Anyone out there who had a cheating parent? How did it effect you?

My dad cheated on my mom whenm I was younger he is now maried to the woman and have the child from the affair. It realy did not effect me till I got older. I have pent up anger towards him and for a lot of other horrible things he did.

Its so sad that you feel you have experienced betrayal at the hand of your father. The one man in the world that you should be able to trust and be confident with. Not all men are like that and you will be able to have a meaningful and loyal relationship with someone. You will have to learn to trust again. If your boyfriend is that one and loves you he will help you to build up your confidence again.

It's a pain in the neck that father and mother divorced, but not all families are the same, the most families also are happy, you need a optimistic way and not all men are the same, the most of them are undivided , would you learn to trust other. Wish you get a happy family!

my dad cheated on my mom even when my mom was pregnant with me. My aunts told me about this fact and I even saw the girl who was my dad's daughter when I was a teenager and we were of the same age. My father left my mom for yet another woman and he had two kids with her. I hate my father for all his selfishness he did with my family. He only wanted his life to be happy and he was never even concerned about the welfare of his family. I can never forgive him. I don't talk with my dad until now and i don't have any plans of knowing him and being a part of his life. As far as how it affected my life because of his actions, I don't trust men. The only person I can trust is my husband. Lucky for me, I found a person really opposite from my father. My husband is the only man i can trust with my life and soul.

I don't know but all I can say is it's really difficult to forgive a cheating person. I mean it could cause some dilemmas to you like what you are experiencing right now but love could change that. I mean if you love you are willing to trust and have faith on your partner although it must have been really hard for you to do so.

My parents never cheated on one another but I seen what can happen to a child that has gone through this. My SIL decided to have an affair on her husband. She had several in fact but the last one she decided to leave her husband for. My nephew has a lot of hatred and mistrust in women now because of how she went about things. She played both men against one another to see how much she could get. My nephew swears he will never get married because of this.

I have cheating parents, they didn't cheat on each other, but they cheated me. I entrusted a big sum of my family's money to them because they said they know someone where we can buy a new car for low downpayment, I waited 5 months for the car when I got impatient I asked for our money back. After 3 months they gave me a check but it bounced when after I deposited it into my bank account, I asked for the money in cash, they said 'tomorrow' but when tomorrow came they have a client meeting. I got really upset and told her that I need the money back after the weekend, my husband and I went to their house on a monday morning and I founf my mom really angry. She was angry because I was texting her while she's on a meeting, she said I was too impatient to get my money and threated me that she will not give it back because I made her angry. The confrontation happpened 4 months ago and now our money is still with them, I'm not talking to any of them because I despise them for not giving our hard earned money back.

Hey parents can't ever cheat their sons and daughters. How could they do that. My parents are so lovable to me so I can't say anything about them and I can't ever think that they would cheat me.

Well,i havent experience that kind of situation but i do have many parents who are their parents had cheated because my friends are very open to us whatever problem it is and we help them overcome it also.I can see that they are also affected by the situation they attitude changes and they want more attention from their love ones and friends.

Yes, and I think that it has made me so I never really trust anyone. Cheating parents, spouses or anyone else destroy trust that is very hard to get rebuilt and may never be rebuilt at all. People should be faithful to those they say they love, I think when someone cheats they are saying they do not really love the person they say they do. They may not even be capable of true love at all.

Sorryy to hear about your dad, dont know what to tell you , seriously , because i have a father who is so much dedicated and loving to my mother , i dont know actually what is to have a such a father that you described and that too an act like that when you were in your chilhood .

Forgive him, it will probably make you a better person... TC

Well i think human beings are born chetaers and we leran the art of lying to perfection....we all have cheated our parents by telling lie on one occasion or other....but we shuld not hurt their sentiments and keep these things away as much as we can...

I'm sorry for what hav affected you ,but sometimes everone of us have to face it in one or other relationship. The betrayal or cheating affects the most if it's from the spouse. You have to accept it and move ahead of it,but it doesn't mean that you have to suspect your boyfriend,really it's insane if you're not certain.

My dad cheated on my mom several times so my mom went out and cheated on my dad several times. My mom has continued to talk down about my dad around us kids. Even after several years of everything being complete. They never did get a divorce but as a child (young teenager) growing up hearing your parents sling insults at eachother and talk about sordid affairs wan't anything that even I thought I should be hearing. I prayed that they would divroce because I loved them both and couldn't stand the hate they used toward and felt toward eachother. I thouhg things might have been better if they had've gotten divorced. How has this affected me..... I want a lasting relationship. I want my kids to ahve a mom and dad that get along. I want to go on family trips, play board games and have a family night. I want everyone to get along.

For me, my parents are separated also. They separated when i was still young and that i understand what happened to them. At times, i just feel that things would have been better if they are still together but it's ok for me. I have survived those years without them by my side. Even if they are my parents, i consider them as other people and i don't have control over what they are thinking or what their decisions maybe. I think, it would just be better for you to accept what happened to your family. Maybe they are not really meant for each other. You have your own life, and just make the most out of it and it is unfair for your bf that you are thinking he is lying to you. Don't blame your father of who you are now, it's your life and you have the power to choose who you really want to be.