A guy who loves to collect stuff toys
By cheenlly
@cheenlly (3476)
Philippines
May 11, 2007 10:08pm CST
Hi friends what do you think of a guy who collects stuff toys? I have meet a guy online who i once chat. As we chat i have notice and see on his cam that he has a cabinet of stuff toys. Like the whole room full of stuff toys. I was curious then so i ask him is that your collection. He said yes and he tour me around the rooom. I was really amazed to see all of them . He collected it for 3 years. Now im sharing this not to mean anyhting bad or im against guys collecting such stuffs. BUt im just really curious if a guy collects such girl stuff, does it mean he is kind a weird or something gender problem. Now why did i think of that because as i can see he acts like weird for me and i think its very rare for a guy to have a such collection. I must admit i was discouraged but just keep it only to myself. That was the first and the last time we talk because i got scared when he start proposing love and marriage to me....lol...its really funny but its scares me but didnt show to him that im scared and made me laugh because i dont want to hurt his feelings but anyway he feel that i am, so he got upset and to tell you he cried, yes its true because i saw him in cam before he turn it off. So my question what do you think with this guy who love to collect stuff toys? Does his collection reflect his personality? If your in my place, do you feel and think the same way? would you feel scared too?
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16 responses
@okn0tok (569)
• United States
12 May 07
Well it does seem a bit strange. I don't know that it would mean there was anything wrong with him.
I think its normal for people to like to collect something.
And if you take away societies views about gender and who is allowed to like what it isn't like he is collecting Barbie dolls or womens shoes.
He probably cried because he was heartbroken.
He may be immature for his age as well, some people do not have a lot of experience in relationships or they are overly sensitive.
I personally don't like doll or toy collecting and it would have turned me away too.
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@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
12 May 07
OH i forgot to mention that he is 28 years old and he is an author of children books and also an architect. So im pretty sure he is not immature on his age. I understand maybe he is hurt but how can you believe such person who proposed on first meeting in just 1 hour of talking only and didnt even know the person. I think you will probably scared too and wonder. its really strange, isnt it?
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
12 May 07
that explains why he loves to have toys. an author of children's books is a child by heart. do not be discouraged, these type of people are looking for partners for a long time already. once they find a woman whom they have a liking to, they propose immediately in the hope that you like him too. but men who are children at heart, are the ones whom you should not be afraid of. they are mostly kindhearted, understanding and loving.
know more about him as you talk and chat after some time. do not judge him immediately. there will come a time when he will ask to see you. let him come so you can meet personally. that will be the time when you can finally decide whether to take him for a boyfriend or not.
@Candid_Ishida (659)
• United States
12 May 07
I don't think a guy collecting toys or stuffed animals is weird at all! I think it is cute. My best friend collects Asian Ball Jointed Dolls, for example, and he likes cute toys as well.
The part that seems weird is that he would propose his love to you after only knowing you for a little while... I don't think his collecting of toys is connected to that though, he just seems like a bit of a strange person.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
12 May 07
no, you should not be scared of him. you should be curious why he is collecting stuff toys instead. this is common among some men. if you relate this story to a caucasian, they will just give you a laugh and a shrug of their shoulders. next time you chat, tell him that you have noticed his stuff toy collection and, ask him what is his reason for it.
as you get to know him better, you will know that these guys are sensitive and considerate of the feelings of others. my daughter's boyfriend is just like that. he does not collect stuff toys, it's comics that he is into. we found him to be good natured when he visited us last year. he is a child by heart, but he is mature and responsible. give it a chance before you decide on it.
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
12 May 07
Well, usually guys don't. But hey, there are always exceptions. I quite like soft toys myself but I wouldn't know what to do with them if I have them. They are nice to look at and squeeeeze once in a while but that's that. We I do when I see something really nice is to just buy it and give it to someone else. ;-)
@zengguoxing (773)
• China
12 May 07
In my opinion,paticular hobby stands for one's personality.I'm not likely to approach such person.I will certainly feel scared to meet such people.
