Would you give up your job for your children ?
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
Canada
May 4, 2007 10:13pm CST
Last month I had a job that I have been working at for months but it was beginning to take a toll on my children . My younger children were upset that I was not home with them all the time . My three year old thought somehow I was punishing her for being bad when I would go to work and would cry that she would be good if I would stay home with her . My baby would stand at the door and scream as I left and one of my older daughters was becoming withdrawn and wouldn't talk to anyone and felt she was being excluded when I went to work as I was going in with her older sister . It became to much for me to bear and I was just wondering how many other parents would give up their job for their children as I got a lot of slack from family and friends for doing this . My children mean more to me then all the money in the world and their happiness comes uppermost in my mind for them but wondering if I am the only person who feels this way . What would you do if your job was affecting the happiness of your children ?
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
5 May 07
Hello.samtaylorskykierajen , i do not have any children. I think if the finance of a family is not too bad,it may be better for the mum to give up the job and take care of the children. If the mum spend more time with their children, she can understand them more and will have a better relationship with them. If not ,the relationship may not be very good when they grow up.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
6 May 07
Thank you for your response . It is true that I do have a good relationship with my children as I have tried to spend as much time with them as I can since the day they were born .
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
6 May 07
Thank you for your response , it is nice to know that others agree and don't think I made the wrong decision .
@JessicaD (115)
• United States
5 May 07
I resigned from my teaching job that I had for 6 yrs after I had my son. I went back to work for a few months and things just became to hard. I didn't have enough time to get everything done that needed to be and I felt that I never spent enough time with my son or husband. Once I was home I was either cooking cleaning doing laundry or getting things ready for the next day. So yes, I would and did give up my career for my son.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
5 May 07
This is just my opinion and you must remember that each family has its unique set of values, needs and such.
My opinion is as follows:
I think that children need their mothers at home. I know many woman think that working is always the way to go but I disagree. I was forced to go to work when my daughters were preteen. My husbands job had closed down and we were about to loose everything that we had. So I rejoined the work force. I had not worked since I was married until this point.As soon as we got back on our feet...I quit and began to be a full time mommy again.
Society seems to put importance on women working outside the home. Many religions encourge mothers to take care of the children. I think kids are much more well adjusted when they have their mother at home. They just seem to feel less stressed because they have consistancy in their life. They know that mom is always there when they need her. She is never too tired or too busy for them.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
6 May 07
NEVER Doubt your influence in your childrens life. They need a full time mother. I know sometimes this is impossible but many times it is possible. We just have to get our priorities in line. Once we have that done. The rest will fall into place. I dont know if you are religious but I belive that satan or the devil as he is commonly called is trying to destroy the family as he knows how important the family is to our entire existance. He will stop at nothing to ruin our families. Don't let him do it to yours. Stay strong and be proud of your accomplishments as a Mother. Happy Mother's day!
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
6 May 07
Thank you for your response and your understanding . It had really hurt me when others had commented on how I needed to teach my children that in life they can't always have what they want and I had felt that my children were more important to me then the extra money I could bring in as I know one day they will be gone and have their own lives and then I will be able to work if I choose to . But when family and friends make you feel like you made the wrong decision , you start to doubt your own actions .
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@ellijah (244)
• Nigeria
5 May 07
I strongly belive that everyone likes his/her children and willwant to see them happy at all times. my advice to anyone who is confused at what to do in issue like this is to call the children together and explain why you need the job. you need it to take care of them cos u love them. Try to be at peace with them. Sometimes while you're comming back from work buy something for them to make them happy and with time they will always be used to it. It's just that they miss you just the same way every one will be sad when loved ones is't around. I'm sure they will be used to it.
@jalbeos (1175)
• Philippines
6 May 07
I have heard a story about this too, a real life story. It was about a Mom, who has 3 kids. She has a job and posses a great possession in the company. But one time she came to realize that her family is much to be valued than her work. She quited her job and stay at home. A lot people said she is fool... they couldn't understand and until now her friends and relatives are wondering why she chose to stay home.
For me, moms should stay at home. They are much needed on their home than any companies. It really affects a lot in the family.
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
5 May 07
That is a good question and it would probably depend on the financial situation of the family. If I was a single parent then I probably could not give up my job since I would need money to raise and feed my children as well as myself. A married person might be able to afford to give up their job for their kids so their kids would be happy. Maybe you could work at job from home so that you are still bringing in money as well as being able to spend time with your kids.
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@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
5 May 07
A lot would depend on several things. One the financial situation. Could I stay home with them and still support them? That's one very big issue. If I have to work to support them then they should be told this. We went through similar with my neice when she was little and we pointed out that if someone didn't work then there would be no house, no clothes, things like that. She didn't like it but she came to terms with it. That it was neccessary.
Also it depends on the age of the children. Are they in school or need to be taken care of by others while I work? That makes a difference as well. Also how much time I can spend with them when I'm not at work. There are a lot of things that have to go into this situation.
No matter what though you have to decide what is best for you and your children. Your family should accept that and if they can't then tell them to leave it alone. To let you live your own life and that until they are in your shoes to back off.
@skbadhan (879)
• India
5 May 07
hi you have done right . my wife is also working women but still we don't have childrens. she will too need to quit job for looking after childrens at least untill they grow up to 5-7 years and stars going to school. if money is also preferance for doing a job then one can do various online jobs and get rid of feeling boared at home. thaks to internet revolutions who has putted a no of opportunities at our doorsteap
