Does the true love always coming to MARRIAGE?
By sabwinner
@sabwinner (499)
China
14 responses
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
7 May 07
I don't think true love always coming to marriage. A marriage contains not only love but also your parents' opinions, and famliy background and so on in my country.
A friend of mine loves a boy, and she is pregnant but they can't get married. Because my friend's mom doesn't like the boy because he has no stable job and a house. Now my friend is 26 years old, and she can't find a suitable man to marry. Her mother is very anxious and regret, but it doesn't work. They love each other very much ,but now the boy hate her very much. He lost his baby. When they are seperated , the baby is going to come, but my friend's mom kills the baby, she asks her daughter to have an abortion threatened in her life, my friend has no choice.
She always says that if my baby were living, he was 5 years old.
@sheenmadness (1286)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
hi wonderful!
Im sorry to hear about that my friend. It was really a sad story your friend got there, But somehow, someway i understand the feeling of her mother at that time. You know parents always wants the best for their child. In every possible way they're trying their best to spare their child from all the burdens the world could offer. So i think at that time her parents only wants the best for her. And they think that it will be more okay if she and her boyfriend wouldn't end up together. They were thinking of the posibilities of how they may live if they both don't have a job. How would they give the needs of their future children. Maybe her parents look at that way so from there, to spare their child from suffering more they decided to let them separate. It's not that im tolelating the wrong doings her mother. Abortion is always a sin and its untolerable. No matter how good our intentions are and no matter what our reasons in doing so. Im just trying give justification and somehow trying to put my shoes in her mothers side that time so that i can understand her mother better and somehow trying to think that it was the best choice they can come up at that time.
I wish your friend the best of luck and wish she can move on and just look at the brighter side of the world. They may have commited mistakes in the past but just tell her to make it an inspiration and a learning experience that maybe the next time she will not do the same mistakes again. Please tell her also not to live in regrets forever. There's still a lot in the world ahead of her. Tell her also to be strong its only a test of life we need to conquer.
Sorry i haven't answered your question. I was more strucked by your friends story. Hope u understand.
Good luck my friend and wish you and your friend all the happiness in the world. God Bless! :)
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
7 May 07
I think it's a bit of a misconception really.
I have been with my partner for 9 years now & we're not married, this doesn't mean we don't love each other.
To both of us it's just a piece of paper that tells us we love each other which relly don't need. You can be happy & love one another without actually being married.
I guess everyone has a different idea about this but to me, it's just an expensive piece of paper that isn't necessary!
We may marry one day but it's not a big deal for us.
@sabwinner (499)
• China
7 May 07
Yes, although you are not married, you still live happily and that's a successful marriage mean.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
5 May 07
No I don't think so. I think people sometimes want different things. Just because two people really do love eachother, does not mean that one will ask the other to marry them, nor does it mean they'll actually go through with the wedding itself. Some people just don't want marriage, some people want different things in a relationship, and just because they really do love and care for eachother, does not mean this true love will actually lead to anything.
@sabwinner (499)
• China
7 May 07
yes, people want different things, sometimes it's more comfortable not married for them as long as they wish.
@vickyrocks17 (249)
• India
7 May 07
i dont think true love will always result in marriage but chances of it are quite high.
even in true love diferences can arise which can really weaken the strong understanding between two people.
hence it would be wrong to say thet true love will always result in marriages.
@Cliffbottom (22)
• China
8 May 07
Maybe it's true,but personally I believe that true love is something awesome and rare. True love is give without thinking of return! Most willingly to do anything for another! Even through the two may not be partner in the end, the love between them will exist for ever!
@limcyjain (3516)
• India
5 May 07
Normally true love should lead to marriage unless something drastic happens. Marriage needs courage as it leads to a lot of responsibilities and a commitment to be together for life. Only persons in love can do this truly from heart.
@mypeace (393)
• Nigeria
7 May 07
l dont really believe that alllove relationship should enter into marriage. love is not only criteria for marriage, there should be other features that should be in place for a marriage to stand the test of time, its been known through married peoples experiences that love wears out in marriage, meaning that love is not enough hold for marriage. The only guy l had ever loved in my life is not the person l would marry, reasons best known to me.
@jmespinosa82 (498)
• United States
5 May 07
I agree that true love doesn't always come with marriage. I think Marriage is more than just love I think love is the base and the reason why people get married but marriage also comes with communication, repsect, and trust. That could be why divorce is so high people think well I love him or her and we should get married. The other person may be a different point in their life and just aren't ready to get married.
@rajeshkumar1113 (100)
• India
7 May 07
ya i think but it will happen to only 50-70% lover that if they love then it gonna for marriage and it will also for me if i love some one then it is not true that it will change to marry but in some cases it will .. in my city there is my frien who love a girl in the same city and they wanna to marry to each other and their poarents are not ready then my frien told him that i will marry with your daughter other wise i can do any thing then they told him that you first do some job then we do it after that my friend do a good job and came again to marry her but the parents of the girl decided her marriage with other .. then he tell her parents that you promish me that when i got a job then you allow me to marry with you daughter ...but their parents dont agree then they both leave the home and go to other place and leave together and after one year their parents go to them and tell him sorry and ask to come back then they refuse to go back....... this kind of love go for marriage.........
@felinegoddess (39)
• Philippines
5 May 07
unfortunately, that's not always the case. there may be true love, but there might be certain circumstances that might get in the way of true love ending up in marriages. as they say, love is not the only essential factor in a relationship. besides, having a love that is true for someone does not mean that the person should be with you. sometimes, because you truly love a person.... you choose to let go.
@bonnie2008 (511)
• China
7 May 07
Yes,i do, i believe most of the true love will come to marriage.
coz it is not so easy to find the person you can spend the whole life with. as long as we can find the person,we will hope to go together with he/she won't you?
