relationships

Canada
May 18, 2007 10:27am CST
I am sure that many of you mylots have gone through or are going through relationship struggles. I am. once again! Man, when will all of this stop. someone once told me that in order to be free from such pain, find yourself. Well how old does someone have to be before they find themselves, give me a break! I feel sometimes that our world has changed so much, concerning the affairs of the heart, that some(so many) just choose to be alone these days. I find this very sad. Not for myself, but for all humanity. I truly feel that this is not the way the spirits that guide us all wish for it to be, that darn self-will we have been given sure can mess things up. Today, is just another day. Tonight I am going to pick up some cloth's from the ex. Man, is he angry, selfish and self-centered. I am in great fear over this. I wished yesterday that i could just wake up and this nightmare would all be over. Well, I am awake and it is still taking place, i guess it was not all a dream after all.
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rckayla09
@rckayla09 (113)
• United States
20 May 08
heartandsoul, Yes going through a divorce or break up is a nightmare that never seems to end, but it is not a matter of finding yourself but more like loving yourself (faults and all). Because if you don't love YOU, nobody else will. It sounds to me like you're better off living your life WITHOUT the selfish and self-centered ex! So please remember that bad things do happen in our lives but we can get through those times better than ever :) I speak from heartbreaking past experience; I am now happily married a second time. Hold your head high knowing YOU have a lot to offer, and give to, another person in the future! Totally understandable to be fearful during your relationship crisis. But please know that you're not alone in this world in how you are feeling, and maybe this knowledge will help you not be in such fear of an unknown future without your ex. The BEST is yet to come...
michelledarcy
@michelledarcy (5220)
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18 May 07
It sounds like you need to take each day at a time. Make a list of the things you need to do in order to get your life sorted out. Work through it as slowly as you need to, don't feel in a hurry to start again. I wish you lots of luck with collecting your clothes tonight. Just try to block out your feelings for a while and get on with the job. You can get upset later when you are alone. You don't want him to see you in a state, it is better to be strong. If you put up an appearance of being strong and getting on with your life then you will start to believe yourself that you are coping well.