mom shouldering the wedding expenses

I would object it because she should save the money for her future. I believe that his son should know how to earn money and for him to have something to use in the wedding. I think if that is the case, that he will ask his mother to spend for the wedding, then he is not ready yet to have family yet. He is not financially ready which may cause problems in the future.

One never knows what would happen in the future specially when one grows older. I would not have supported the decision, had my mother taken voluntary retirement when we were born.

It's her money, she earned it, she is the one who worked and has made the plans for her retirement. If she chooses to spend it that way it is her bussiness. EXCEPT: If the money she plans to spend on the wedding is not a gift to the bride and groom, if it is suppose to be a loan then talk to her about getting it in writting. ALWAYS get all loans, no matter who to, in writting.

i guess it depends on who i am in the relationship. if i were the son i would fully support her decision planning on paying her back her retirement as it came time. if i were a different family member then it would depend on if i felt that the son would support his mother after her retirement if she paid for his wedding. i fully support family helping eachother at their time of need. and if she were to spend her money now and he spent his later to help her then that would be great, that's what family is for. now if the son is a taker then i would be adamantly against it and advise her strongly to hold onto her money that she needs for retirement and let him decide what kind of wedding he can afford himself. if a couple is truely in love then they don't need an expensive wedding that will be a financial burden on themselves and other family members.

Generous people tend to give what they can afford to give while generous parents seldom think if they can afford to give. They just give everything to make their kids happy. You're lucky to have a generous mom. However, she needs to be taught to understand that her retirement money is for her to be comfortable in life when she no longer have any income apart from her pension. The only person that can make her understand this would be her son. He is the one who can ultimately say no to her. It would be very difficult to get your mom to change her mind so after speaking with her, I would also speak with your brother if I were you. Hope all goes well. :o)

i think it's unfair to use her retirement money for her son's wedding... maybe a portion of it will do... because i think that's only the bonus every employee would get after all the hard work... and the money should be hers to spend for a vacation after retiring... or to be used as investment to start a business that's she would enjoy after the retirement so that she would not be bored after all... i dont think we are still following the tradition these days that only the groom's family will shoulder the expenses... but if they insist, so be it... many of the couples nowadays have their jobs and are already earning... so i dont think it's fair to use the retirement money of the mother for the wedding... :)

As long as Mom can afford it, it is no one else's business what she does with her money. Also, being someone's mother, her children can't really tell her what she can and can not do anyway, so it is her decision, not theirs.

I think that depends on the situation. But in my case, I would object if my mom will do that. Especially if the mother has more children in the family. I think she can retire if she wanted but not because of the money she will get for the expenses of his son's wedding.

I would object. She's got to think about how she will live in the future. What happens if the kids aren't able to earn enough to support her as well? Then she will not be living comfortably. If she really insists though, it would at least be half her retirement. At least she has something to fall back on if no one was able to give her enough to live by.