forgiveness is greater than revenge!
By deepti15
@deepti15 (1190)
India
May 16, 2007 4:13am CST
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.
Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide.
Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. What do you think?
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18 responses
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
16 May 07
it is unthinkable what the father did to his son just because his truck was damaged. my children never suffered that way from any of my spate of anger. whatever may it be that my kids have done, i still feel my love for them. love should be all encompassing, all forgiving and loving and considerate of the feelings of others.
yes, things that get damaged and destroyed can be repaired and replaced. human beings are more precious than any material thing. broken bones, broken limbs and broken lives are beyond repair...they are irreplaceable. we must respect life at all times for life is a gift that we have to enjoy and not abuse.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
16 May 07
A very sad story indeed. This is right hurting words and revenge is not the right thing and makes us beastly. But it is really very difficult to take revenge. The worst enemy is the anger here, which needs to be controlled otherwise as mentioned above could cause irreparable damage.
@jayjaybagiu (7)
• Malaysia
17 May 07
To all the girls out there...
If your guy accidentally sleep with girl, any girl (ex. girlfriend, GRO...etc), how would you handle it?
How forgiving are you if he comes and beg for pardon?
How forgiving are you if he doesn't come beg for pardon?
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@therishav (93)
• Nepal
16 May 07
Indeed a very sad story & a threatening one. Revenge is not nice and good. The one who forgives is great than the one who takes revenge. But sometimes there is a condition where you must take an revenge . If the person is the kind of the one of bad character then the revenge must be taken. Revenge doest mean to kill,hurt someone it's should be the one that would inspire the one towards better. If you forgive the person might be inspired doing such again and again thinking it wont get trouble to him/her anymore.
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@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
16 May 07
Forgiveness is better than revenge, for forgiveness is the sign of a gentle nature, but revenge is the sign of a savage nature. :)
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@dyenitals (43)
• Philippines
16 May 07
for me, it is better to forgive than to revenge... if a person did something wrong to you, you just let it be... KARMA will usually do its part on the person who did you wrong.. at least your conscience is clean and you did not do anything that would bother you... like the saying goes, what goes around comes around... you let GOD revenge for you and not yourself... and also.. for you to forgive a person, the person must apologize right??? I mean, how can you forgive someone who did not apologize on the first place?? or if the person never apologize then just leave it alone... at least you know you did not do anything wrong... you will never regret on being too kind...:)
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@timou87 (1638)
• Singapore
17 May 07
that this is actually a true story makes me feel very sad, in this stressful world we live in, sometimes all it takes is a little spark to set off all the frustrations and anger that we have been trying to hide all this while. you are right, sometimes we should all take some time to think through what we do or say before we actually hurt someone.
@healwell (1268)
• Ahmedabad, India
17 May 07
This is really a very strange and sad story!
I found here sudden anger, not the revenge! And that anger just made furious the person and he even forgot that the boy is his son!
This kind of anger is really harmful and that's why it is converted in to his suecide!
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@tyuepsc (189)
• China
17 May 07
I am a short-tempted guy.And I really often do things that hurt other guys feeling when I am not in the mood, but after my rage I feel regret to the people I hurt and even apologize sevral times to them. The result is just as what you said 'hurt feelings often can't.' Once i break the relationship ,my friends would never dare to open their whole heart to me again and by and by they will disappear from my life.
@iszo07 (472)
• Malaysia
16 May 07
It’s a very sad sorry indeed. I just could not imagine if it is happening to me – touchwood. And yes, this story should be printed in all major newspapers as a lesson to the people out there that patience is very important in our life.
And I still felt sad for the family…
@tonyleehz (15)
• China
17 May 07
heaven holds the faithful departed !
i don't want to discuss why we should learn to forgive others ,even people hurt you deeply !what i want to say ,when you get the unfair things ,you will think about beat back ,if succeed ,you will satisfy these results ,if not ,the idear of revenge will rush into your mind immediatly !
people who suffer your revenge will also have the same thoughts and action .ok evil idears just like the virus to infect the healthy mind ,inter you will !
now you will find how important to learn the forgivness for a person and also a country !
@henazea (313)
• Kuwait
17 May 07
it is a very sad story..my heart goes out to the poor father..often in anger people do a lot of things they later regret.
@RedRaven (39)
• India
16 May 07
I guess you are right. I always wanted to take revenge to those who marred my childhood.Tenyears passed but still i have angers and nightmares.I never thought of forgiving them, thought i might go back with sucessfull career and money to torture them....nature takes its own toll....they live a shyt life and i was still not satisfied until a guy frm that group search up where i am and send letter.He wants me to forgive him and everyone for whateverr they have done! i thought just because he is a born-again Christian.....but then suddenly i realise for how long he might be searching for me, why? does it haunt him like the memory haunt me and i thght well he gts balls to do that.But as soon as i reply back'I forgive you' everything change.I have no more hard feelings!, no more evil plans to hurt them anymore....i guess thats what u really call letting go of your past and forgivness.
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@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
16 May 07
i couldn't agree more to what you say... you are so right... so many bad things can be avoided if we can just learn to forgive other people's mistake... anyway, we are just human beings and we definitely can make mistake... and we really have to learn to prioritize... which is more important... human beings or material things like in your story... the answer is very obvious... thanks for sharing the story with us and remind us once again to forgive...
@irfan_fatboy (192)
• India
17 May 07
i truly agree cuz when someone takes revenge then there is no differnce between the one taking revenge and the one who is baring the revenge cuz revenge is took only when the one baring the revenge does something that the one taking the revenge does not like and it creates a problem for him. by taking revenge he is not only driving the problem worse but also ruining the relationship when instead he can make it more stronger by forgiving cuz when someone thinks that oh now he will take a revenge on me and suddenly when the expected does not happen and instead he is forgived that makes him suprised and even happy and strenghthens the relationship :)
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
16 May 07
Wow i've never heard of a story like this.It's so sad and the kid apologised? This goes far beyond normal.
I so agree with you to better think twice before doing something.
@skbadhan (879)
• India
17 May 07
ya I am agree to you . non living things such as truck or anything else can be repaired but definately there is no cure if your fellings got hurted. i admit we all do mistakes . about mistakes i would like to say we must learn from others mistakes a person who do mistakes and never learnt from them comitts a bigger one.
