Should rude,obnoxious members have their discussions automatically deleted?

Angelwhispers, you are correct on censorship. Thank you.

Hi! Actually it wouldn't be censorship as we did agree when we joined not to be verbally abusiveso if mylot were to do something like that,it would be just enforcing the rules.I did hit the abuse button but she is still being nasty.the one you had to respond to abuot the barbs,she is one of the ones I was talking about and if you noticed,she is still putting sarcastic remarks on the front page of this discussion. She is even twisting this discussion around. I guess she just like to start fights but I am not gonna sink to her or the other rude people's level by name calling or being mean.OH,Angel,you have no idea how bad I want to say something nasty back.YOu should read her comment about me at the bottom.Said she was glad that I allowing other people to see what kind of person I really am.I kind of feel sorry for her and other rude people actually.I wonder what makes them like that?

Sugar, I see now that she has targeted you. Why I can not fathom at all. You are being as respectful and showing restraint here as I have ever seen in mylot. Stating an opinion does not mean an attack on the author of a discussion. When someone does this it shows lack of character and vocabulary. One simply does not have the words to get a point across with out using juvenile ways and means. Hang in there.

Finally, a breath of fresh air in this stale air of controlism. Thank you, PsychoDude.

thank you for your response and also for being civil in your disagreement.I really appreciate it.Just wish everyone who disagreed with a discussion would respond civillay as you did. Have a good day.

Carlylaine, in all fairness I do believe that Reinydawn is agreeing with you. I don't think its necessary to throw out the barbs with her.

Ok ANGELWHISPERS, in some ways she is agreeing with me in someways not. So Reiny it's half in half, ok?

"UNFORTUNATELY, as in life everyone is entitled to their opinion?" But it's ok for you to have an opinion and spout it all whenever???!!!???? Do you know what you sound like to people who don't believe in censorship? Sometimes, you control freaks make me want to scratch my rearness. I SWEAR!

that's awful of them to say that to you. I don't know what makes people tick.I'm having a big problem with a member. I had reported her once cause she was extremely mean in a discussion but her comments are still there and I don't know why cause she was certainly violating mylot's rules.She ridiculed another discussion and she can't getting nasty with this one.

Is MYLOT full of wimps? GADZOOKS! Some people like to have heated discussions. Leave those people alone...that's what they do and they have fun with it. YIKES!

Jersey...different strokes for different folks-ever hear or read that before? Why do you think there are pugilists? Lots of people like physical, verbal or written arguments. It's no big deal. This is where YOUR control comes in. I was just responding to this-what I thought was an interesting post. I didn't realize that it was you that was so caustic earlier. Gads, and you hold grudges, too. If you care to you can read back at other posts or responses of mine and you'll see that I write nice things as well. You want mylot to be your UTOPIA. Well, honey, it ain't. I'll try NOT to answer any of your posts again. But, sadly, I may forget because I don't hold grudges as you do.

I know it isnt right. .I just wish this person who commented on your response would start acting civilized. I can't believe she referred to putting people down as fun.there is nothing fun about it.thanks for your response

Hi. I wish she had of come out and just said she didn't believe or like the article instead of attacking.I am not the only one this member has been rude too

I only had to report two people since I joined.One was for another member and one was for a member who is just unbelievabley rude to me and others.If you want to get a taste of what i mean,check out the first page. She is really sarcastic but it is nothing compared to the other discussions of mine she answered.I reported her about a month or so ago but she is still being nasty.I think people like her just like to start fights .I am not gonna start in with the name calling and verbal abuse if that is what she or any other member thinks.

you are right there. we all have to do our share by ticking on the (!) rating and then report abuse to mylot admin. users may be banned from this site if they make it a habit to abuse the forum. let us all do our share so we can shake off the presence of these undersirable people here in mylot.

I have tried reporting but this one person that has been really rude to not only me but others is still being rude .I don't know if I should try again or not.

Thank you Jenny. People keep talking about censorship but they don't realize we all agreed to not call other members names and not to verbally abuse the members. If people are ignoring that rule,it isn't censorship if mylot does something about it

Maybe if we had more people report ,things would get better.I had to report one member who was not only really nasty to me but to others as wellbut she is still being rude.

Hi,Speedy! I have reported her with the abuse button but nothing was done as of yet. Even with this discussion,she is being sarcastic to other members.

That's what I told this one member before that has been giving me a real hard time. She really got nasty on a 911 discussion I did,ridculed another and then gave me a hard time on this one on the first page.I tried reporting her before but she is still being extremely nasty.

I am with you.I have been a member for almost 4 months and Have only had to report someone twice.The first time had nothing to do with me,I was defending a mylot member and again for one of the members I was referring to in this discussion who is even being rude in this discussion.Like I said,I don't mind heated discussions but some of these members are going just too darned far.

thank you so much. I just wish the other members would agree. They keep saying mylot shouldn't be censored but when we joined mylot,didn't we agree not to resort to name calling or verbal abuse?Sheesh! thank you again

I agree with you. They should be banned if they can't stop verbally abusing the members.Maybe get a warning first then if they continue,ban them

I have reported a member for being verbally abusive to not only me but others but nothing was done.She is still being mean.

I honestly don't know what to say. Maybe if this person gets enough complaints, someone will delete the abusive posts.

The rudeness wasn't all that bad when I joined,it's just recently gotten really bad. we should'nt have to put up with that. If they can't abide by the rules,they should be banned.by the way,welcome to mylot!

I don't think automatic deletion would be against freedom of speech .WE all agreed to not verbvally abuse anyone when we joined mylot.If mylot were to enforce that,that is not censhorship

In life if somebody is rude to me I try to ignore them and be the better person, unless they hit a raw nerve and then I give them what for. There are rude people every place you turn in every day life and you have to deal with it in what ever way works best for you.Ok so we are talking about MyLot, but if you spend time on here then it is part of your real life. Not abusing other members is part of the rules here. We should all try to get along. But don't forget that when we see something written as opposed to hearing it said it is very easy to make a mistake about the persons meaning or intentions. So much of meaning is conveyed through tone of voice and body language. Take for example your use of "WE all agreed" in your response to me. The we is in block capitals, I assume it is for emphasis and I could choose to perceieve that as being snippy and be unkind as a result. I will, however, give you the benefit of the doubt.;) Finally what we think consntitutes abuse can sometimes be our own oversensitivity.So are we talking about the automatic deletion of posts that are extmremely abusive and include direct name calling, so that an objective reader would find them unkind? Or are we talking about the deletion of posts you think could be unkind because you are having a bad day and this caused you to misinterperet it?

when we joined mylot we gave up a little bit of free speech when we agreed to abide by their rules of which some include no name calling or verbal abuse of anykind. If people can't abide by the rules they agreed to ,they should have their discussions removed.