what would you do or feel when your best friend betray your trust?

Betrayal is the worst complications in friendships. You have weaved the bonding in quite long years and just like a flick of a second, it was erased. I know for sure that he also cared for you and that he have a reason why he do such thing. And the only thing to know that reason is to talk to him, just once and hear his explanations. That might repair the friendship you've just lost.

They say that your best friend is your best enemy. We tell our secrets to our friendss. We confide to them. They know everything there is to know about you.And when unavoidable circumstances happens, they can squeal on you. There might be a reason why she did that. Have you ever talked to her about it? If you still want to be friends with her or not you have to talk it over or you will end up having grudges in your heart. If you have talked about it and has settled everything , it might be the start of your new friendship or just be plain acquaintance. It's still up to you if you feel like to continue with your friendship or not.But be careful next time. For me she will just be one of my friends and not the best anymore.

there is a saying that say that "your best friend can become your worst enemy" which i think is very true... it is because your best friend is the one who knows almost everything about you including your deepest secret and therefore he/she is the one that can stabs you from the back whenever he/she wants to... i have this experience before in the past and i hate betrayals... for me, i definitely won't be able to trust him/her anymore and although i can forgive him/her and become friends again, it won't be as close as before and i will keep my distance...

we can still be friends. this time, we will just be regular friends. she can never be my bestfriend again. i can forgive her if she comes to me and ask for my forgiveness but, i can no no longer trust her and i can never have any confidence in her ever agin. anyone can say tht i erred for having given her my full trust, but that is what a bestfriend is for, a buddy whom i can hold in full trust.

Woww..it's such a hard situation,but if i was you,maybe at those time i've been so angry..she's definitely my bestfriend,why she's still betrayed me.maybe i would ask myself moreover,why she did it to me,did i make somethin wrong..In this case maybe u right,i've also had experience(but not same as you),where my best friend,whom i trust more,betrayed me,at those time,i couldn't face her never talked again ,even heared her name,made me sick..but i think now,avoid her make her not realize what she has done..you suffered more than her,she knows nothin..better go to her and ask her why she did this to you,and the reason till she could do that..maybe you can feel much better than now..if you hardly to forgive her although u've already heard her answer,then just keep a distance.. me,myself too just keep a distance with her,cause she not worth anymore to have our trust..maybe with that she suffered more than you^^..you can feel better now..

hi!good day... I dont think i can give you a nice advice but i think i can help even in a simple glimpse of a heart. if I were you and my bestfriend do it to me, i'll never be friends again with him maybe in the first place, but as soon as i weigh everything he does for me and every consequences we'd face, i think our friendship be back again, maybe not that tight as before but still he is my friend and willing her to give another chance, and so he does it again, maybe i'll never kept secrets together with him. As i weigh every the manner of our friendship gone, maybe i'll base my judgement on what positive and nice thing she had done to me, since if it is her first time to betray my trust to him, maybe i'll trust her again but not that much enough, but willing to give her another chance to regain my trust in her. i hope you understand what i meant to tell.. till then...

When my bestfriend betrays my trust, I throw away our friendship and never talk to her again. Ive had a couple of friends who did this to me already and even if we reconciled, I just cant take the past back.

Since all relationships depend on a certain level of trust to survive and grow, I think you did the right thing by not seeing her any more. I've had similar things happen to me. Once that trust is violated there has to be a really big reason for me to ever be around that person again -- like, I have to work with them, or they're in my family. Even then, I wouldn't ever tell them anything personal again, and I'd make no effort to hide the reason why. She should have told you to tell him, it wasn't her business to do it herself unless she specifically wanted to hurt you. She must have been very jealous of you to do this. The fact that you lost your boyfriend after one mistake shows how little he really cared for you, too. Good riddance! Imagine how much worse this could have been if you'd been married with kids!! These things usually happen because there is someone better for you coming soon. You wouldn't be ready or available for your REAL mate if you were still trying to make this relationship work. I used to hate it when my mother told me this -- until I learned that she was right! She'd say, "Men are like trolley cars, there's another one every fifteen minutes!" Well, they may be more like buses, and the fifteen minutes may be weeks or months, but the right person for you is still out there! Same with friends. Still, I'm sorry you've had this trouble -- it's painful for sure.

I understand how you feel. It is indeed a very sad thing to know that the person you trusted so much betrayed you for purposes you could not imagine. I had been there too. I trusted friends. I got betrayed not just once but already many times. That's why I already leearned my lessons well -- never entrust all of your life, your secrets, your finances and anything else to your close friends. We don't know what could have motivated them to betray us. I am in solidarity with you in the anger and outrage you are feeling after the betrayal. But don't worry at least now you are already aware of the true colors she got! Someday you will find true friends who will stand by your side come high or low water. I am also wishing myself for that kind of true friends.

Sometimes those you think are people you can confide in and trust are nothing more than people who will eventually betray you. She probably felt since you were happy that she would somehow find a way to ruin it for you. Sometimes people can become envious of other people and they will do anything in their power to destroy that. You don't need to be friends with someone who will betray your trust. You are right in feeling the way you do, but you may want to consider at least talking to her about it. Maybe she had reasons. Talk to her and find out why she told him what you didn't want him to know.

i think noone should share top sceret to nyone either he/she is ur soul mate. i always have a different best frnd in my different part of my life. i mean that when i was in my school days then i had a fnd to whom i belive a lot n she also believe on me. but we never shared anything that anyone can misuse it. i always been very much possesive to my frnds that brings some trouble 4 me. i also have a fnd during my college life.i was also too much possessive for her n faith alot. but since once she hurt me by her some activity i left my possesiveness to any one. since then i manke fnd anyone but not make them my weakness.for this there are so many reasons.that i cant explain here.

I think you reall have to talk to her and settle things...i also think you should forgive her...i know it is really very hard to forgive someone who wronged you... but i think you have to...after all, you were best friends...

You dont need 2 worry about being right or wrong, but its definately a trust issue. Obviously u did the wrong thing by ur boyfriend, but she did wrong by you in not encouraging u to come 4ward by urself...., and 2 wrongs never make a right! I guess though, u shud talk 2 her about the way u feel because by holding a grudge and being resentfull u r only hurting urself more and u don't want to add another wrong to this already messy situation. Even if u guys are neva friends again, I think 4 ur own mental health, u need to make ur feelings known and clear the air. Hope this helps :)

I know where you are coming from, my aunt(she's four years older than me) was my best friend we did a lot of things together we were inseperable, around the time that I met my husband, she decided to take some questionable pics of herself and post them on the net. We were having a disagreement because I didn't want her to post them, so I stopped hanging out with her and started hanging out with my husband, we were just getting to know each other, she got jealous and told him that I slept with some people he knew and he left me. I confronted her in front of him and he believed me and we've been together for four years now. About four months ago I saw her again and she apologized and said that she knows she was wrong and that she only did it because she was jealous that I wasn't hanging out with her anymore. I forgve her but i still don't really talk to her. Her betrayal hurts she should have came to me with her feelings instead of ruining something good for me.

I would no longer consider someone who did this to me to be my friend. She had no business passing along what you told her in confidence. She should have given you the advice to tell him yourself, not taken it upon herself to do it. That was a very low thing of her to do. If it were my friend, I would not be able to trust her again after she betrayed me that way.

Maybe at first I would get angry at her and not talk to her but if ever the wounds would be healed and both of you have a talk on what really happen then maybe there is still a chance that you would be friends again. And forget all the things happen to the both of you.