Cold shoulders vs direct confrontation
@inday312saylon (747)
Philippines
May 13, 2007 2:36am CST
A quarrel with your spouse is an additional burden or stress if you are working. There are ways to resolve an argument or quarrel. Which way works best for you, giving a spouse a cold shoulder, or discussing with him or her the issue right away?
3 responses
@inday312saylon (747)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Really, you guys do this every time there is an argument? As a woman, I do know that sometimes silence can be the best alternative, at least, in cooling off heated arguments. Well, good for you anyway. Keep it up!
@Neriz69 (1093)
• Philippines
16 May 07
For me direct confrontation works best. I would tell him straight if I see something wrong because I wanted to finish all conflicts. I don't want to sleep with unresolved issues and wake up in the morning and take it to the office. Office work is stressful enough so I make sure that i tell him and ask for resolutions right away. If it remains unresolved, then I have no choice but wait until he's ready. But I don't give up or just let things past just like that.
@missjts (8)
• United States
15 May 07
Cold shoulders definitely hurt the relationship more than it helps it. Though I don't feel that dealing with an issue right away is the best time to resolve an issue, I think silence is disrespectful and the discussing the issue should happen sooner rather than later. You definitely don't want resentment to set in. I try my best to not give a cold shoulder because I hate when it's done to me and though I'm quick to make comments, I'm learning to listen and to speak slowly. It's not always easy but it's definitely helped my relationship grow.
