the past and the first time my husband called me by someone elses name I freaked out. Has this happened before? Has he called you Charlotte before? I think it is always a good idea to keep your eyes open and not be naive about it, but do it in a manner that is less aggressive and calmer. What did he say when you questioned him? What was the reason he gave for calling you by her name?

if i were on your shoes, i really will feel bad about the situation. not to fire more your anger. but i am just telling that as a woman inlove, i will think bad if my boyfriend will call me by his ex's name. sometimes, women's intuitions are correct. scary! but i think it is always better if you two talk about the matter together. atleast, you get to listen to his side and you are able to ask every question you wanna know, too. one talks, one listens. it's the best way to understand each other. hope you have a better mood later.

I would definitely be pissed too!! But it was probably just a slip up of him, not that he is cheating or anything. I would watch him carefully and know where he is, but I wouldn't accuse him of cheating all the time! I actually did that with my husband now, I called him by my ex's name. I felt so bad and immediately started apologizing. He totally wasn't mas at me (big surprise because I wouldn't be able to get over it too easily), and he said, "Ya know I was mad and I was probably just acting like him so you called me his name." It was a stupid situation, we were leaving Wal-Mart and he couldn't get his seat belt to work so he was freaking out and getting mad....if the situation was reversed though I would probably still be upset about it, and it was 4 years ago!! Girls hold on to these kinds of things where guys can let them go, thankfully for me!! If he said it was a slip-up I would believe him and TRY to let it go!

Don't worry about it. I sometimes call people by different names. It just slips out and it doesn't mean anything.

Oh i can feel your situation.It feels so bad.but see thats what happen with me once.and he wasnt my boyfriend but my husband i asked him if hes seeing her so shes on her mind he said yeah hes been seeing her and i left home crying and angry and got into my car and just left.i felt so bad about it and now i can not trust him anymore but i am happy that i am fulfilling the part of wife I am sincere by my side.He is the one who will realize that what he has lost.Dont worry but i am not going to say forget about it..just keep an eye on him...u trust him i no but blind trust on men is worthless they dont just deserve this..dont be mad or angry dont spoil yourself like this..just try to calm down and dont ask him directly about anything just try to keep an eye on him..making yourself upset is not the solution...just calm down..

I would not read to much into it right now. Unless it would become a habit I would let it go. Mistakes happen. have you ever called someone by a different name by accident? I know I have alot. I call my kids by their siblings name all the time. Sometimes I have to go down the list of names til I get theirs. I don't do this on purpose. I always yell at my teen..(he is going through annoying stage right now) and when i yell at his younger brother. I will call his younger brother his name. It is because I am so use to yelling at the teen at the time. My kids just laugh and say I am getting old.

I am ROLLING ON THE FLOOR laughing my A-hole off!!! My boyfriend was married three times My name is Leah, his first was Laura. His second and third were Mary-Anne and Mary (and yes he got those two mixed up occasionally). H3ll, I get 'em mixed up too, and my mother's name is Marianne, and my Grandma's name is Mary and MY MIDDLE NAME is Mary!!!!!!!!! I mave met 2 and 3 (the two exes with the M names) and we all get along like family. My mother divorced my father Doug and married a Dave. Dad? Doug? Dave? We get eachother mixed up all the freaking time!!!!!!!!!! Sherry and Charlotte? The two names are somwhat similar in sound. If your name was Donna and her name was Charlotte, he might still get you mixed up out of habit, but it wouldn't be as likely as if you were Donna and she was Debbie. Give the poor guy a break, and get over it. Mom has been married to Dave for 10 years, and she STILL calls him Doug, occasionally, and Dave laughs. Dad used to b!tch me out for calling him Dave, but COME ON!!!! I lived with Mom and DAVE, I didn't live with Dad. I often wished Mom owuld have married a guy named Irving, so there woudln't have been a mix-up. LOL But then my sister is Married to a guy named Matt, but for the first few months they went out Dad called him Shawn, my sister's ex, who was a BIG a-hole!!!!! So GEEZ!!!!!!! Just suck it up and laugh.....or call your BF by your brother's name or your exes name, as a joke to even the playing field, if you absolutely MUST get even. ROFLMAO I needed a laugh today. THANKS!!!!!! I am not laughing AT you, I'm laughing at the whole name thing, and.... well I got my boyfriend's exes hopelessly mixed up once, and Mary and Mary-Anne HATE eachother's guts, so you don't want to know what happens when I screw up their names. And Leah and Laura? haha And that was his FIRST, whom he divorced DECADES ago (yes there is an age difference)haha .

