I would like to know something, please
By AnnaB87
@AnnaB87 (761)
United States
May 2, 2007 10:54pm CST
Is it normal that a husband not want his wife to know anything about the household finances?
And to not want his wife to know what the bank account balances are??? and to get angry when asked. And Ii mean in a polite way,
As in do we have enough money to buy groceries or something.
My husband does not tell me anything about the finances at all, and he usually does not even tell me how much he makes,
He claims that he does not care if I know or not but when I start trying to find out how much money there is or is not or looking at his paystubs, he gets irritable and mean, and I think that means he is hiding something from me,
Do you think I am right? or am I just over reacting????
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3 responses
@purplehaze (661)
• Philippines
3 May 07
Everything you said is far from normal. As husband and wife, both of you should have the right to know all your finances. With the way your husband is acting, im more than a 100% sure that he is indeed hiding something from you and he's doing something fishy behind your back. The best thing is for you to talk about him regarding this matter but make sure that your approach wont make him feel that you are accusing him because this may only make him more defending and you'll get nowhere.
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
3 May 07
That's what I know, and I don't know is how to approach him about anything, I feel he is hiding something from me, and something major probably (I have an active imagination so I can imagine a lot of things he could be hiding)
I am trying hard not to accuse him of anything but that is hard with the way things are going and have been for a long time.
And I don't know what to do.
@purplehaze (661)
• Philippines
7 May 07
Well, if you're really not willing to let this matter continue anymore,(which i think you should have done long ago), you have to talk with him NOW.. tell him what you feel and ask him to open up his own reasons for doing such things. If he gets mad or things turn ugly, then maybe it's time for you to think or decide whether or not you want the relationship to continue or not..
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@castleghost (1304)
• United States
3 May 07
I think that people who are involved in a relationship should discuss their finances. If something were to happen to him would you be able to fend or take care of yourself? I think that he should be willing to share this information with you if he has nothing to hide from you.
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@Greenberry (77)
• United States
7 May 07
These days women should expect to know the family's financial situation. Oftn the wife is the best manager, because she knows the family needs better.
From your continuing conversation I gather that you are worried about the financial situation, and it does sound like something you should discuss with your husband. It's hard because a man's pride in his ability to provide comes in, but maybe you can approach it by showing that you want to help.
