Ever MET the HAPPY GUY at the PUB that TALKS to EVERYONE??

Hello,texaclassygal,i will be happy if i meet a guy who can start up a meaningful conversation with me and smile to me. But it turned out that when i went to the pubs, i saw most of the guys were hitting on every women they had met and tried to hook up with them. If i was nice to them,they might try to do something over the line,and i would brush them off. That is why i would only go to the pubs with my friends and seldom talk to other strangers.

I love to be greeted by someone who is just genuinely being friendly. It can make a difference in my day at times. I too have noticed how people really do seem to stay focussed in their own little group when out in public. Often people seem to look at you like you must be up to something or wanting something from them if you are just friendly to them for no apparent reason. If you sit back and pay attention to the people like the person from the pub it is very interesting. Reading body language, people are drawn to that type of person... I think we all have a bit of a desire to be social but society of late has drawn us all inward a bit.

I think that is what Wal-mart is trying to do with their greeter. I have always enjoyed a restaurant where they had a true host/hostess that would make you feel welcomed.

Not only have friendly and outgoing people like that become less and less common, they are also likely to be viewed with suspicion! People have become so paranoid that they just might start questioning a guy's intentions and suspecting some sort of ulterior motives for him to be friendly!!! This is the kind of society that we are becoming of late!

I always appreciate friendly people. I greatly admire the kind of person who can really "work a room." They have a way of making people feel special and valued. I consider myself friendly, but it's more of a reserved kind of friendliness. I'm not the backslapping sort of guy who knows everybody's name within 5 minutes of entering a room. Nowadays people don't communicate face-to-face nearly enough. I always find it funny when I go into my local Starbucks and see dozens of people typing away on their laptops and speaking into their cellphones but NOT talking to anybody in the Starbucks! What is up with that? I think your advice is excellent. Those of us who are more reticent or reserved ought to step out of our comfort zones and initiate contact with strangers more often. The world needs more of that kind of personal interaction.

I used to bartend, so I have seen a few guys like that. There are some however who can get very annoying. It is nice however if you walk into a bar and don't know anyone. It can help break the ice.

Thats a good trait i guess speaking on everyone whom you do not know he must be very friendly i guess, i just remeber the good old days were people in the province are like that..

For me, there's a huge difference between the "happy guy" who's just a regular patron and takes the time to greet everyone who comes into the pub, and the "happy loner" who latches onto anyone he/she can, settles in on top of them like an invasive cloak and regales them with endless inane "tall stories" from his/her past... whether you want to hear them, or not. Of course, I have to confess that I am not a very "publically social" person... when I am going out to some "watering hole," it tends to be very specifically to meet some individual or group I have plans with. Your post does make me think that I am often "stuck in a rut" with some of my habits... and I have some old nagative experiences with what I'd describe as "barflies" in my past... although I do sometimes strike up conversations with random people when I am walking in the adjacent park, or on the beach, or at one of our local bookstores.

Texasclassygal, I have not met a happy guy at the pub but rencently me and my two daughters were in an all you can eat Chinese reastaurant and a man walked up to our table and started singing a song to us. And we smiled and blushed and told him to have a good day also after he wished us one. Today I was in a Dennys restaurant eating a turkey sandwich and a bowl of soup and I was smiling all the while I was eating and it felt so good and wonderful inside. Because I knew that my smile was making someone else happy too.

Oh man, of course I know that guy, I'm married to him LOL! My hubby is the type of guy who'll start a conversation with anyone anywhere, and most especially in pubs. He often feels sorry for people standing or sitting alone and will start a conversation with them to cheer them up if they look miserable. Sometimes it's a bit much though as some people really do want to be left alone. But anyway he takes rejection by loners in good humour and wishes them well. I don't wish I was more like him though. I do my fair share of getting to know new people and feel quite comofortable with the level of my friendliness. Thanks for starting such a cheery topic! x

We all like meeting such happy guys, one who goes round smiling and greeting everyone and making friends. It certainly brightens our day, no doubt. However, I sincerely hope that happy guy is really happy. I have ever met such a guy but deep inside he was not happy. He was employed to do such. He simply takes it as his "job" to make people happy. On the surface, he is happy, but deep inside, he is anguish. I would agree with you that if everyone is sincerely smiling and giving out a hand, friends are everywhere and the world will be such a nice place to live in.

That sounds really neat. I wish I was more outgoing and could be that way. Most people do seem to stick with their own groups. A happy, friendly person always cheers things up.