Does marraige marks the beginning or the end?

Laltu, marriage is a struggle from the beginning. It's never easy. It is a constant battle to maintain the relationship while building a life for your family. There are bills to pay, a family to feed, medical issues to keep in mind. Sometimes you get so overwhelmed in the fight to survive, you forget your partner is struggling with you. You lose sight of why you fell in love to begin with. It is at that point you have to pull away and learn to fall in love all over again. There have been many points in my marriage that the easiest thing for both of us would have been to throw in the towel. But the fact is that we do and always have loved each other. I can tell you for a certain fact that I have fallen in love with my husband 100 times through out our life together. In November that will be 27 years. I can also tell you honestly there have been as many times that I hated him. I hated to watch him chew his food. I thought if I had to wash one more pair of his underwear I would roll over and scream.... Then he would come along and sweep me off my feet again, and I would realize it was not my husband that was causing my distress, but circumstance. My anger was really with in myself, and only projected in his direction. He is only a human after all, and he was handling things the best he could also. Don't let failed marriages sour your heart. Good strong marriages can happen, but not with out heartache, tears, pain, hard work, love, understanding and patience.

I am married but i am not very good at discussing marrige. Some time life becomaes very monotonous and you really feel frustrated..at that time you need to take a break and go gor holiday ..try somethign new with your wife.Go out for dinner.Win her confidence and you can watch other pretty girls and just pass comment and laugh it off..it works for me ..try it out...but do not over do it ..

Well one can say, Marriage is the beginning of responsibilities and end of freedom ;-)

Marriage is an institution.There are certain guidelines to be followed in an institution and if anyone breaks any rule that renders disturbance within the institution.Fiddelity is of utmost importance.That is the corner stone of marital relation.All other problems are transitory and can be easily resolved.So never be afraid to get married.All the best.

Yeah im pretty worried about all of that stuff. I dont really know if I want to get married. I dont want to get tired/bored of my boyfriend, and I wouldn't want us fighting constantly either. I definitly see marriage as a positive that can easily turn into a negative. I think that most marriages start of great, but after time its not the same. Im not saying that its like that for most people, but I fear that it will be like that for me. The majority of marriges break up..I think that boredom and routine is the main reason.

It's both. Marriage is the end of one life and the beginning of another. If you've chosen wisely and both of you are mature enough to think of the other first, it's the beginning of something wonderful. Love is not a feeling. True love is choosing the interests of the other person over your own. It's a choice you have to make every day. In the beginning it's easy to make that choice. Eventually, the initial attraction and the emotion wears thin, and you have to keep making the choice anyway. That's when a lot of marriages fall apart. Since none of us can love each other perfectly, we also have to forgive each other, sometimes for the same thing many times.

its a journey!

I dont see it as a new beginning OR as the end of life..and I feel sorry for those who DO see it as an end but at the same time I wonder about those who see it as a new beginning.... When I got married both my husband and I knew what we were getting into...neither of us required the other to change in fact I flat out told him I wouldnt change and didnt expect him to either....I could care less if he checks out other women and more often than not I point them out to him and he's never nattered about me pointing out a guy I think is hot looking......My husband is predictable without a doubt but I'm UNpredictable enough for the both of us so it balances out nicely LOL... The only thing that has REALLY changed in my husband is his lowered love for life...he's not nearly as fiesty and funloving as he used to be BUT that has nothing to do with us being married adn the only difference in me really is the fact that I'm more level headed and grounded/centred but again that doesnt have anything to do with us getting married...

Marriage is the beginning of life full of responsibility and the end for meaningless fun. I've been married for two years now, we had our shares of ups and downs but we still managed to work everything out. There are times when I felt invisible to my husband because he's way too caught up in work and his computer games, I talked to him about it, he got defensive at first but after a couple of days he apologized and until now he still remembers to limit his playing time for our family. The people who believe that marriage is the end for everything are afraid of commitments.

I believe in marriage even if my marriage is not good at all. Unfortunately I and my wife are very different.... too much different.... and so we always fight, above all after the birth of our son we have always different ideas about growing up him. And yet I think that marriages are different, there are bad marriages - and in fact in my country (Italia) there are a lot of divorces nowadays - and there are very good marriages, I know some couples who are really very happy. I think like your girlfriend, marriage means the beginning of a new life. A better or a worse life? I don't know, but it really begins something new.

It is both an end and a beginning. I've been married for 28 years. My only regrets are not behaving better towards my wonderful husband and step-son. I grew up a lot after getting married, and I married at 32! I think many people have unrealistic expectations about marriage -- especially if they marry young (under the age of 27). It takes work and compromise, and wanting what's best for your partner. If you keep at it, it can develop into a deeper love than you've ever experienced before. Satisfying and happily contented -- maybe not a thrill a minute -- but you can get more done in life with a good partner at your side.

