Are you jelous to the other`s successes ?
By magica
@magica (3707)
Bulgaria
May 5, 2007 6:59pm CST
As an example i will notice the community here in MyLot. Milion discussions about the discussions of the others: why none of my friends replies back, why some of them get more replies then me, why some earn more then me, how they can have more posts then me...
I DONT UNDERSTAND. I really dont. WHY? Is this any kind of competition or jelousy? So...how jelous you are? Be honest. Does it really mean for you if A.gots more replies or more posts? There are many people who have less replies and posts then you...
So...are you jelous in your real life and job too?
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22 responses
@monalizra (219)
• Romania
6 May 07
well... jelousy is a hard thing...
is wrong to be jelous but who can stop?
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@Tenerifelynn (575)
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6 May 07
Not at all! I could never get jealous of others success, no matter how close I am to them. In fact I see thier success as something I want to learn from and try and do something myself to be as successful. My thought is that those around you that are successful can teach those around them tips that they may learn and grow in thier own field.
Lynn-Marie
@recycledgoth (9894)
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6 May 07
I don't really understand it either hun. I thought the idea was to get involved in discussions with friends and people around the world. I guess those people who are jealous are only really here for the money, and as such are focussed only on the numbers. I don't think I am a jealous type in all honesty, just happy to be here.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
6 May 07
Hello,magica,I will not be jealous of someone's success,i do not need to compare with other people,I am happy as who i am. It is never a good thing to try to compare and catch up with other people.They have something I do not have, but I also have something they do not have,they may be succesful but they may not be happy, I am not sucessful but I am happy,so I will not compare with other.
Good luck
@cosmopolitan (1263)
• India
6 May 07
Hi easy that does not make any sense that u r not sucessful still you are happy.People live and work for sucess in life.Are you trying to say that you will be unhappy when sucessful
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@ibsnet (1268)
• India
6 May 07
we are here a good great family to discuss, share, know and also earn from each other's participation. The success of one person depends entirely on his ability to start or respond discussions with quality posts. Quality determines the success and earning too. So there is no place of jealousy in mylot. We should better share how to improve quality of our posts so that we can all earn more and succeed. We should try to learn the good things from the one who succeeded not jealous to his/her success.
@curvychick77 (1084)
• United States
6 May 07
I pretty much spend a lot of time here and no I don't get envious of who has more comments and who comments on my topics or not. Personally to me this is a place where I can be free, I can write about anything and help others, if it works great and if not, then oh well. I'm not going to go around whining and crying that no one likes me or that so and so makes more money.
I'm glad you posted this topic, it should be something everyone should read. There is no real need for anyone here to be jealous of anyone elses success on mylot.
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
6 May 07
Hello,curvychick,in fact,we do not need to judge whether one is successful or not in mylot,if we are real successful people like bill gates,we do not have time to be on mylot.
We are here to enjoy our time(and earn a little bit extra money,lol.),just relaxed and be happy.
Good luck
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@littlefranciscan (18327)
• United States
6 May 07
Not replying back may not be because of jealousy..Sometimes it may be merely not enough time available. I have close to 400 friends and its only 3 or 4 who reply to my discussions.
It could be that people are looking for too much money to post or that they have nothing to say:)+
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@sunita64 (6469)
• India
6 May 07
I sincerely feel that every person has a destiny so if a person has something better than you then one should not be jealous as it does not take you further in life, it is only hard work and sincere dedication that you rise in life not by jealousy, so i do not give jealousy any place in my life as it destroys your good will with others.
@Basspro55 (7)
• United States
6 May 07
Not really if they worked hard and honest to get to the top they deserve what they have.
@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
6 May 07
no i am not jealous about that. i am glad when the posters get the answers, and i mean the answers they need if it is for support, or if it is a good debate. what i absolutely hate is abusive, rude or nasty. these i report straight to mylot, because its a friendly community here and we dont need bashfests or anything else. but most of the members here are very friendly and supportive. in my real life i tend not to be jealous, maybe sometimes a little bit of soory for me when i do not have enough money o buy what i want. but its not a big issue here
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@Bizziebod (3497)
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6 May 07
I'm really not jealous of other's successes, I really do wish them well on their journey through life, as you never know what happens behind closed doors and I'm happy with my life so I've not really got anything to be jealous about. As regards to mylot, there are lots out there just in it for the money rather than the discussions and that's fine if you don't want to have many friends. Personally I go through my friends list at least once a week and try and answer at least one of their discussions, it doesn't sound alot but I don't have a huge amount of spare time, and only here at the moment as I can't sleep lol!
