Is having a relationship with step brother/sister not allowed? Is it a SIN?

@daryljane (3406)
Philippines
May 14, 2007 6:02pm CST
Here in the Philippines, im watching this soap opera, the story goes like, coupla married each with son and daughter before they met, then eventually, their kids fell in love with each other...and they end up discouraging them, one for shame, 2nd they insist theyre siblings and stuff like... do you think society will not accept this? by blood, they dont have any relationship,,will that be acceptable? while im following the story, i get to think, theyre not siblings so to speak, dont you think its much better that way since they know each other already and that dont have to deal with each other behavior? what do you guys think?
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13 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
15 May 07
Well I don't think it is a sin, they are not blood relatives, so I feel the strong feeling of love if it is true love nothing really matters, except for genetic reasons between immediate family love is the only thing to think about and not man made rules, anyway thats the way I look at it, he get one chance at live as we know it we just have the right to love and be happy.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i fully agree with that lilaclady...thats why it made me a little confuse on the flow on the story.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i know its kinds odd for that situation but we cant stop them if they really love each other right?
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• Japan
15 May 07
I don't think they should marry each other. Its not the idea of being blood related. Its about family relations. If this is ok, you'll get people saying it is ok for an uncle to marry a niece who's not a blood relation. It is just wrong. In marrying someone, you take the spouse's children from former relations as your own. Surely you aren't going to marry your mom/dad's "son/daughter"?
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
15 May 07
You asked if it was a sin? No-one's done anything wrong anyway, they're not related, they would both have 2 different biological parents so their genes would be completely different. I don't think it would actually happen in real life, if you grow up with someone as a brother or sister, you wouldn't feel any different towards them than biological siblings do so the chances of actually being romantically attracted to them is very unlikely. I think you're watching a very fake soap opera & they have very far out & ridiculous story lines :)
• Japan
15 May 07
You get real brothers and sisters doing this kind of thing. I think its called the jerry springer show or something like that. You see real brother and sisters come on air and talk. they end up proposing to each other too. Ok, so they are not related so there're no "in-breeding" problems. However won't there be family problems? We all know a good family environment to grow up in is very important. Step bro and sis marrying each other is an example of family breakdown. Say this happens, eventually after a few generations others will be saying its ok to marry an uncle who's related to the family by marriage. How's that going to make you feel? I wonder what kind of mental state the aunt will be each time she thinks "my husband married my niece?" I expect a step dad who has taken the spouses child like his own, will be thinking "my son and daugther got married!!"
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i respect your opinion there..we all know that soap opera if not mostly of it are all fancy and sometimes things only happens in television shows..they can make a lot of twist in it if they like...thanks for the post..:)
@koikoikoi (1246)
• United States
15 May 07
Well that's a hard one. I really don't know what to say but imagine if it really did happen in real life. I bet its happened somewhere out there already. I think society will accept it but it would still be weird to think about it facing the fact that the mother anf father are together.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
kinda weird and a little funny i guess...parent are married together and kids as well...lolz!
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
15 May 07
I do not think I personally could do it, however it is anot a law against it and there is nothing tying them together bloodwise. If they have kids there will be no risk with the genes - atleast not more than usual. Like i said - it would be strange for me, but I see nothing that couls actually stop them if they wanted to
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i agree...i guess its more on what they feel and maybe e ready for the consequences considering what people will say and being so comfortable able them growing up together...theres really a lot of factors to consider too...but its that what they feel..who are we to stop that right?
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
17 May 07
well in that soap the family is basing things in their religion and what the society will think of it. But love knows no laws and boundaries how do u stop that?
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
17 May 07
i agree with no laws and bounderies..thats why since theyre step brother/sisters..they can still pursue their relationship right?
@farhany (67)
• Canada
15 May 07
If they are not blood siblings as it is suggesting from your notes, I think it then shouldn't be a problem for them to marry since there won't be any inbreeding. However, and as many others have pointed out, just to keep the harmony of the family intact, and for their parents, they should think hard about whether they want to continue with their chosen road and get married. My two cents.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
lols! thanks for that though!
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
15 May 07
I don't think it's something bad on itself since there are no blood ties there....obviously if the two persons grew up together since they were like 3 or 4 years old it'd be a bit weird, because in practice they're as brothers, whereas if they become step siblings at 12 or so, when personality n such is already formed , it would be a bit different. Anyway to each their own.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
an agreeable one too..thanks for that! :)
@evelynlyp (788)
• Japan
15 May 07
It shouldn't be done. A good family live is important. How many people we see that have a messed up family life ends up being messed up themselves. Family is also important for the whole country. If all families are chaotic with no boundaries. What kind of world would it be? They'll be no boundaries in anything either. I see that you are looking at the point of view that theses two persons are not related by blood so its biologically acceptable. However I ask you to look at the parent's point of view. Try to imagine you are a parent. You married a person who has a child from a pervious marriage. You will be accepting that child like your own when you marry your spouse. They grow up and you soon forget the fact that the child ever had another dad. Then one day your real child and your step child comes to you and say they want to get married. How horrified would you be thinking "my son and daughter are getting married?" It is in this view that I do not accept that a step brother and sister should get romantically involved.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
im a parent and if im going to look at the situation..i wouldnt mind...epscially if its my daughter who's marrying my step son..at least i know who my daughter will end up with... as i said, it really varies on how people look at it..thats what you think about the situation, ill accept that. thanks!
@cudgel (216)
• Nigeria
15 May 07
well, let me say their regional beleive (Cultural)will make it either right or wrong. I will hereby bring it down to african culture, where they can not forbid them being friends socialy, but highly restricted to become one. (Husband and Wife). that is african culture for you. besides there are other cultural backgroung which accept this as a free zone for them to operate. So only what could make such right is, their beleive
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
hmm..you have a point there too..its what they believe.
• Malaysia
15 May 07
erm..it actually depends which point of view you're taking.. if you're talking by religion.. then it's definitely not acceptable..as we believe when a couple is married.. they're tied together.. and they become a family.. right? .. so.. family members of course can't get married to one another..but if if you're talking by common sense.. i believe you're right.. they don't have any blood relationship even if their parents are married. .and they have the right to be together.. it's just how people see it.. there's no point asking others opinion.. because there are certain things we human can't accept in our society.. and that's why =)
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i agree with that one too..it really varies on how poeple see it..although there are lots of people who doesn agree with that, but there are some that does too..thanks!
@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
15 May 07
I think it'll depend on at what age they got to know each other, if they were like 10+ already it wouldn't be all that weird I'd say, but if they grew up completely together from the time they were babies it'd be a bit more weird. It'd be like marrying your adopted sister/brother for that matter, no family by blood either but still sort of siblings.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
i guess with the story, the boy i more like 10 and the girl is like 7...
• United States
15 May 07
I say that although they are not blood siblings, I still think that society will say that it's not right. I guess we view things in weird ways. Because they grow up and act as real brother and sisters we treat them how we would a blood related brother or sister. SO.. No i don't think that it's right.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
15 May 07
yeah..thats what the story goes..their parent dont consider theri relationship no matter how much they insist that they dont have blood relation..
15 May 07
Hi there, I think its wrong,dont know about it being a sin thats just a saying that people use, its not right... step or not step, but these days people do what the hell they like so it dont really matter.