Arrange Marriage Vs Love Marriage
By manu619
@manu619 (450)
India
4 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 May 07
well I am not a guy nor do I live in a country that believes in arranged marriages. So there is only one choice for me. However we do have people from all over the world and some of those people still have arranged marriages.
One of my friends is a canadian Indian, and her parents sent all the way to India for a wife for her brother. The brother never met the girl before. It turned out well they met married and fell in love. My friend Ashi had an arranged marriage herself but the man already live here in montreal.
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@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
20 May 07
It is really hard to say which one will last. Although, I think the arranged marriage will last longer than love marriage because those people always have the obligation to stick together because it looks good in the eyes of the family or it is because your parents arranged it and you don't want to disappoint them.
Love marriage doesn't last because people fall out of love easily just like they can fall in it. But, I guess only a person can decide what is good for them and what's not.
@headhunter525 (3548)
• India
20 May 07
I think it depends on culture. The culture which I come from is full of love marriages. We hardly have arranged marriage, maybe just one or two... or something like. But we hardly have divorce cases. I have seen arranged marriages that end up in divorce, but there are also lot of love marriages that end up in divorce. But if the society is a civilised society that knows the importance of family as the basic building block of civilisation then there is a strong possibility of marriages going strong whatever it may be, arranged or love marriages.
@gasmas100 (585)
• India
9 Jun 07
ive seen most arranged marriages successful than love marriages........as u may feel that u love the other perosn and can adjust and do anything for them in love initially-but not so as time passes by.
also u are solely reponsible for a failure in a love m,arriage, unlike an arranged marriage
@mystery5 (350)
• India
8 Jun 07
Whether a marriage is successful doesn't depend on whether it is a love or an arranged one, but on how much each person is willing to adjust. Everyone I know wants a love marriage, but very very few of these actually know how to judge people. For this reason, a lot of people 'fall in love' with the wrong people and mess up their lives.
This is not true love at all, because true love involves understanding a person completely and still loving them with all their faults.
Arranged marriages are also often messed up, because parents hardly communicate with their children and don't know what kind of a person they are, and what kind of a partner they should have. They are more busy looking at the status and money of the family. This is where they end up pairing the wrong people.
In my opinion, to maximise the chances of having a successful marriage, parents should have a very good rapport with their children.
In case of love marriage, children should discuss their love with their parents, in which case the parents will be able to truly assess the prospective person. In case of arranged marriage, the child can communicate to the parents what kind of person he/ she wants, and even otherwise, they know their child well since the relationship is good. It sounds unreal, I know, but I have seen cases like this, and it really works out.