How long have you two been together? This could be the reason. Just because he calls you by an old GF's name does not mean he is unfaithful. I've been married 29 years and I recall a long time ago I called my wife by an old flames name. It was just that this other woman was on my mind for some reason and the name came out instead of the wifes name. I didn't get in trouble nor was I unfaithful. So thats my feelings. It may be he was thinking something about her at the time. It's normal to think of other people and our mouths blab out almost anything when we don't think first. LOL HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

It depends on how long you have been with him. It might be out of habit he called you her name. Example: if you have been with someone ten years or whatever your mind is always use to saying the same name and it comes without warning. It will hurt but just tell him to please think before speaking her name on the grounds of it hurting you. If he continues and doesn't try then he might not care as much as you think. Talk to him and let him know you were hurt.

i know it hurt and as long as u remember it u will always feel hurt. dont judge directly your bf, stop nagging him and telling those things that for sure will hurt you. why dont you try and have a serious talk with him, im sure he had some explanation with it. just give him the benefit of the doubt first and then listen to his explanation and its up to you to believe or not what he will explained. you love him and for sure u know a lot of things about him.

I wouldn't read anything into this. It's very easy to say the wrong name sometimes. If you had no reason to suspect him of being unfaithful before now, you certainly don't have reason now. It's easy to read a lot into small things if you're feeling insecure so I think you should forget he ever did it and try not to be hurt by what was probably an honest slip of the tongue.

It could have been something as simple as seeing someone they both knew and they mentioned her or he saw something that reminded her of him slightly... it definitly does not mean he is cheating

You shouldn't accuse him of being unfaithful especially if this is the only thing you got against him. That's not cool. You need to calm down first and release your anger and just ask him calmly. What the others said is true, there are times when we are thinking about someone and we just blurt it out loud without even thinking. My boyfriend before used to call me ANNA (his super close girl friend who turns out his girlfriend at the same time we're together) and that freaked me out because everybody thinks him and this anna has a relationship, I also felt that too and then suddenly out of nowhere he called me by her name. So I was angry and I slapped him. I slapped him for too many reason and calling me by that girl's name was the last straw. (we were only together for 3days when he called me ANNA) Now, if you and you're boyfriend have been together for 22months you should give him a little credit and ask about it in a nice way, don't start a fight cos he might not meant it when he called you by his ex's name or just give it a break.

My husband calls me by his sister's name almost all the time, but sometimes I'll get his first live-in girlfriend thrown into the mix. I think it's just an autopilot thing, and nothing to be worried about. I think there's probably some strong neural circuitry that gets set up when a person experiences their first "female in the home" or serious girlfriend. Then, whenever the person is juggling a lot of thoughts, the wrong name will come out. I don't think my mother ever managed to say the right name, when she was talking to me and my sisters, and now I mix up names with my own kids and husband all the time.

it is normal for you to feel that way..to get hurt. because i'll feel that way also if i am at your shoes. just imagine, my boyfriend called me by his ex name. so i understand your feeling but you have to weigh things out girl. like, how many times did he do that?..is it always or just that once...if its always then its something not oh so good but if just that once only then i guess its just but a slip of the tongue..nothing to take it seriously. i remember when i had an ex boyfriend name Alvin and my recent at that time is Darwin (he was just courting me then because when we got on we call each other as theart)..i called Darwin as VIn..because its sounds the same, right? i was just lucky he didnt heard what i said lol. so...just weigh things out girl and please be calm and dont shout. takecare. goodluck

I think you could tell by his response as you challenged him. If he is genuinly sorry then its just one of those things. Have you ever got someone's name mixed up? If he's doing it as a joke to wind you up and its backfired he probably deserves a good telling off or worse. If he actually has been playing away - then its goodbye and thanks for all the fish!

Yes let it go. It most likely out of habit. I did a few times to a few people throughout my life.

hehe, your anger shows you care about him.that is good.and you are jealous about that, that is also human nature. if it is the first time,please try to forgive...that does not enough to show he is not faithful.you continuing accuse will make him feel bad,and maybe enlarge your quarrel and be worse for your relations,so calm down, give him second chance.if you think you have been together so long and worth being together longer,do forget about it.

I don't think this is a great time to act rashly. First things first you are not Charlotte so it would never make sense for him to call you that, so it was first of all a slip of the mind. So then you go one to say that you connected some dots for him saying that he slipped up because he has been seeing Charlotte? You say you've trusted him 100% since the start and here you don't even present his side of the story, if you can't even give him the benefit of the doubt or at least mention his explanation then to me it sounds like you don't actually trust him 100%. Or maybe just now you are just at odds whether you should trust him 100% I don't know how much you can get out of this event by asking him all sorts of questions.. but maybe keep it in your mind and if it happens again ask him why and try to get a really honest answer.. and i don't think the best way to get an honest answer out of someone is to accuse them of something. If you want their words out of their mouth don't put words in their mouth. Just wait. The questions you've asked him so far are all based on assumptions.. maybe you should ask questions about what is worth assuming or what you could possibly assume... these questions have to be answered with you and your husband and not by yourself if you want to get real answers..