Marriage does not to the end for everyone. If every marriage couples have such thinking, why marry in the first place? There is always an ups and downs in a every marriage, even for the most happily married couple. I guess the best thing to do is give and take, communicate more often and go for "honeymoon" more often. I am trying to give some "sparks" back in my marriage life. I am also following some tips from mylotian and friend on how to deal with all these ups and downs. So far, I can say it is working.

I feel marriage is a scared thing that should be taken very seriously!!! Many youngsters thinks that marriage is just love and love... nothing else! you should never forget that marriage is accompanied with lots of responsabilities, adjustments and compromises... But never thinks that marriage is the end! If it was the end then people would have given up marriage! Marriage is the most wonderful moment of two persons life which is always remembered! My married life is so wonderful and my opinion is that marriage is the beginning of a new and happy life with my soulmate... and as i said there are ups and downs in wedding life; so there are only three words that can make a married life successful are... not I LOVE YOU but adjustment, compromise and love!!!!!!!

As far as i am concerned, marriage is GOD's best gift to man... but the problem is man misuses and abuses this gift , just like any other gift from God... This might sound like a cliche, and it is, but i really mean it.... marriage is all about compromises... because marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman (atleast in most cases :) ), and since men are from mars and women are from venus, they dont gel together readily... but if u give some time for this 'UNION' and make some compromises, then u will definitely appreciate this concept of marriage

i got married once never again it was the end a complete disaster i made a mistake i married a cheater

according to me, marriage is neither the end nor the beginning. its just a tight-rope walking on the road to unending compromises. you have to adjust your priorites to suit your spouse's and make that extra effort to smoothen out the rough edges. marriage teaches you a lot about life, about being sympathetic, about sharing and caring and also about being judicious in your decisions. each day brings a new challenge (yes, what to arrange as tiffin for your school-going kid, can be a challenge in itself!). but even after having a balanced view, i do believe women stand to lose more than men, post-marriage. the first thing that ends for a woman is her independence, though it depends, like some women are more restricted in their parents' house and marriage gives then a new freedom. by independence i mean their independence of time is gone forever. a woman's time is no longer her own once she is married. even if she stays in a nuclear family, all the household duties fall on her shoulder and she hardly has any time for herself. this is what makes most women irritated and short-tempered and this is where men can step in to make life smoother for both. a little help to your wife in the house, maybe a movie followed by dinner (so that she doesn't have to cook), small weekend trips twice a year, helps a lot in relieving the pressure and rekindling the youth lost. cut out the evening addas, spend more time on your kid's studies, dust the house on weekends, be there to listen to her problems. never belive that helping your wife in the kitchen will make you hen-pecked! treat her more as a friend than a spouse and you will find married life to be much more enjoyable!

well literally marriage is the end of being single and the beginning of a lifetime commitment. i guess its a beginning of a new path in of life you will face, huge responsibility, a great connection to someone. its gonna be the end of a happy go lucky life, practically it doesnt meant we have to stop having fun with friends but i guess it should be lessen compare while your still single. they said marriage is the beginning of two people become one. you just cant decide without asking or telling your partner, you have to compromise in every aspects in life so that marriage will work. and i guess its also a beginning both happy and learning life experience.

Marriage for me is both the beginning and the end. The beginning for you're about to start a family of your own. In every decision that you will make you need to tell her/him first before doing it especially for family matters. Your/her ideas is important. It's the end, for both of you are going to sacrifice a lot of things that you used to do. You'll do a lot of adjustments from personal to whatsoever. What you knew about her before you're still engage is far different when you're married already. That's the only time that you'll really know each other. You have to be open to each other and if you have some disagreements you need to talk about it at once/overnight if possible so it will not get worst. It's really tough but it will be better as you go along.

I am not married yet but I am living together with my boyfriend since couple of months and we are together since one year. I love him and he loves me and this is what I call wonderful. And for the people who thing living alone and being "independent" I have a message: Imagine yourself around 40, alone, in a big house, with a big car and a big pool. You already have a starting heart disease or something similar. You don't really attract anyone, but your money does. Your only companion is a your cat who is friendly only when gets food:). ME I would like to imagine myself around that age surrounded by my husband, children in a nice house with a little garden and animals, sometimes traveling all together. I don't know, for me, the second option sounds better and not like the beginning of the end..

Most of people think that marriage is the end of love. The beginning or the end ,you should experience it by yourself. Every pair of couple have their own marriage, you can use others' bad marriages to warn you, but don't be disappointed about yout marriage. Why doesn't a husband look his wife when they are dating or just haveing dinner outside? Don't you think you have few time with your wife except sleeping time? You have more time to see other girls when you are not together. Just a simple glance? How can a husband find an excuse for himself? I don't want to talk about it. People are those who don't know what is the most important thing in their lives untill they lose it. good luck.