Do you forgive if somebody asks for forgiveness!!!

I'm pretty forgiving if the person is truly regretful and changes their behavior. Even if they aren't and don't, I seldom hang onto any anger toward them. It does no good and causes me ill. Holding a grudge does nothing but harm. So I don't.

Wow is this a hard question! I've written several answers now only to delete and start over each time, because what I wanted to say wasn't coming out right. The idea of forgiveness is something I struggle with a lot. I don't want to be a person who holds petty grudges, and I don't think I am. I easily forgive people for minor things: talking behind my back, losing or breaking my possessions, things like that. However, when it comes to the big things, I sometimes believe that forgiveness is not appropriate. I have a major belief that some manner of taking responsibility for your actions is inherant in the human experience. I consider consequences before I take action, and calculate possible harm to other people, myself, and the world. If you do something that accidentally harms someone else, or hurts their feelings, and it couldn't have been foreseen, that's one thing. But intentionally inflicting harm on someone else... why should they forgive you? Shouldn't perhaps the relationship with that person be the cost of your action? Continuing to waste time on abusers isn't something I wish to do with my life, and I wouldn't expect it of other people either. When there are so many wonderful people out there in the world, why does every day someone say to me that I should repair relationships with people who nearly killed me, totally messed up my mental health, and basically made the first 18 years of my life horrible?

Oh yes I can forgive someone without even being asked. If I cant forgive a person and they ask me to please forgive them and I cant I will tell them I can not forgive you. I dont believe in lying and telling them Oh sure I will forgive you. NO thats not right. I am a very very forgiving person. Have a great day.

If they are sincere in wanting forgiveness than after a little consideration I will forgive them, but tell them that if they do anything again to upset me or break my trust I will never be able to forgive them again. Sometimes it really depends on what they did to me, that decides for me whether I will forgive them or not. If someone has stolen from me, than it's most likely that I will never forgive them or trust them again. If it was something as small as talking badly about me behind my back than as long as it don't happen again than I will forgive them.

No one is perfect ,So i will forgive anybody for anything they do. As if i'll keep any grudge against anybody it will ruin my life as i will burn from inside in the fire of revenge.I gives a peace of mind after forgiving some one

I forgive anybody and everybody no matter what they have done to me. I really like moving forward as you now me:-) there isn't any point keeping resent for anyone. Remember, life is too short to hate or to be resentful. The crimes against society can be dealt with law enforcement agencies. I hope you got my point..LOL.

To err is human, to forgive divine all the best urban

If they are genuine, then yes - but I don't encounter people who ask for forgiveness very often. I usually find people who have the most to apologise for end up twisting things to make thme look good, and those who have nothing to apologise for end up being the ones asking for forgiveness. It really depends on the personality types.

I'm still learning the concept of forgiveness. I don't find it hard to just laugh some things off if I know or I think it's unintentional. But if I find it intentional I can't find peace without getting even first. You see in the first case, there is nothing to forgive and in the latter, getting even is more important to me than forgiving - so really there is not much about forgiving in my life. This is why if I make mistake and ask for forgiveness, I don't expect much from those I wronged. But then if I wrong someone who wronged me, I won't ask for forgiveness in the first place, to me it's even. I find forgiveness as the hardest lesson in life, maybe one day before I die I can see the point of all this.

It really has to depend on what they did for me to give someone forgiveness...even if they aren't asking directly to me, but they are asking for everyones forgiveness...say, a child killer. I would never forgive them, not in a million years. But if it was something like a friend lying to me (depending on what they lied about) I could see myself forgiving them. But only if I know they are truely sorry.

If someone that hurt me, ask me to forgive them, I would/do. Things probably wouldn't be the same between us as they were before, depending on what they had done...but by forgiving them I would feel better and I'm sure they would too. And I do question the person who is asking for forgiveness, to see weather or not they are being sincere.

