Feelings very hurt right now....

Ah, my feelings would have been hurt too. It sounds like though, your dad feels like he hasn't done enough for you, and that's why there would be a lot of blank pages. But that's not your fault its his, he should not make you feel bad because of how he feels. I bet your mother loved the gift so much, its a really thoughtful gift, and a special one.

I really don't think your dad meant to hurt your feelings. I think he was trying to admit that you two aren't as close as he wishes you were and that he hasn't been the father he should have been. Not all men are very good at expressing their real feelings and so sometimes things come out wrong. I hope you feel better soon and use this experience to strengthen your relationship with your dad. Father/daughter relationships are different than mother/daughter relationships but they are just as important.

To be honest men don't think about what they are saying before they say it! My dad would say something like that too. Don't take it to heart. My dad and I aren't as close as my mom and I are but i know he loves me and I love him. We just don't hang out and talk alot

That was such a sweet gift and thoughtfull, You know sometimes dads dont think that there kids remember anything there dads did for them it is usually the moms that do for the kids the personal things anyway, but I would do the book im sure you can add some pretty cool things that maby he didnt know you remembered or thought about.

Awww, I am sorry that you have had your feelings hurt in this manner and by an important figure in your life. I hope that you still stick to your plan and do the same thing for your father. I bet after he reads what you have to write, just maybe, he will be surprised and feel appreciated and maybe it could even bring you and your father closer after he realizes how much you do appreciate him. Maybe he said what he said because he feels like a failure, since you two are not very close (as you said). I wish you the best of luck with your relationship with your father, and by the way, I believe that gift for your mother was an awesome idea!

I understand how you are feeling. I am closer to my mom as well as I never really knew my father growing up. We just got reacquainted recently. You can take this as a challenge. It may be a fact that you and your Dad are not that close, but you might be surprised that there's actually a lot of things to thank him for. So I say go ahead and buy that book and start thinking of things that you and your Dad shared. there might not be enough pages after all.

I think that sounds as if your dad is worried that he didnt do as much for you as your mum did over the years. You can prove him wrong when you do his book for him and he'll be able to see that you value him just as much as you do her.

Honey, you sound like you are a very sensitive caring person. I don't think he ment to hurt you. I'm glad you wrote about it, and hope it helped a little. When you are calm, go to dad, and discuss this with him. Do not harbor negative feelings about it, or it will put a wedge between you. Hugs, M&M

U know one thing.. parents never want anything in return for what they do for their children, they just want their kids to love them and remember them till the end.Believe me their are so many children who forget about their parents as soon as they become independent.. :( So just love ur parents and give them a chance to understand how much u love them and care for them.Just try to understand their feelings.. spend enough time with them. then ur dad would also become very close to you like your mom. :)

Please don't get upset and don't feel bad. I think your father is feeling guilty because he knows he could not make better place in your heart like your mother did. He knows that somewhere he as neglected you and has not given you your part of love, the father's love that you deseved. He does not know that inspite of whatever he is , you still love him. So to prove this and to take out his guilt and to bring him closer to you, do write 101 pages and show him that their is not single blank page , that you have a lot to write about your father because you love him. Try to spend more time with him. This will bring you both more closer.

i am sorry to read that you are feeling so sad and miserable..I think you did a good thing writing your sorrow here because it may help you. I think that your father shares your sorrow for not having a good relationship with you. I am sure it is because it is a bit difficult to express one's feelings and men usually have more difficulties than women in doing this...anyway I am sure that it is also a part of growing up finding the right image of our parents..so I am sure that little by little you two will understand each other very well..and keep on thinking about a marvellous present for Dad's day and why not..think about a little surprise for him!!!

Oh, don't be so sad about that. Maybe, your father is just like that or maybe he just don't know how he will show his affection or love for you. Just show how much you'll love him and appreciate him and one day, you will be close with him...Good luck!!!

I'm wondering if maybe you're Dad was teasing you with possibly a straight face and you took it badly? Or if maybe that was his own indirect way of admiting that he hadn't done as many things for you that you would be thankful for as your mom has? It sounds to me like his response was more directed towards himself, in areas he may have felt he was lacking, then it was directed towards you.

hello, i understand why your upset and sometimes it helps to let it out! maybe your dad is feeeling insecure, and needs to talk but most guys have a tough time doing that, so maybe you could set up a father /daughter date and do something he enjoys togehter, it might help with any insecure feelings he may be having , maybe just some one on one time with him is all he needs.maybe you should do some thing different for him, so he feels as special, you could find pictures of you and him, and of your self at different stages of your life and his and make a scrapbook, i made my daughter one , to let her know how important she is and she loved it and shows it to everyone. if you need any help with ideas for the scrap book i would be more than happy to give it, i hope you can cheer him up, and i don't think he meant it to hurt you, he just might need a personal pick me up everyone does now and then, well good luck and i hope it turns better, sincerely cook 96

That's too bad. However..this can happen. Girls are naturally closer to thier mothers..in most cases. Maybe your dad is feeling bad too. Maybe you two can try to rectify the rift between you....it is never too late. Maybe spend more time together and talk..or go for a walk...or anything you two like to do...that is a start. Try not to get upset..just try to fix the situation...good luck.

I feel your pain dear. My father left my mother and my step-father and I have a huge love/hate relationship, more hate than love actually. I do not trust men very much unless it is my geeky guy friends because they know me better than anyone. My mother and I get along great, but I do not give her books or things like that for Mother's Day because I know that that is too much for her. I normally get my mom DVD's, movie tickets, ball game tickets, and funny cards. My mom needs to laugh more than cry right now. She just lost my brother eight months ago, and crying is the last thing most of us need her to do because she has done too much crying already. She also had Bell Palsy when she lost my brother. She went to Hell and back in one year. My mom just needs to live right now.

I can understand that what your Dad said made you feel sad. It was a lovely gift to give your Mom and it would be an even better gift for your Dad, too, because what he was saying was that he didn't think that he had been a good enough father to you to merit 100 pages of thank yous. Now, don't feel sad for yourself. Feel sad for him. He didn't hurt *your* feelings (or intend to) so much as feeling hurt himself by his own inadequacy. It is up to you to tell him in 100 ways just how good a Dad he is, even if you are not that close. I think you can do it.

From what you have written. It sounded to me like you Dad saying he didn't think he had done enough to be there for you, or at least not as much as your Mom. I am not sure why you are crying , From what you wrote it appeared to me you father was reaching out for assurance that you still loved him , weither he had done enough or not.

Perhaps your dad has noticed that you arent as close to him as you are your mother. make fathers day and opportunity to show him that there aren't any blank pages in your love for him, you could turn this into a very positive aspect and a chance to become closer. By the way, I'm a mother and I think what you have just done for your mothers day gift is beautiful, she must really love it alot.

Perhaps something along the lines of... "But most of all, thank you for allowing the opportunity for our relationship to grow and become stronger with each passing day. To fulfill the empty pages that we both long to be filled with love." Cheesy, but hey, it'd work. I don't think your father meant for this to hurt you, sounds like it's also hurting him. Perhaps seeing that gift has caused him some guilt. Work through this together and it's the best gift you can give him. Blessings