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@justjewels (56)
• United States
13 May 07
My 6 foot 2 son is as all guy as guys can get, and he won't part with his beanie babies or his troll dolls he collected as a kid. They are still in nets in the corners of his walls in his room. He seldom bothers with them, but he won't relinguish them either. He is 17, and very level headed. I don't think it is weird that a guy has a soft side or that he isn't afraid to cry. He dates and hangs out with his friends just like a normal teenager. If this guy scares you, was it just the stuffed animals, or perhaps his whole demeanor on camera. Animals in themselves are not cause for such alarm.
@varunoberoi (266)
• India
12 May 07
well thats really funny.... guys dont really collect stuff... being stuff toys is even worse. well i think you should first confirm it from him... if he really does colect stuff toys... maybe he was in his sister's room or his moms ... just ask him if he collects stuff.. dont mention stuff toys... and then ask where is he... if he says he is in his room... and that he does not collect stuff toys... then he is lying and there is something wierd about him...
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
12 May 07
Hi Cheenlly, Yes well it does seem quite weird for me to as I have only known of woman to collect stuff toys. Oh what are you sure about this that the guy started making these weird suggestions to you. Oh yes I would feel scared with somebody acting so weird.
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@carolynpb (647)
• United States
20 May 07
I'd personally think the guy is weird. Stuff animals are just not for guys no more than dolls are. Now my husband has a teddy bear that our daughter gave him one year for fathers day that says best father but that's about it for stuffed animals. YOU'RE BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM! LOL
@irfan_fatboy (192)
• India
13 May 07
well i think he might not be perfect mentally of a guy who can chat and make friends wont collect any stuff toys maybe he has a problem in which people act very childish its a mental problem i know this cuz my brother is a doctor so and collecting them for 3 years is quite a long time and hahahah about love and marriage yeah i would have been scared too and to be honest it would have freaked me out lol
@panicdude (456)
• Philippines
12 May 07
some people may find it not that weird but for me, it definitely is. are you sure that it's stuff toys not action figures? action figures are normal for guys but if it's stuff toys, i'm really not sure. we should ask a guy about that. and hey, i think it's normal to be scared because that's out of the usual. but i think the guy is somewhat nice, maybe in a weird kind of way. and the way your story goes, i think you did enjoy his company not until he brought up topics on love and marriage plus the fact that he collects stuff toys.
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@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
12 May 07
In most cases, his collection reflect to his personality and I must say if am in your place, I think I will feel the same way, cos meeting such people in life could turn to something else. I will feel schare if it comes in a strange way. Thanks
@natalie1981 (1995)
• Singapore
13 May 07
No, I don't really think a guy collecting stuff toys is weird. It's kinda cute and if I met someone like that, I'd probably nick one of his stuff toys for my own collection. LOL. Men who do this are probably sensitive and kind but if a guy started proposing, that would probably weird me out also, but then again, you know how guys are. Maybe he's just kidding.
@Stiletto (4579)
•
12 May 07
I think it's a bit weird but not because he's a guy - I also think there's something a bit strange about grown women collecting stuffed toys as well! I don't think I would find it scary - just off-putting. He sounds like he's an ok guy though - it's just he's obviously not into all that macho nonsense which is not a bad thing.
@rusty2rusty (6763)
• Defiance, Ohio
12 May 07
No, I don't think it is weird that a guy would collect toys. My 15 yr old boy collects hotwheels. They are collector items and are worth alot of money. Espically the older ones that are hard to find. He also collects alot of nascar and sport stuff.
My 8 yr old old boy collects hotwheels, action figures and stuffed animals. But the stuffed animals are all alligators and monkeys....nothing weird about that either.
You never did say what your friend was collecting. Do you care to share? Would any of the toys happen to go along with any of the childrens books he has written? Now it seems if a kids book comes out...so do toys along with it.