Hi, I think it all depends on what they did. I would truly like to always forgive as it is just a healthier state of mind. Carrying around bitterness and feelings of revenge only serve to hurt yourself. Nevertheless, if it was something very bad such as a physical crime against your loved ones, I do think it would be very hard to forgive. I am just not that good a person I am afraid. cheers

hello again ! :) Aha i started this kind a topic few days ago without knowing u already had a discussion about this 10 months ago well :) um,what actually happens with me is that i am very sensitive and if i am sincere with someone then obviously i expect the same from others and if i dont get it usually i get disappointed or sumtymes really it hurts... if sumone has hurt me without knowing or realising my feelings,then i just try to say that person once that u have dont this and it really affected me a lot :) thats it.wether i say this in a good mood or in an angry way depends..but usually i say by putting up pranks and taunts,but once i said this thing and let the person know what he/she did then i am free and light hearted :) wether than that person aplogized or not,wether he considers my complain or not,i dunt care ,i just get peace by sayin once to that person of what he did :) and than my heart becomes fully clean,and usually i forget things very soon :) I myself do many things which i think is bearable between friendz but all people dont take it as u do :) some are reserved as well,some people dont forgive as easy as u think to have :) but in my case,i forgive people if just they talk to me normally in a good mood and just passes a smile than em all hers/his :) ..and so far if i am kind in this case then obviously i expect this from others too and when i dont get this i get disappointed :) and trust me people are very diplomatic :) once they will forgive you but they will never ever make their hearts clean froever :) and will neva get normal and sincere with you :) and thats my experience ...i have found moret han 90% people like this:)

well it is hard for me to forgive someone who has done me wrong . i mean i can forgive it depends on how sincere they are in there apologies to me and even then if i dont believe them i want them to show me how sorry they are for hurting me. i need physical proof for alot of things because you can't jus go on peoples words these days, because if you forgive them easily who knows if they will hurt you again and they may think well she/he will for give me all the time it doesnt matter how bad i hurt them or if i hurt them

Forgiveness is hard when the deed is really harsh. If I feel the sincerity in an apology, I would choose to forgive that person, and by an apology, I mean including an explanation why the deed was done to me.

I guess this is one of the toughest situations to handle for someone like me whose heart melts so quickly when someone begs for forgiveness in front of me. It might have never occurred that someone asked for forgiveness and I didn't forgive him. I always give a second chance to someone who's guilty of his/her mistakes and is ready to accept a second chance. What I don't appreciate is forgiving someone on my own esp when someone isn't even ready to say sorry or repent for their wrong doings. :(

yea, sure, I should forgive everyones. I'm not perfect human being, I also do mistakes to others whether I notice or not. I hope everyones will forgive me, so I must forgive everyones. If I've done something bad to you, hope you forgive me kay :) tata wait, hello everyones, please consider to forgive me kay!

I can easily forgive people: for one, they took time to beg forgiveness which is hard to do in this proud world but when it comes to the part "no matter what they have done", if it is too grave, it will probably take time for me to deal with it, but I will deal with it for sure. It's not right not to forgive at all. We all have our own sins known or unknown and God said, if we don't forgive, we will not be forgiven. It's in Matthew 6:14-15. Although I cannot guarantee, per my human capacity to understand the evildoers sometimes, I believe what God said.

Honestly, I find it easier to forgive, when people ask for it. The reason is they are accepting the responsibility for what they have done, and they realize that it hurt me. Its much harder when they don't ask for forgiveness (especially if it really hurt me), thats my weakness.

interesting q there ..! often i like forgive ... i prefer forgiving without asking what and why of anything ... somehow i cant ask a single q when a person apologizes i like to believe one is trustworthy while apologizing .. in case there is no interaction with the person after something has happened, i keep feeling bad about why did it have to happen .. in the course of time i do forget ...but when reminded i dont like it i can get along with a person if i meet him / her long after the mistake is made and not even asked for forgiveness i think i kind of read minds ...i thiiiiink ! personally i like to b forgiven without having to apologize ! i guess thats why i practice it too... more over life isnt all that serious ... theres hardly anytime for patch ups ..what if we dont see tomorrow ?! its here today and there tomorrow ! how does it matter even if people make mistakes ? ..sounding crazy ...am i ??!