Do you talk about the good things or the bad things in your life??

Many times the bad things come as a result of people feeling like victims. There is great bonding with victimhood. Everybody can complain in the same manner about how they have been wronged. Thus, they don't have to accept responsibility for their lives. This is very common. I have given up that mentality altogether. I only want to focus on the good things and not let the bad things create the feeling that it is someone elses fault. Yes, there are times for complaining, mainly when the service does not equal the cost or vice-versa. But complaining about life in general does nothing to help improve it.

Well i usually never talk about the bad things in my life. If there is anything good going on in my life i mention it but i still dont make a big deal out of it.

when i talk about my life, i talk about both the good things and the bad things that has happened to me and to the family. these two things are entertwined and there is no way that these two can ever be separated. just as the good times are appreciated because there are bad times, too. without the other how will you be able to appreciate one?

I fidn that a lot of people in this country seem to just talk about negative things all the time and spend a lot of time complaining. I find it ubs off on me too and before I know it I'm moaning as well and have got myself into a really bad mood. I much prefer a nice happy positive conversation but they seem really rare these days.

Somebody wise once said thus: "If you want to talk, talk about yourself, or talk about God. The former leads to self-awareness while the latter leads to divine awareness. Talking about anything else is a waste of time." While I can't say that I subscribe completely to this thought, there is a lot of sense to it. There is no point in talking about the good things that are happening to you. People either think that you are boasting about yourself, or they just feel that you are trying to make them jealous. Worse, they might actually become jealous!!!! Neither do I believe in talking about all the bad things that have happened to me. Everyone has their own share of woes and I really hate to add to it, unless I'm feeling really down and am looking for a shoulder to lean on or a patient ear.

i talk about both the things good and bad which are happening in my life

I love to talk about the good things in my life.. but sometimes it just helps to talk about the bad things.. Like venting or just wanting to talk about it.. I don't dwell on the bad.. sometimes its just good to talk about it.. I will not just put it out there to just anyone usually if i have to, its someone i know a good friend or family.. other then that i keep it to myself.. As far as the good stuff i will put it out there cause talking about great things make me happy.. Just like me becoming a grandma again in July.. Yay.. and its another girl.. :)

I will not talk about the negative unless I can turn it into a positive. for example, my father had done some no so nice things to me when I was a child, but I turn my experiences into support for others who have been abused, I can listen and sometimes understand what they have been through. That aside, talk about the good, bring sunshine into other's lives...it is a good deed for the day.

i like to talk about the good things in my life as it is better to leave the bad things behind and forget about them

It does seem as if many people only can talk about the negative things, or if they are trying to be amusing do so about the mocking things. For some it is a way of getting attention, that whole people giving sympathy thing. For some reason we don't tend to hang out and rejoice with the people around us, we are so busy with what ever might be going on in our own lives, and then when something is going wrong people give us some kind of attention, and so people begin to form a pattern of woe is me, or complain about the bad things, since it is something many have in common, and so people focus on that. Some times it is due the the 'excitement' of the bad things. Look at the news, they create a sensationalism over tragedies, but rarely do you see people creating a sensation over something positive. I have heard people say why complain no one will listen, yet it often seems as if with out the negative things going on in their lives creating the dramas, they really don't seem to have anything going on. Ok so maybe there is more to discuss if you go on and on about how unfair or unjust, or how wronged you have been, when the discussion of I won ten dollars on a scratch off ticket, ends with that comment. It seems almost as if people are conditioned to discuss what is wrong. How often do parents send their kids out to play, or kids bring home some kind of picture, or school work and parents spend 5 minutes telling how good it is. But when a kid does something wrong, then parents spend hours either talking it over with them, or giving them some kind of attention that lasts longer over the less than positive things happening in their lives. It seems were being taught from childhood that the negative whether it is being bad, or something going wrong, to upset us or make us angry or sad is what is going to get us the attention we crave from other people. It would be an interesting experiement to both watch and count how many times your friends discuss something negative or positive, and to then only on your part discuss positive things go a week, or heck even a day with out complaining about anything. When I got involved with the man I am with now, I made a point of keeping a list of the things he did during each day that I appreciated about him, and then telling him at some point like every couple of days, or once a week, sometimes it was the small things, sometimes there were bigger gestures, but if you look for the good you can find it. It kept our relationship from being about what was wrong, and focusing on what was right with it. so that when there was something we needed to talk about working on together, we had a lot of positive to really balance it out and make the effort worth while.

I try to focus on the good in my life. I will admit I have been known to complain and whine at times, but I think we all do it once in a while. I dread getting old though. Every single old person (60+) that I know talks about one thing all day long with anyone who will listen and that is their medical problems. Let me tell you, there are some things I could have gone my entire life not knowing. My granny and mother in law talk about their health problems all the time. I swear sometimes it's like they are having a contest to see who can come up with the most health issues. Then they start comparing their medicines and the dosage amounts. It can drive a person nuts. I am going to make my son promise that if I ever start doing that, to bop me a good one on the head. :)

I use to be very negative and did not understand why my sister would rag on me, now I know. It is draining being around people who constantly complain about everything. I know someone who always finds a reason to complain no matter how good the circumstances are.

Yes I know those kinds of people you were describing, and I called those "mourning people". I have a friend like that and all she does is just focusing on every single bad things about her life and most of the time we find that the bad things don't really seem so bad. To be frank, I am tired of talking to her sometimes and I don't want to hang around with people with so much negative thoughts on their heads. I myself would rather focus on the goodies happen in life or basically non-sense laughable stuff. I do talk about bad things in my life with my friends but after I finish the stories, I would turn them into jokes that me and my friends could laugh off and move onto the next topics. I do think daily life maintenance is hard enough and we should all focus on the positive things happen in our lives, just to make us feel easier.

sometimes..when i'm down i use to complain..but when i'm finish complaining i realize that it's not worth it..i just to accept it and move on.. but most of the time i talk about the good things in my life. :)

I would talk about both ..but find that bad things have an edge over the good ones , Good things are very few whereas bad ones are in plenty .

This is a difficult question for me to answer. I think that I certainly was one of those people who always concentrated on the bad. That typically makes other people not want to be around you. I have changed my ways so to speak and am trying only to focus on the positive things in life. Life is much better this way. cheers,

i talk about good things. the bad things that happens, i will deal with it then not talk about it again. why bother filling our life with bad things. talking about them reminding us about it isn't helping.

it's but natural to talk about the bad things that happen to us but it would not really make us feel good (though some people believe that talking about it would make us feel better). personally, i like to talk about the good things in my life because i believe that by sharing them to other people i could somehow make them feel good and help them see the better things in life.

wel i thnk ppl complain because thy r trying to take out their frustration. wen evr somthng bad hppns ppl feel victimised n become frustrated as y it is hppning to us only n by complaining i feel thy r venting out their frustration. evn i complain somtimes wen i m feeling miserable but mst of the times i try to remain positve abt the hppnings in my life.

I'm sure a person would rather talk about the good things in his/her life. But, what we don't know is that these good things are results of the bad things that has happened to us. Bad things are like test or exams. What we don't know at first .....we are obliged to know at the end. We tend to remember them somehow by not repeating the bad things that has happened to us in the past. As a result, we get good results. It's not about focusing on the bad stuff...it's just by being able to recover and stand up despite of the bad things you've experienced. Be proud of the bad...for it's made u a stronger and better person as you are now. Keep it cool... Life is so much wonderful ...looking at the bad stuff as an object for success. For example: