How do tell a friend without hurting their feelings?

yeah,it's really hard to tell someone their flaws especially when the truth really hurts..i guess you should just tell him straight,i know he'd still be hurt any way you say it..the important thing is that you tell him the reason why you're doing this..that you don't want other people talking behind his back about him being unhygienic..that your main concern is for him to become a much cleaner and better person.eventually he'll learn that you are right..and if he still doesn't agree with you,it will be his downside anyway..at least you have done your part as a friend..and i guess all you have to do is to live up to his unhygienic ways..after all he's your friend and all you can do is to accept him for who he is..right?

you should use an example of how people mock people that are not hygenic and then tell him or her to learn how to be clen and neat.

Either way, i'm telling you, you're gonna hurt him. Maybe if i got the chance to tell him/her through a joke, then that would be my way.

i dont think it will hurt his feelings if you will tell him about it. it will be embarrasing for sure but it will be for his own sake.

I had this experience when I was in high school. We had a girl classmate who smelled bad. . she had bad breath and smelled bad as a whole. . .We wrote her an anonymous letter, telling her about the problem, then signed "typewriter" at the end. I guess she was unaware of the problem because she seemed not to mind at all. Most of her friends were avoiding her because she talked and giggled a lot (typical for high schoolers) but smelled awful at the same time. Did we succeed? Nah, I don't think so. . she still smelled bad the last time I met her. . .Would you do the same thing as we did?

Well when you are friends telling them about a problem is the nicest thing you can do. I had a friend who had body odor after working out and she would never shower. I day when I notice it and spoke to some of our other workout buddies I found that they knew but never told her they just talked behind her back. I pulled her aside and I told her that she had body odor, she denied it at first and then said no one else said anything, I told her they didn't want to hurt her feelings but they talk behind your back. I told her because I am her real friend and didn't wanting anyone talking about her I had to tell her, I even went out and got her a hygene kit with wipes, deodorant, body spray etc. so that she could freshen up if she didn't feel comfortable showering at the gym.

I think that depends upon how you deliver your concern to him. Probably he'll get hurt or distracted or maybe he will just feel a little awkward. But, you should realize that is the best that you could do for him rather than he will hear nasty comments about his hygene from others.It is better that it will come from you. But as they have said "break the truth gently". I don't think you friend has a narrow mind. He will understand and maybe he will appreciate that you are also concern about him, about what other people will say to him if he won't improve himself. Do it politely. Goodluck!

true friend does acknowledges mistakes and accepts corrections. if you can bear it at all having your friend being always the talk of the town being unhygienic then forget it. otherwise, it is alright to tell him so.

i'd probably take him about shopping and give him a make over. at the end of the day, i'd tell him he should keep on working on his looks and smell if he wants to attract women. its worked before for my brother who always forgot to brush his teeth and take a bath. try subtlety ... if he keeps on going back to old habits, tell him outright. if his feelings get hurt or if he can't handle the truth, give him time to simmer down. and then apologize that you're such a caring and wonderful friend

Back when I was in highschool I also had a friend that's not very hygienic. She actually smell bad. Me and some of our closest friends decided to talk to her because we are very much concerned about her and what others might think. We explained to her that we are telling it to her because we are just concernedabout her. She did appreciate it and thanked us a lot. She said she was so fortunate to have true friends like us.... I suggest you try to explain the problem to him and reiterate that you are just concerned about him and what others might think. I'm sure he'd understand and appreciate your concern.

hi, u can stsrt ur discuusion in other way not relating to him. u can say him that u dont like people who live like this,or u also dislike bad activities of ppl.say him wat u wanna say bt dont directly. u can take another one using as example of hygeniceness. in this way u can say ur message to ur friend. Thnks