to wait...or to make the first move...

All couples are different. I think that it`s normally for people who are together to synchronize their common planes for the future, if any. Some people live as families actually without to sign contract. What is your views about it, the views of your bf? Do you share similar opinions about marriage as official thing? How is your economical status? That`s are just some of the questions what need their reply.

Our basis of getting married shouldn't be of how long your relationship is. We should considered things like our age, our feelings and most specially financially. Are you ready financially? Maybe your guy doesn't mention marriage because financially he's not ready. Or sometimes men who does this were afraid of married life. It wouldn't be wrong if your the first to initiate the discussion because on the first place you're involved in the relationship. Hey girl, don't wait for the water to runs dry. I mean, you got to know what's his future plans because it would also affect yours. It would be for the best of you both.

Talking about it is a mutual thing, it doesn't really matter who brings it up. However, the actual official proposal is the major part of it. I personally think it's the man's job, but some women like doing it, too.

Men think differently as women. It is not shameful for women to bring up the issue of marraige. If not drop a hint and see what his reaction is. If he doesn't give you a satisfactory answer drop him off. Your bilogical clock is ticking and wating for a man who doesn't want a serious commitment will only leave you an old maid later on.

having a long time relationship does not mean that you are meant for each other... i knew someone who are in there 10 years but still they separated. so who knows what will happen next. time doesnt guarantee anyone to be secure. i guess love changes everything but it is still us who choose who we want to be with... i dont want to ask the guy if that would happen. anyway if you fell secure with him then thats it. but i guess its the guy who talk about this thing to a girl. it doesnt mean that if he doesnt talk to you about marriage he dont have plans of marrying you. if he talks about the future and he includes on that plans it means that he is planning both your future. maybe he still dont have plans of settling down or maybe he still have other things to do... if he really loves you and his the one He chooses for you then no matter how long or how far both of you are youll both see each other again...

I agree I think its different from couple to couple. But if you want to go down the marriage route, I think you need to be in tune enough to sense when each other needs to get something off their chest (like broaching the subject of marriage). Im not saying you should be a mindreader to your partner, but usually there is a connection there, its what keeps you together in the first place. I think if your open and honest and want to have a life together that you need to bring the subject up. If being married is that important to you, I dont see why it should be a taboo subject. At least you will know, one way or the other where you stand.

If it was on my mind I'd bring it up. Who says it's always his job to initiate the first step? If a woman wants to talk about it, I think she should bring it up, and keep the relationship on an equal footing between the two partners.

Well, i think i wouldnt open my mouth and ask him about it... Perhaps i will drop hints, but i wouldnt say it openly as to me, i still think that i need my guy to propose and make it a romantic affair... Saying it myself is like, i cant wait to get married to him... I mean though we are together, but i still wants the guy to make the first move... Sounds like im not a 21st century woman ya? Keke... I guess im still quite old age... Coz i prefer guys doing all those that they should...