Which would cause more harm?

I guess both if you dont know how to use it poperly in discipilining your child... I see to it when I give my kids a few spank or scold them... I will explain later on to them why I do that... I do it in a way to discipline them but not to make them feel so low and that I dont love them. I always use it both to improve them and a way to make them understand me... in times that a simple talking is useless as way of discipline.

I also think that they are both not good. I have a three year old daughter. I don't spank her but I think that I am justified in yelling at her. I am not. I watch her reaction and it hurts her feelings. It is my responsibility as her mother to talk to her about the things she does wrong and not yell at her. When I talk to her about things, I get a much better result than if I yell at her.

That is like saying "which weighs more, a pound of feathers, or a pound of stone?" Both weight the same, even though one's hard and one's soft. In the end it is the weight that matters. I was verbally abused (yelled at) as a child, and it has left lasting scars on the souls of myself, my sister and our mother. You can drown just as easily in water as you can suffocate by placing a bag over your head. Both are extremely dangerous.

I usually yell at my son when everything is out of control. A child do experience some bad day himslef and likes to mess my day too. I never tried to spank my son because I don't fell any good after doing it myself. My conscience is killing me just by yelling at him. But when my patience is exhausted i usually cannot control but yell at him to clam him down too.

I would say yelling.Because I child if he looks up at you and sees you yellin greally loud at him the kids gets upset and sad because he probably gets scared when a mom or a dad will be yelling at them when other times they are not.I think spanking(not abusing)is just disciplining a child .Time out doesnt work for all children.Every child is differnt as to how they can be disciplined.Some might behave after being put in time out some kids might still act up.While a child that is spanked(not abusing)will listen to that.Of course their is always going to be some children that are rebellious when they get older even though some parents dicipline them.

To me, I think it sounds like comparing losing your right leg to losing your left. They're equally bad, and can both cause lasting harm to your child. Raising your voice to get your child's attention & to show your displeasure is fine. But frustrated, angry, ranting yelling is scary for children. And a parent who is acting that way is usually pretty out of control at the moment. I don't spank my children, and imo, it seems to border on abusive to me. We don't hit each other as adults when we disagree or if we do, we go to jail for it! Hitting a child sends the wrong message.