Message we wish to send to all denied friends, but we couldn’t.

I would love to have this option. I like the one you did up. I'd probably do something similar to that. Something like this: "I'm sorry but at this time I cannot accept you. I have taken a look at your profile, the discussions you have started and the ones you have answered, based on this I doubt we'd be able to aid one another here since I would not be able to answer most of yours and so far you have not responded to mine. I like to be able to interact with my friends, not just have their avatar on my profile page."

my dear, maybe you are right but I accept nearly all people who ask to be my friends. If they turn to be ugly or unkind, then I stop answering to their discussions and to their comments to mine. Well, i keep on remembering the first times when I was a newbie here and didn't know anybody and I met with beautiful people such you and others and i hope I could be the right one for them. But of course seeing that they are so numerous, I cannot imagine to have a close relationship with all of them.time will say if we will become good friends or not. but I do agree with you: I am not here to collecting pictures, but to make good friends just like the one I have in you.

Excellent, this is sooo right! Sometimes I agree to be a persons friend never to see or hear of them again and still feel bad avbout deleting them, crazy isn't it? I rarely deny for a bad reason but at the moment I am trying to work out who I really talk to a lot and would like to keep so I'm wary of taking anyone else on. Sometimes I feel lie agreeing to be their friend, sending the message like you wrote so well nad then dleeting them, lol.

This is a very hard question for me.It's so difficult i denied a friend request.I never did until know.But you are the right one not me.many times after I except the request and I spend time to answer I find didn't worth it but from the other way I find some good friends after I spend time to visit them and visit me throw our discussion and then be friends.Sometimes is better you have little and good friends so i don't ask for friends anymore just i must start thinking twice before I except new. By the way...I'm glad you are at my friend list.

So I would ask what are your grounds for not excepting an invitation. Do you look at how many post's that person makes or how many responses they make or perhaps both. You are on my friend page and I try to respond to what I can. But I don't have the time to create a lot of posts. Exactly what is your criteria for non acceptance or deletion?

I really like yours! Mine would be something like: I'm sorry, but right now I feel I already have too many mylot friends to do them justice, and I really want to be a good friend. So instead of adding friends right now, I'm trying to manage the ones I already have. When I'm ready, I'll keep you in mind. Assuming of course that we talk sometime between now and then, and actually get to know each other a little. I do hope you have a lot of fun on mylot, and that you understand my predicament here! Wishing you the best! Lecanis

I have had this too. I have not been on mylot lately, as the pay system in S.Africa is not valid. I have money on 2 sites and am unable to get it. Not pleasant. However I have found another site which pays by cheque, so I have been looking at this one. It seems like fun. My email is still on for all mylot friends, but there are only 4 that I reply to. One is a lady that could be facing bad news, and I am eager to know that she is ok. The other friend is also from S.Africa, so she does not post much here anymore either. But we have each others email address. The other is a single mum in US. And of course you. I have always enjoyed your discussions, they always seem to be so honest. Plus your love of animals is another thing we have in common. I actually decided last night, I am going to switch the auto email off for everyone other than my 4 favourite friends as I value these friendships. Some things money just can't buy. Take care.

I would want to say that I won't take someone as a friend if they've only been on Mylot for a few days, or only have a few points (maybe less than 100 or even 25). And like you say, if someone hasn't participated in any of my discussions. In fact, I would ask them to take a look at my discussions and if they don't think they would want to participate in them, they shouldn't ask to be my friend.

I don't send 'Dear John' messages. It is not as though we are talking 'real' friendships here and hope to go out for a meal and some 'mattress thrashing' afterwards. haha Come on! Most of my

That is great- Mine would go something like this: I'm sorry- I'm sure you are probably a good person- however I only accept friends with interests similar to mine. After all that is what friends are for- talking, chatting sharing interests- what would we share? I've checked out your profile and although you have made some decent posts- I just can't see myself being able to add quality responses. thank you for your interest and good luck here at mylot. I can't figure out why I get friend request from people that don't answer my discussions (I only ask a few) and that I haven't answered theirs? How do they know me? Why would I accept.

I'm afraid I'm weak in this area. I haven't denied any, but then again I don't get many requests. I have however deleted a few who, as soon as you acept them, you get a sales pitch. That's not my idea of someone looking for a friend, but a customer.

My message would somewhat similar to you...but it will be an edited version... My dear friend, I know that you have asked about my friendship. If I accept you as my friend...I would like you to participate in my discussions and vice versa. I am not collecting people’s pictures. I wish to to make good friends here who could turn out to be more than my real life friends here. So if I accept you as my friend, be there to particpate in my discussions. (POLA, I have taken the liberaty to use some of your words to frame my message, hope you won't mind.- Deepak)

I would probably copy pasted your message, you phrased it exactly how i wanted to write it, it includes everything in it. I know that i had a very bad experience with some of the people that i denied from my friends list, some of them send me a request three or four times, and some of them just want on a revenge trip and rated my discussions with a negative rating, that did me a lot of damage.

i don't have such great thinkings about me...... if someone one to be my friend he/she is always welcome.... it may happen i don't like his discussion topics that much but really his capability of writing a discussion doesn't matter to me while he wants to be my friend !!

Dear denied friends, you are just some. Dont take it too personally. I prefer to contact with people who are near my interests and personality. I am glad that you sent me a friendship requests. Unfortunately some of you are here just for money and the money are not the only factor. Take care and good luck.

I have not denied any friends so far. I hope that everyone who asks to be my friend will be posting back and forth with me... I would say in my message, if you add me or I add you, then please post from time to time and I will also post to yours......

I have denied a few people, for various reasons, if I sent them a note the following reasons would be among them..of course the wording would be friendlier 1) I have read your questions and there are none that I would answer and you have not answered any that I would ask, therefore it would not be beneficial to either of us to become friends, since we have nothing in common. (Usually I find that their questions to be upsetting to me for one reason or another) 2) I noticed the person has been on MyLot for several months, has answered very few questions and has posted very questions, but has hundreds of friends, my guess is this person is going to be sending PM that would be approaching SPAM.

personaly i havent come to that yet, i know maybe i should just denied some of the people, but i cant seem to be able to do that for some reason, i guess i dunno how to say no to them, that is bad huh?

When I get a new friend request, I wonder why they want me for a friend. I go to their profile to see if I can find an answer to this question. I look to see if I may have responded to one of their discussions, or if they have responded to one of mine. If we have not interacted in a discussion, do we at least have some common interests? If so, I am likely to accept them as a friend, as long as I do not see anything abusive or offensive during my visit. If I cannot find any reason why they might have requested my friendship, I would direct them to my discussion, "Why Do You Want To Be My Friend?" http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/940254.aspx where they would have a chance to tell me if there is some reason they would like to be my friend.

Hi. polachicago. I am sorry, but I can't be friends with you, if you don't participate and make any posts at all. I can't accept your friend request because you have not given any feedback to anything on myLot. If you are very inclusive then this would make it hard for me to include you as a friend on myLot. I hope that you enjoy myLot! That would be my message.