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@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
6 May 07
Most of the time i'm not that jealous,but i can get jealous at rich people who really doesn't deserve it.Who just earned their money in a bad way and do bad things with it or keep everything for themselves instead of helping other people who really need it.
Then i get jealous because i could think of tons of good things i could do for others if i were rich.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
6 May 07
I never notice these. I just find that i have 8 stars now. how excited it is ? I like some unexpected things.
But in reality, I will envy those girls lived in a wealthy family. Girls like beautiful clothes and jewelries. but my parents pay for tuition fee and living expense for me, so I can't squander money on those unnecessary. When I read some stories and see some programmes about those girls, I will be in bad mood, but I will be better in a few minutes. I know what should I do. Have you envy someone?
Please correct my mistakes in the last paragraphs, thank you.
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@licisheng508 (221)
• China
6 May 07
no, i didn't.i never envious somebody,as a new member,i have to learn many things.if someone who do it better than everyone else,it is as result of he's hard work.i think if we do it for our upmost effort,we may be achieve our goal.come on every one!
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
6 May 07
i don't get jealous of really anything at all.
Usually when i see those discussions i just skip on by, i don't pay attention, and i don't care.
All that's important in my life is how my family and i do things, as long as it's working, then i'm glad, if someone else gets good things happening to them or with them, good for them, i'm the first person to throw praise, because they deserve it.
I don't understand why people have to be jealous all the time, this is life, this is the way it is, get over it, or don't do it.
There have been times when i wished like mad for more responses to a discussion here and there, but it has nothing to do with anyone else's discussions, just the way i worded my own.
So it doesn't matter at all, one bit.
@roque20 (518)
• Philippines
6 May 07
I am not jealous to other's success instead i am inspired and motivated to work hard.I dont know why others are jealous to the other's success.I am just motivated to work hard because of success of others and i am happy also to know that my friends and some here are successful in gaining many responses.
@killahclaire (3665)
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6 May 07
Well I take it this discussion is totally aimed at me and I could just as easily turn around and say you are jealous of me for some reason or another.
The only reason why I started up that discsussion was because I was making a simple observation that someone was very popular.
And no I am not like that in my job because I am the bloody best in my job because I work my arss off and don't get bogged down on other people.
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
6 May 07
Funny:-) I never aim CONCRETE PEOPLE. I am enough honest if your discussion expecially inspired me for something- good or bad- to post a link and to say:
this discussion /link/ inspired me to ask...blabla...
I allways do it. And this is a way to show the people the source of my inspiration. And they can see the other point of you in your discussion:-)
So what jelousy of you we talk about? LOL
I just shared my COMMON impression what i have from some days till now. Here we have a sentence: "better see on your plate, not on the plate of your neighbour, there is food for everybody"
So the main goal of my discussion is actually the simple question: DO WE NOTICE IN FACT THAT THE COMPETITION SOMETIMES KILLS THE FRIENDLY ATMOSPHERE.
And this is not just here, i just gave the example with MyLot community. It`s valid also in the real life.
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@dedicated_28 (1383)
• United States
6 May 07
I don't feel it's necessary to be jealous. Some people do better than others and we should be happy for them. Imagine some of the time some ppl put into mylot, they deserve it. it is what you make it, and if your not happy then strive to improve and one day you'll be reading a discussion of a complaining nature and that's what you'll be thinking (do they realize the time and all the contributions that I have put into mylot) Whining about others is no way to get ahead around here.
@easyzheng (666)
• China
7 May 07
No, I have never been jealous of other people's success. But I did feel frustrated when I saw my good friends making great success in some fields. I would envy them and wondered why I could not make it. Sometimes this feeling became a motivation in my work but sometimes it turned into a negative affect to my work.
